We often see or hear such a question on different occasions. Do you care about your boyfriend or girlfriend’s past?
Different people have different answers. It’s not that who must be right and who must be wrong, but there will definitely be people who will care. It is precisely because of this that some helpless situations can speak out.
After meeting a Henan woman Xiaomei (pseudonym) and her boyfriend Xiaoguang (pseudonym), she felt that they were in love with each other and could chat with each other, so they gradually developed into a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship.
Originally, both of them planned to enter the palace of marriage, but an accident began to shake Xiaoguang's inner thoughts.
One day, Xiaoguang accidentally found a scar on Xiaomei's chest, so he asked Xiaomei with great concern what was going on and whether she needed to see a doctor.
. Xiaomei didn't think much about it at that time, so she told Xiaoguang that the scar was burned by her ex-boyfriend with a cigarette butt. Xiaomei didn't want to hide anything from Xiaoguang. She believed that since the two decided to be together for a long time, they should be honest and trust each other.
So although she knew that telling Xiaoguang the truth might have a certain impact, Xiaomei still insisted on telling Xiaoguang truthfully.
But Xiaomei didn't expect that after learning the truth, Xiaoguang did not show the tolerance that Xiaomei expected, but fell into silence.
Xiaomei's frankness made Xiaoguang not know what to do. Because this means that Xiaomei should have a good relationship with her ex-boyfriend, otherwise she would not have acted like this. But at the same time, Xiaoguang also felt very uncomfortable, because as long as he saw this scar on Xiaomei's chest, he would associate him with Xiaomei's ex-boyfriend, and he could never overcome this hurdle in his heart.
Xiaoguang's silence, Xiaomei saw it in her eyes and felt pain in her heart. Xiaomei is not stupid. From Xiaoguang's actions, Xiaomei saw that Xiaoguang cared and disliked her in the past, and she also saw that Xiaoguang was not as tolerant as she imagined.
So after Xiaoguang was silent, Xiaomei also fell into silence, because Xiaomei didn't know whether she should comfort Xiaoguang or herself at that time. The atmosphere at that time was extremely quiet and seemed particularly awkward.
Later, Xiaoguang could not overcome the hurdle in his heart, and it was difficult to accept Xiaomei as if nothing had happened. Gradually, the relationship between Xiaoguang and Xiaomei became increasingly distant, and from the sweetness before, gradually became like a "stranger".
In the end, Xiaomei took the initiative to break up with Xiaoguang, but Xiaoguang did not try to keep him. Perhaps this ending is what Xiaoguang really expects in his heart. The incident of
is a pity, and it also raises the question, that is, should we care about the past of our partner?
not to mention, with the development of the times and the changes in everyone's concepts, many young people now have intimate relationships with the opposite sex before they are not married, especially among college students, this phenomenon is more common.
Then, if you pay special attention to the other party’s past, there may be very few ideal “perfect people” in the future, and most of them are people with the past they don’t want to mention.
This past that I don’t want to be mentioned does not mean that it is their fault. It can only prove that there is an extra experience in their lives, some are beautiful memories, and some are pain that I will never want to mention in my whole life.
In my opinion, if you really like someone, then her past is not that important, and what is really important is the present and future after she is with you.
Everyone may have the urge to be young, but this does not mean that they are unforgivable and should be turned away. If she can treat you sincerely, be loyal and trusted to you, and give you support and encouragement after meeting you, then her past is actually not that important.
On the contrary, if you are too obsessed with other people's past, you may miss a beautiful relationship. After all, whether two people can live happily does not depend on how they were in the past, but on the present and the future.
