In love, there are always people who like to test each other.
Because I am afraid that the person I meet is not so reliable, and I am worried that the person I fall in love does not really love me, or in other words, I do not trust the current relationship.
So, they will come up with various methods to test the other party and see if the other party can pass the test.
It seems that only when the other party passes the test can you be more at ease and feel that the other party is the person you are looking for.
In this process, I hope that the other party can withstand it, but I am always worried that the other party can't stand it at all.
The whole person is often very distressed and contradictory.
Testing a person seems to be a very necessary thing. After all, feelings are a lifelong thing, which is related to your future life, but in fact, it is really not good.
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1 and
have watched an episode.
A girl, when she was in love for the first time, she liked that man very much, but the other party carried her on her back and was with other women. After the breakup, she was still unable to get out and dared not trust anyone easily.
Therefore, she rejected many people. It was not until I met a man who really felt good about her and who was really good to her that I started to look in love again. After falling in love again, the other party treated her very well, but she was always very uneasy, and then she began various tests.
First, she asked her best friend to take the initiative to add to the other party and showed goodwill in various ways, but her boyfriend ignored her and she was very satisfied.
Then he said that something happened to his family and he urgently needed some money. The other party didn't say anything and called her directly.
to this level, she was still worried and thought that the child could best test a man, so she pretended to have a child and wanted to see if the other party was willing to take responsibility.
As a result, the man was very happy and arranged it directly and asked his mother to come and take care of her.
also said that he wanted to marry her quickly and prepared a house for the child.
Everything seemed to be going well, and she was very glad that she seemed to meet the right person. But just as the two families began to discuss the marriage, the man's mother discovered that she was pretending to be pregnant and had no children at all.
At the same time, her boyfriend also knew about her previous tests.
She said she was also afraid of meeting someone wrong, but she no longer had these concerns, but her boyfriend just felt very painful, said that he could not accept her deception, and said that he thought she was terrible, so he resolutely proposed to break up and chose to leave.
02,
In real life, many times, a relationship cannot withstand too much trouble.
finds ways to test a person. It seems that we hope that the other party can withstand the test and finally stand in front of us. In fact, once we have such thoughts, problems have already arisen and cracks have already appeared.
tests the other party. If the other party withstands it, we will seem unbearable and we are sorry for the other party's affection.
And even if the other party holds it, we will not be relieved because of it. We will only feel that it may be a lucky person. In our hearts, we will often have the intention to continue testing and will not stop at all.
will always want to test it. No matter how many times you test it, you will not feel satisfied and will still want to do it again.
What's more, there is no airtight wall in the world. Once the other party knows the truth one day, when the other party finds that we don't trust him at all and the method used is too excessive, he will be very angry, and then he feels that we are too scheming and too unreasonable.
will be frustrated and be suspected like this. I will also begin to feel that my liking is a joke.
will instantly lose the favorable impression of us and will not dare to believe us anymore.
At the end, we will really lose each other.
If the other party fails to withstand and fails to pass the test, we will feel that the other party is not sincere enough.
However, that was just pushing the other party away by himself.
Human nature cannot stand the test. In the face of absolute temptation, no one is really a saint.
03,
Like a person, it is really not recommended to go through various tests. There is no need to use time, distance, other people, money, children, and other means.
Don’t test it, just make judgments while getting along.
See what kind of person the other person is, how they feel when they get along with each other, and whether it is worth keeping going.
thinks it is OK, so love it. If not, don't force it.
Is the other person okay? Is it worth our love? I really don’t need to use anything else, the other person’s words, the other person’s behavior, every detail in getting along with each other, and every detail in it has been clearly told to us.
Believe in your intuition, and don’t use some not so open-minded means, and don’t involve others.
Trust between two people is very important and cannot tolerate too much deception.
You should comfort yourself and not always let the innocent other party bear it and pay the bill.
That's really aggrieved.
04,
In life, we have never known what will happen tomorrow. We have no way of knowing where the relationship between
and that person will go in the future.
When the future is always so unpredictable, we really don’t have to think too much. Just cherish the present, be loyal to the moment in front of us, have less suspicion, have more trust, and feel the time we were with each other.
Experience this process carefully. If you can get married smoothly and be harmonious, you will always be together.
If you can’t walk one day and you feel very painful, then just separate.
There is no need to worry about things that have never happened. There is no need to think about some bad possibilities, and imagine the other party very badly.
Testing a person for no reason is really just looking for trouble.
Later, no matter whether the other party has not been tested or has undergone a test, it is difficult for each other to have a good result.
asks for trouble.
Disgusting the other party will also hurt you very much.
text/Tan Meng
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