Immaturity in individuals is not related to age. Some people are old and some are confused until death. There are three typical characteristics of immature people.
1, put it into emotions first rather than rational
A person's normal emotions should be peaceful, moderate, and gray; while abnormal emotions are either too high or too low, too high, for example, anger, hysteria, or suddenly excited and confident, too low, for example, low, pessimistic, extreme disappointment, etc. Emotions are a bit like the black, white and gray in the color. They are generally abnormal emotions when they are too black and too white. And they are in the gray area in the middle, which should be the normal emotions that a person should have for a long time.
Immature people will easily jump in both black and white after encountering problems. At the same time, this is a bit like a spring. It has a little effect on external forces, and the emotions are extended or compressed. The so-called external forces are people or things outside.
Mature people are not without emotions, everyone has seven emotions and six desires, but one of the most important characteristics of mature people is to use reason to control seven emotions and six desires, which means that there is a core called rationality at the inner or lower level of emotions. What is rationality? Rationality is based on correct facts, logic, common sense, wisdom, etc. to respond to the outside world to match one's emotions. Of course, the matching emotions are mostly peaceful, moderate, and gray. On the contrary, immature people's first reaction is based on intuition emotions rather than the rationality behind them, as if they are missing this part.
2. First, blame the outside world instead of itself.
. A mature person is able to bear all his due responsibilities. There are two key attributions in this sentence: one is all. We say that a student is not a very mature person. Even if he can take the responsibility for his own study, he has not really taken the responsibility for his future social and family; the other is that he deserves, there are thousands of responsibilities in the world, but only some of them belong to him, a small part. Responsibility is often related to identity and power. Identity means responsibility, and power means responsibility.
What do immature people look like? When encountering problems or mistakes, the first reaction is that this is not my responsibility, and I have nothing to do. What causes this and that is all blamed. In short, it means to completely overwhelm the responsibility that should belong to you, or to bear at most an insignificant responsibility.
The ancients said that I was thinking about myself three times a day. This is introspection, and it is the reason for finding oneself first. Then some people say, is the outside world irresponsible? Of course not. One thing is always the result of the joint action of oneself and the outside world. Sometimes external factors may account for a very important proportion. At this point, the difference between immature and maturity is that immature people always attribute external factors first and even shirk all their responsibilities; while mature people first look for their own problems, and then objectively analyze the impact of external factors.
3. First consider yourself instead of others
Immature people subconsciously think that I am the first priority. Even if I am not the center of the world, I am at least a small-scale center. I am good, everyone, I am not good, everyone can’t think about it. American hegemony is somewhat similar, so it arouses disgust from many countries.
This is how mature people think about the problem. Hello, I, everyone, or only you, everyone, I am better. Simply put, they are secondary, at least second. In fact, the more people who can think and do this, the more they get the extra benefits, so the world is so strange. A person's mind changes may be like this: it's enough to get better from me, it's enough to get better from you. It’s enough to get from me to you, it’s enough to get from me. This is a qualitative leap.
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Why do we need to mature? An immature person will always wander on the low-level thinking level, and he will never realize that the scenery is the only one.Rationality, introspection, and benefiting others are the most important characteristics of a mature person, but vice versa, it is the characteristics of immature or immature enough. Munger said, always think about the opposite.
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