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Love has always been a double-edged sword.
Good love can heal your life; bad love needs to be healed in a lifetime.
What you entrust is not human is a harm, and wishful thinking is also a harm.
The only way to not be hurt in love is to find the person who gives his true heart like you, and they are in love with each other and in harmony.
But in many cases, love is like a flower in the mirror and a moon in the water. Even if it seems beautiful, it may not be what it is.
People’s hearts are unpredictable, and people are good at disguising themselves. In order to avoid being hurt in their relationship, it becomes extremely important to learn to recognize others’ sincerity.
Men are rational, afraid of trouble, and just want to live a peaceful life; women are emotional, noisy, and especially like to make trouble.
If a man shows truth or falsehood in his interests, then a woman must show sincerity in trouble.
A woman has the following three behaviors after making trouble with you, which proves that she loves you very much and must cherish her when she meets such a girl.
01 If you get angry, you won’t say “harsh words”, for fear of hurting you
“Zengguang Xianwen” has a sentence:
“A good word warms up in three winters, and a bad word hurts people in six months.”
The seemingly light words often have stronger lethality than swords.
People find it difficult to control their emotions when they are angry. At that moment, everyone's reason will be suppressed by anger.
The burning anger rushed straight into the forehead. Everyone forgot their past love and just wanted to fight for a win or lose, so the language became the strongest sharp blade.
quarrels and injuries are common things happening between couples. It seems to be an impulsive behavior, but it will have a very serious impact on the relationship between the two.
The broken mirror cannot be reunited, and even if it is reconciled, it will never be able to return to the past.
Every hurtful word I said during a quarrel is constantly replayed in my mind like a videotape. When you are happy, when you occasionally have small conflicts, it will inexplicably thread into your mind.
After a long time, a gap has arisen between you, and you can no longer fall in love with each other as before.
As the saying goes:
"What you say is like splashed water, you can't collect it anyway."
The damage caused by words will not gradually disappear with the passage of time, but will instead become a time bomb in life.
If a woman is quarreling with you, she never hurts others even if she gets angry, then it proves that she is not having a good temper, but is afraid of hurting you from the bottom of her heart.
She knows the lethality of language and the huge sequelae it can bring. She is not unhurried, she is just trying to restrain herself.
She doesn't want to hurt you because of being angry for a moment, nor do she want to destroy your relationship because of uncontrollable emotions.
Women are born with sensuality. A woman who can still control her words with rationality must be because of love when she is extremely angry.
02 No matter how fierce the quarrel is, it is not Cold War , afraid of affecting your relationship
Guli Nazha once admitted on the show that she was a person who particularly likes the Cold War. She has always adhered to the principle of "the enemy does not move, I do not move". The highest record was that she had a cold war with her boyfriend for 60 days, and in the end, the two sides broke up by default.
Faced with such a marriage attitude, she never felt anything wrong, and even said a little proudly:
"I have never said it when it comes to the Cold War!"
This is probably the coldness of a beautiful woman, with a strong self-esteem and unwilling to bow her head.
Hemingway once said:
"Everyone needs someone to talk to him openly and honestly. Although a person can be very heroic, he may also be very lonely."
When a conflict occurs between couples and each is in a cold war state, their hearts are lonely.
At this time, they need to communicate, use words to understand each other's true psychology, and find the most suitable solution.
If the two people remain silent at this time, they will not only miss the opportunity to communicate, but also make the conflict between the two people more uncontrollable.
Cold War is like putting an otherwise hot heart into the refrigerator. Over time, it will cool down little by little until it is completely frozen.
to the end, there is no way to warm it up again.
The lethality of the Cold War is gradual, and no one can end it in the end.
A woman takes the initiative to launch a cold war when she has a conflict with you and looks unwilling to compromise at all, which can only prove that she does not care about this relationship very much.
The same is true. If a woman is quarreling with you, no matter how fierce she is, it proves that she cherishes the relationship between you very much.
Even after a quarrel, even when both parties are angry, she is unwilling to ignore you, let alone be ignored.
quarrel is one thing, but the attitude after the quarrel is another.
03 will take the initiative to give you a step, afraid of losing you
I saw such a video online, a couple had a conflict due to trivial matters in life, and the wife threw down her apron and said she was unwilling to cook for her husband. The husband said he could order takeaway, and the wife said she was unwilling to be outdone and said that she wanted to go out to eat.
But after a while, there was a knock on the door outside. The husband opened the door and found that it was his wife. She was carrying a lot of packed food and said to him, "Your takeaway has arrived."
The two looked at each other and smiled, all the unhappiness turned into clouds.
The elderly often say:
"The husband and wife have no overnight hatred."
The couple quarrels are just "quarrels at the bedside and at the end of the bed", but all this also depends on the attitude of both parties.
are willing to give each other a step. No matter how big the conflict is, there is always room for resolution.
But if one party is too stubborn and is unwilling to bow his head at all, things may turn into another state.
Most women are arrogant in their relationships. They prefer men to bow their heads and admit their mistakes first and be used to being coaxed by men.
If a woman doesn’t care about her own face at all and is willing to give you a way out when you have a conflict, it can only prove that she is afraid of losing you.
How come she has no temper? How can you not get angry after you quarrel? But she knows that all emotions are not as important as you.
04
In this world, family affection is innate, only love and friendship are our own choices.
Although the relationship chosen by yourself is based on love and appreciation, it is not traction from blood, and it is often full of the risk of dispersing whenever you say it.
No matter how loving two people have conflicts, their relationship will fall into crisis. If they are handled improperly at this time, the two people who were once in a foul may be strangers.
As for how to deal with it, it depends entirely on their attitude towards this relationship.
Whether a woman is sincere or false to you is hard to judge when she is loving, but as long as she quarrels, the result will be obvious.
I am Ying'er, an original creator who focuses on the field of emotions.
