Feng Tang wrote in "The Spring Breeze is Not As Good as You": "People shouldn't be too awake. Let the past pass by without chewing it repeatedly. Life will not last long, and there are not so many important things. It's dawn and you'll make money again."
The more you stick to something, the more likely you are to be hurt by something.
Many times, it is not others who hurt us, but those things, words, and people that we cannot let go of.
In a lifetime, what is worth our life to worry about and entangle for the rest of our lives?
It should be counted, forget it if it should be forgotten, and put it if it should be put. My heart is no longer tired, and I am relaxed. I live a better day and have more happiness.
01
Some people, let me put it on
In the popular drama "Battle of the Rose" some time ago, everyone may have been considering the rich emotional scenes between the heroine and the hero, and their moods are ups and downs.
However, there are two other girls in the play that impressed me.
One is Fengsheng's ex-girlfriend Xu Qianni. She is a lawyer. Whether she really loves Fengsheng, she hopes to renew her relationship, or deliberately get close to Fengsheng to attack her work opponents.
In short, her humble voice in love and even sacrificed her own approach is not only very disgusting, but also the final result is also a rich and merciless rejection.
On the contrary, another girl with a rich love for her is much more free and easy than her.
Shen Qin is a reporter. After being rescued by Feng Sheng in an accident, she couldn't help but feel good about him. Soon after, she expressed her love to Qingsheng bravely.
Although Feng Sheng declined her, which made her feel very depressed, Shen Qin did not get entangled, but instead let go bravely and said goodbye to Feng Sheng.
She said to Feng Sheng: " I figured it out that pursuing people who don't like me will only become humble. A good relationship should make me happier and more confident. I want to pursue such feelings. "
Facing people who are unable to get what they want, Xu Qianni couldn't let go and pursued them relentlessly; Shen Qin stopped the loss in time and dared to love and let go.
I remembered a line from the movie " First Incense ": "When you can't feel the love, remember to escape untied."
The way to escape untied in love is to learn to accept, accept more things contrary to your wishes and love without getting.
The person you like doesn’t like you. After trying, he still doesn’t like you. Then try to let go and try to use time to dilute the pain.
Time is the best medicine. One day it will teach us to be relieved and let us learn to let go.
Those who cannot get love and cannot be together are compulsory courses for growth given by fate and the most special arrangement in our lives.
02
Something happened, forget it
famous writer Jia Pingwa talked about his experience.
After his novel " Waste City " was released, it caused great controversy, and his reputation was also negatively affected.
At this time, a French translator found Jia Pingwa and expressed his willingness to buy the copyright of "The Waste City" in France for US$10,000.
Jia Pingwa, who was in a low point in his career, quickly agreed to the other party and immediately signed a contract.
But not long after, Jia Pingwa knew that he had been cheated. The contract said 10,000 francs , not 10,000 US dollars. According to the exchange rate at that time, the two prices were nearly five times different.
Jia Pingwa was very angry at the time and wanted to fly to Paris immediately to sue the other party to seek justice. But one of his friends' words instantly calmed him down: "You know French? Do you have any way to hire a lawyer to sue in France?"
He felt that his friend was right, and after thinking about it, he had to sigh helplessly: "Forget it, I won't pursue it. It's a good thing for the French to see my works."
After seeing it, Jia Pingwa gradually forgot about this.
Unexpectedly, a few months later, the French version of "Waste City" won the French " Fermina Literature Award " in one fell swoop, and this award also allowed "Waste City" to be reprinted in China.
After this incident, Jia Pingwa realized that sometimes gains and losses are really not that important.
Ba Jin once said: "You must be more open about everything, and no matter what you lose, don't lose a good mood. "
People live in the world. There are many things that cannot get, and they always think about what they can't get. They can't see anything. They will only accumulate more and more unwillingness and disappointment. In the end, they are still the ones who are hurt.
Some things are open to them; if you can't get, forget it.
There are losses in gains and gains in losses. Those things that are lost , Maybe at some point in the future, come back in another way and become another harvest in our life.
03
Some words, forget it,
https://www.h.com/ However, when you grow up or get older, you will find that some words that can be forgotten are happy. "
The reason why we get more and more unhappy the older we grow is because our lives are mostly living in the mouths of others.
What makes us happy for a long time may be someone else's casual words; what makes us sad for a long time may be someone else's unintentional words.
I saw a story.
A designer exhibited a piece The work, and then ask all the people who come to visit to point out the shortcomings of the work. As a result, the people who come to ask different questions respectively, and one visitor even derogated the work to be worthless. The next day, the designer started again. This time he invited the people who came to visit to point out the advantages of the work. As a result, many people praised the work and were actually bought by a businessman at a high price.
Finally, the designer said: "In this world, no matter what you do, how good you think you do, there will always be people criticizing you, and there will always be people who appreciate you. "
If you think about every other person's words repeatedly and internal friction becomes more and more serious, how can a person be happy?
Listening to others' suggestions is a necessary process for improving oneself. However, if you care too much about other people's words, do not combine your own situation, and do not judge and think about it yourself, then you will only let yourself live in the cage of other people's words.
Nan Huaijin Mr. Nan Huaijin once said: "If you are too serious about other people's talk, you will not be able to survive that day. "
Just listen to some words. Don't let them go. If you put them too much, your heart will be too full and not clear in time. It will easily cause blockage and affect your physical and mental health.
Don't be afraid of others' words and know how to forget words. Only by focusing on your own things and living the most beautiful and truest look.
Sanmao said: "If you care less about things, you will have fewer things to worry about in your heart, you will naturally become calm and more likely to be happy. "
The less you care about, the less you will be bound; the more you let go, the more freedom you will be.
Let go of the people who cannot love; forget what you can't get; forget what others can do whatever you want.
I hope you can remove the burden in your heart at the right time, manage your life with the most relaxed attitude, welcome every blessing given by life, and embrace the beauty and happiness in life.
Encourage together!
