She has a position in his heart, and you also have a position in his heart, and this is not conflicting. This kind of thing requires thinking from the perspective of others. Can you completely forget your past? He always mentions it, which is actually a good thing. He praises her and how it is. In this way, you will know what kind of girl he likes and will also know his preferences. If you really want to be with this person and recognize him, you must be more tolerant so that he will love you more.
I will forget because this woman loves this man deeply, and I did not say that this man also loves this woman. If it is just a woman's unrequited love, even if she takes her heart out, the man may turn a blind eye and even thinks that the woman's entanglement is unreasonable. You should know that some feelings will really touch the sky, the earth, and even touch yourself, but you really can't touch you.
Reasons that they will not forget: they love each other deeply, but they are separated for various reasons. This kind of relationship is the most heartbreaking. A friend of mine, he and his girlfriend were in their first love. At that time, he left in anger because he was young and angry because of a little quarrel. In fact, they both loved each other at that time, but they just couldn't stand it and were unwilling to apologize first and finally broke up. More than ten years have passed. Whenever I get drunk, my friend will always hold his head and cry, talking about her. "The water flows even more when you draw a knife, raise a cup to relieve sorrow and sorrow. The word "love" is so hard." Indeed, feelings may be as true as written in the song, and some people have been burdened with this for the rest of their lives.
Experience is part of a person, and the current state of a person is completely composed of all the past experiences, especially for such major events, you will not be the one you are now even if you are a little bit wrong.
If you love someone, what you love is what he is now. Of course, all the love of him includes past emotional experiences. If there were no one who made him love deeply, he would not be the current him, and you might not even be able to meet together.
Girls always like humorous, mature, and boys who understand the worries of girls. When they meet such a person, they start to dislike his emotional experience. I hope he has never been in a relationship before.
But have you ever thought that men and women are completely creatures from two different planets. If he had not been with other girls before and without the polishing of these emotional experiences, how could he look like you now?
must have had those men who had emotional gaps before, and they were cautiously telling crappy jokes to please you, but you did not hesitate to send them good people cards.
So people are actually quite contradictory. In the final analysis, one word is greedy. You want the moon, but you think it’s too little to have less than sixpence. You feel uncomfortable no matter what, you can’t get along with yourself.
What's more, what you want is not essentially a high-end thing like the moon or love, but just to satisfy your ugly possessive desire and fill the empty sense of security in your heart.
If you feel that if you love someone, you have to get everything he has. There is no other woman in his mind. You are afraid that such an unstable factor will affect your relationship.
But in fact, this was just an old adult thing for him that he could not forget. Maybe one night, when people were quiet, they just sighed that time flew away, and they were just about to change things.
This has a very small impact on your relationship, far smaller than the one you quarrel with him because of these false things.
These people are ridiculous because they are moved by themselves under the banner of love and make requests, while doing everything they do is consuming the so-called love.
Wait until it was exhausted, and it made people impatient and said, "Look, I know you don't love me, and you're still thinking about your ex-girlfriend." The rigorous logic is moving.
You should be clear that no matter what happened in the past, you are the person with him now. Whether he loves you depends more on the experience of getting along with you, rather than the bubbles that are covered in memory, which cannot cause any turmoil.
You must have confidence in him and yourself.
There is another answer: as long as he lives well, he will not even think of someone like you.
Because the question asks the person who has loved him deeply, not the person he has loved deeply. This is human nature. Don’t think that love is too beautiful. Don’t think that if you love someone deeply, give everything for someone, the other person will remember you. If the other person doesn’t love you, in the end you will only be moved by yourself.
So when will he think of you? When he is down and out, when he is frustrated in the shopping mall and love, and someone needs to understand and comfort him, he may think of you, the person who has accompanied him and brought him warmth. At that moment, he may feel a little regretful, but it is only a moment. He forgets nothing afterwards. He will still not choose you if he gives him another chance to make a new choice.
So, it doesn’t make much sense to him to remember you, even if he comes back to find you, his feelings have changed. If a woman wants to find someone who can hold you in her palms all the time and never abandon or betray you. This is the happiest thing for you. Let the past pass, and the earth will still turn if it leaves. Cherish the life in front of you is the most important thing.
In fact, if you examine your emotional experience, you will definitely find a very interesting phenomenon, that is: often complains about his partner's shortcomings in love, thinking that he is not good here and there, and after breaking up, he feels that he is full of light, and he can't even hold his strengths when counting them, thinking that his shortcomings are tolerant and not worth mentioning. Why do
have such two contrasting feelings?
When we are together, we feel that he is sloppy and fucked his mouth. He has bad language and bad habits. He is even fickle and not devoted enough to you and will not treat you the way you want. Why did he break up? This person who frowns that often makes you dislike is full of shining points that you cannot let go?
can actually be explained this way, because you use two different perspectives to examine this person's relationship in two different situations.
In love, the more you get along, the more you feel that he has many shortcomings. It is because:
1, At the beginning of entering the relationship, there is a "ideal partner" hidden in your heart. Before you fall in love during your growth, you form an ideal partner in your brain. How tall and handsome he must be, how he speaks, how he acts, and what he laughs, you have a look of expectation in your mind.
This image becomes a benchmark for your heart to measure your partner when you enter a relationship.
So, in the process of getting along, the more you understand him, the more you realize that he does not meet your "benchmark", the gap becomes bigger and bigger, and the gap becomes bigger and bigger. You think he should treat you like this, but he ends up being another in a completely different way, so he complains about him and wants to change the other party, which leads to a quarrel. The vicious cycle aggravates your disappointment with him and thinks that he has too many shortcomings.
2. Your partner performed effective impression management in the early stages of your understanding , which means deliberately shaping your image in the eyes of others. For example, excessive modification or exaggeration of yourself, he will consciously use strategies such as pleasing you to please you and add points to yourself.
For example, what does impression management mean? Girls just know about fashion and lady wear and can’t drink alcohol, boys lie about their income and fabricate their successful experiences, brag, etc. These are all called making a good impression through excessive modification. For example, when you first date, you can pick up and drop off to meet all the other party’s requirements. This is called a pleasing strategy, using it to satisfy all the other party’s needs and wishes to please the other party and gain a good impression.
In fact, you will find that it is not that it has more and more shortcomings, but that it has always had so many shortcomings, but that it has just been hidden from you before.After you are tricky with impression management, your relationship will expand his shortcomings and feel more unbearable. (It's like seeing too many beautiful things, the ugliest things will make you feel.)
3. Incorrect relationship beliefs make you feel that "he should have been that way". As long as he is not that way, you think he has shortcomings.
Incorrect relationship beliefs, such as "As a boyfriend, he should give unconditionally, as a boyfriend, he should focus your wishes, love should be flawless, two people are suitable for no quarrel... etc.
When you have such a relationship belief, you will be too picky in the process of getting along, you have too many "he should" ideas and requirements, once he cannot meet it, you will think that he has problems and has too many shortcomings.
So why do you think his shortcomings are irrelevant after breaking up? What are the advantages?
has many reasons. I will only talk about it one thing. After breaking up, you use a positive past perspective to this relationship.
So why do you think that his shortcomings are irrelevant after breaking up?
So, once you use a positive past perspective to look at this relationship, you can only see the beauty of the past and the beauty of the past, so he becomes the unfading red rose . Naturally, this person is shining in your mind.
Finally, let me put forward a little suggestion: pay more attention to the present in the relationship and explore the other person's. Advantages, appreciate the other person's advantages; but once the relationship is transcendent, you might as well adjust the angle and look at the shortcomings of the person who abandoned you. His dross is unbearable. This will help you break your fantasy about relationships and him so that you will not be addicted to this out-of-season relationship.
Finally, I would like to give you a poem:
first, it is best not to meet each other, so that you will not fall in love.
second, it is best not to know each other, so that you will not miss each other.
third, it is best not to accompany each other, so that you will not owe each other.
fourth, it is best not to cherish each other, so that you will not remember each other.
fifth, it is best not to Love each other, so that you can not abandon each other.
The sixth is best not to be opposite each other, so that you can not meet each other.
The seventh is best not to be wrong, so that you can not fall behind.
The eighth is best not to be together, so that you can not continue.
The ninth is best not to be together, so that you can not snuggle each other.
The tenth is best not to meet each other, so that you can not gather together.
But we know each other when we have met each other, so that we can not meet each other.
But we know each other when we have met each other, so that we can not meet each other when we meet each other.
How can we be separated from you and avoid teaching life and death to fall in love with you.
———Tangyang Gyatso " Ten Precepts Poems "
