What I said today is not good at listening to me, just uncheck me. I have never spoken publicly about such a useful thing. Very nice.
First of all, all women, including unmarried, married, second-married, and third-married. It doesn't matter. If you want to chase men high, don’t look for them in a low way. What's the meaning? It means you have to learn to filter out those men who seem to be deeply affectionate with you, but in fact they are just those who are very enthusiastic about you for several years.
I know you are looking for someone with high emotional value. Can coax people. But I tell you, you should beware of this kind of men. You can enjoy his sweet words. But you can't be without any precautions.
Why? It is very simple, clever words make you look very kind, and you can use emotional value to frame you. Then harvest you crazy. After the hormones ended in the last few years, I broke up. Let me tell you that there are many men who have your problems. Today I will teach girls who have come into contact with this type of person.
All the pitfalls in my life are given to me by those who say good things by my side. The kind of person with a big temper, willfulness, joy, anger, sorrow and happiness on his face is the same as , Wang Xiaofei, and , but the person who will help me later.
understand. Because when a person wants to get something white from you. Only then will he use his brain to modify the words in his mind and say what you want to hear.
A man is so good at speaking, understands your mind, tolerate you so much, and lets you think about it, or he has a big brain capacity and is very good at dealing with rhetoric. Or he was trained out by countless women. I can control you, the novice, and be at ease. Or he has undergone that special training. You know.
so if you want to chase high, you can't look for these men. They are a sweet burden on your life journey. And it's also a sweetness with time limits.
When you block these men, then you will be chasing them. I borrow a sentence from Buffett , that is, if you want to be a winner, you must strive with the winner.
so if you are 20 years old, you can meet a few more powerful men. By communicating and working with them, you can subtly learn a lot of ways of thinking about solving problems from them. These people don’t need to give you money or resources at all. You have learned some core qualities and can get better and better by yourself.
You must understand that the reason why powerful men are very powerful is because they have mastered the thinking and insight that most people do not have. This is their advantage in overthrowing most of them.
So if you feel that your current thinking, vision and pattern are not strong enough to see more scenery that people cannot see, then you need to rely on a man stronger than yourself to lead you spiritually.
Don’t think I’m teaching your power or teaching you to make money from men. Sorry, I don't agree with such values. And the layout is too small. You get a bag and a house from a man. Not a skill. You have to learn from him that you can live a life of your life. This is something for a lifetime.
So how should I do it?
The first point is to expand the social circle.
An old consultant said, I can't find such a good one. My conditions are not good, I am married for the second time, I am raising children, if you think so, then you will never be able to become a strong woman.
Because you are framed by many realistic rules set by senior management to harvest ordinary people. If you abide by these rules and believe them, then you will never dare to do something that breaks through yourself in your life.
so no matter what your actual conditions are, you should have the courage to show yourself. The advantages are not displayed and greater exposure is not achieved. Then those who appreciate your strengths will also be frogs in the well. Does it mean nothing to understand?
What you need to do is to meet more people. Contact more people. Open up your cognitive dimension. You can contact us first before you can filter.
The second point is to do things sincerely
Be sure to remember that when facing a man who is much better than you, your only and biggest bargaining chip is sincerity.This is particularly important in advanced social circles, and it is the accumulation of your reputation alone.
Excellent men are old people. Don’t think that you are awesome and just talk to others for a few words, and others can buy your account.
I tell you about adult social interaction, especially those excellent men who have been struggling all the way. They always focus on one thing, which is what real value you can bring to him.
Although youthful and beautiful appearance are valuable, if you think about how many years you can be younger, you will still expect that you will not get tired of seeing you for three to five years.
So when you want to chase high, the most important thing is to show your beauty and your kindness and gentleness. Another thing is to do things. You want to let him see what you are doing and how you are doing. Then let him teach you how to do better. How to make it better. Even let them give you resources and support. Help you do better. Then you reward them with the same benefits.
When you can see and be recognized by them in your work, you will naturally gain the recognition and true respect of this man.
I never encourage those clever routines, because as a man, I understand very well. That kind of cleverness will only be useful to ordinary men. Any good man. There is no fool.
The third point is to judge the situation.
Smart and sober girls have one common characteristic, which is that they are good at judging the situation. They are clear about what to do, what to say, and what the price is.
But remember, it is not to let you flatter, but to learn to know how much you weigh in and find your value position in different occasions and different situations. Then say something reasonable and comfortable.
Excellent men pay great attention to time costs. If you talk a lot of things all day long, vent your negative emotions.
Then even if there is valuable information in your words, he will only regard you as a little girl who is not clear about it. In this way, he will not respect you from the bottom of his heart. Do you understand?
I will give you an example and you will understand. Mr. Liu married milk tea sister , not only looking at young and beautiful people. But there are three values that he particularly needs in milk tea.
I remember when I was watching an interview before, Mr. Liu said something that he envied Li Guoqing can marry a wife who can help him do his career. When I watched this interview, I remember Mr. Liu was still single.
So the first value of milk tea sister is Tsinghua 's high education, which makes Mr. Liu feel that milk tea has this basic intellectual conditions that can help him.
The second value is that I don’t know how you used JD Mall , but I only downloaded JD after I learned about Milk Tea Sister. So her second value is to have a high popularity and topicality. It can help the company gain better popularity.
The third value is that it completely helps Mr. Liu in the moment of crisis public relations. It is the ability to judge the situation. At that time, Mr. Liu encountered some bad things.
Milk tea stands on my husband's side by judging the situation. Then he kept his face for JD.com and President Liu. If I had married a stupid woman at that time, it would be very likely that I would have sex, knowing that my husband had cheated, and then falling into the murderous mentality, then crying, making a fuss and hanging. Then Mr. Liu was tired. There is a crisis outside and a crisis at home.
So, the ability to judge the situation is not just that you have such thinking ability in your relationship. It also requires you to have this ability in society. Because you won't keep going well and won't keep getting the upper hand.
When you are in trouble and when you are not going well, you should judge the situation and speak and do things. It will help you get out of the trough faster.
The fourth point is, you must be stable enough.
Whether it is chasing high or maintaining long-term relationships. Being able to control one's emotions is the most important thing. Kazuo Inamori said that the weak are irritable, and the strong are peaceful. A person with a stable mentality means that he has strong ability to delay and meet .
This is precisely because of delayed satisfaction that we will not care about the gains and losses in front of us, but we can see the things in the next three to five years or even ten years later.
No matter whether you are looking for the right person now, it doesn’t matter. You want to take back the dominance of your life. You must put your current experiences, setbacks, and problems into the long river of your life.
If you live to one hundred years old. What are you anxious about in the next few years or ten years? Why are you unstable? What are you doing when you are afraid of losing? Yesterday's experiences have become what you are today. This man will ignore you for the current matter. That's nothing. Take it off by way of method. Then learn experience. You are stupid. You have to conquer his yarn. You have to know how to use him.
last point, actively create value.
Whether it is socializing upward or chasing high. The best way is to actively create your value, which is simple and direct.
Because excellent people are very busy, don’t think about making a fuss. The underlying logic of social interaction between people is value exchange, and it has to be value that others don’t have. If you give it to them, this will make him love you.
So before you want to get something from others, think about what the other person needs and think from the perspective of others.
Find the point that you can provide value and knock on his door, giving the other party a reason to have to choose you, don’t always think about taking advantage, people who can get advantage by you are not really powerful people.
So when you get along with an excellent man, always remember a principle, play less routine, take the initiative to make money, and find out the reasons for yourself if there is a problem. First, let him see your sincerity and character, so that you have the opportunity to continue to show his value.
is a bit of a bit of emotion in advance, complaining, making demands, and ruling blame. This will only attract men who are not high-quality and who want to order you. And a truly good man will only stay away from you. Do you understand?
Psychological test: Test the words your ex wants to say to you most
1. Do you quarrel over trivial matters when you are together?
Yes, I often feel very tired —2
rarely argues over trivial matters —2
Occasionally, but I can make up soon —3
2. Do you think you are a person who likes to reflect on yourself and is willing to correct your mistakes?
is —3
is not —4
3. Will TA take the initiative to tell you about your troubles?
often says - 5
doesn't say much - 4
4. Will you tell your parents about the process of your love?
, and often complain to my parents. —6
, occasionally, they will talk about it when they ask. —5
, hardly say it, there is nothing to say —5
, there is nothing to say —5
5. How much energy are you willing to spend to get what you want?
Everything goes with the flow, it’s mine after all, it’s mine —7
Work hard, maybe you can succeed —6
Try your best, I have to get everything I want —B
6. Is it because a third party appeared?
Yes—A
No—7
7. Has the other party contacted you actively after breaking up?
Yes—D
No—Ch
