text/Sun Jianye
My lover was in hospital this time. I was alone at home, and I thought I could do whatever I wanted at home, so I listened less to my wife's nagging. But things went against my wishes. When I got home, I always felt that something was missing. The house was so surprisingly quiet.
In the past, when we returned to our house from our son's house every day, we longed for a relatively independent space, and sat down quietly to watch TV or write something on the computer. Isn’t this my wife going to the hospital? I don’t need to accompany me. I should have a lot of time, but I can’t calm down. It seems that I am still used to my wife’s nagging. Now no one talks about you anymore, but I feel uncomfortable. People are so incredible.
Calm down and think carefully, the most important person to accompany you in your life is one of your mothers and the other is your lover. Your mother raises you and your lover will accompany you for decades of ups and downs. They are the most cherished noble people in your life.
When I was a child, my mother nagged you and told you that she would grow up with many instructions every day, so that you could study hard and how to be a human being were. We grew up slowly in my mother's nagging.
I remember when I was six years old, I had measles . I was sick for several months, tortured my mother all day long, and asked my mother to accompany me, either carrying her back or holding her. My mother once joked to me, "If I grow up unfilial, I will need the hard money for these few months." Indeed, the kindness of parents' raising should be repaid with water.
We have grown up and started a family. Every time we go back to visit the elderly, our mother always sits beside you and nags constantly. That kind of nagging is the mother's affection for her children, a kind of concern that will make you unforgettable. When you are fifty or sixty years old, you still have your mother nagging you by your side, which is a kind of happiness. Now that my parents have been away for more than ten years, I always feel warm whenever I think of reunion with my mother.
When we were working, we were not in the same unit. After get off work, we were busy cooking together. The time was tight and the task was heavy. Sometimes we had to think about the things at the unit and have simple communication. After a while, we went to work quickly. We were always busy living every day like this.
After retirement, we lived a life of two people. During the day, we cooked together at the children's house and took care of our granddaughters who were in elementary school. In our spare time, we went swimming or walking together, and our life after retirement was enjoyable. But I found that my lover, who spoke frankly in the past few years, has now started to nag as he grows older.
At a friend's party in Sanya, friends' lovers began to "accus" us men of shortcomings. "It turned out that they looked quite glorious at work, but now after returning to their family, they can't do anything and can't even clean the bowl. What else can they do?" The party turned into a criticism meeting, which made us old comrades useless.
The most troublesome thing is that she supervises you every day and works, including every detail. The lover says that it is because you are not confident. Men like to do things quickly and do it in one go. Women are different. They work slowly and do it carefully, and they are also very endurance. They can continue to do it from morning to night without any fatigue. My lover is even more amazing and never rests at noon, so we can’t do it. We have to sleep for a while every day at noon. We have the energy to do whatever we do in the afternoon.
My lover just nagged me alone. As long as it was not done well, she would teach you classes and demonstrate to you repeatedly. But the lover has a characteristic. She never nags the children and turns a blind eye to the "unsatisfactory things" they do. The children also like to chat with her, and they have a different relationship with their daughter-in-law. They take good care of their slim daughter-in-law and often give small meals to her. Even their son sometimes gives comments: "I am your own son."
Retired, a man at home is useless, so he should just be a supporting role, go to the farmers' market to act as a porter, and usually buy something if you run around.My lover is getting braver the more he fights. Even my granddaughter said that my grandmother is the eldest in our family. I continued to ask "Who are you?" "I am the second, and my granddaughter answered me confidently", "So how do other people in our family sort? My father and my mother rank fourth, and you are the fifth." Although it is just a joke about the little granddaughter, it is not difficult to see the status of the lover at home.
The male lead and the female lead the inner world. It makes sense to be the ancient saying left by our ancestors. Only by giving full play to the strengths of women can we manage this family well. Once when I was traveling outside, I saw a public service advertisement on the bus: "Home is a place to talk about love." Thinking about it, it is true that the family is still a reasonable place. Besides, we are not as skilled as others in housework, so it is better to surrender as soon as possible, be a good husband and a good grandfather.
Nagging is also a kind of love. Sometimes it annoys you, sometimes it doesn’t sound nagging, but it seems that something is missing. This is love, this is life.
Author profile: Sun Jianye, from Longkou City, Shandong Province, is a member of Shandong Prose Society, and his pen name is Haiyun and Wentao. A retired cadre of Xinjiang Oilfield Company of China National Petroleum Corporation, China Petroleum Corporation, went to the township and joined the army after work. He served as the office director of the oil company and was a reporter from Xinjiang Petroleum News and China Petroleum Business Daily. Many works have been published in newspapers and magazines such as " China Petroleum News ", "China Petroleum Business Daily", "Xinjiang Petroleum News", "Xinjiang Petroleum Political Workers", and "Zhongdong Petroleum". Their early representative works "Love Mother's Heart" and "The Development History of the Western Oil Pipeline" were published in "Xinjiang Petroleum News" and "China Petroleum News". Recently, many works have been published on literary platforms such as Jiaodong Prose Annual Selected Micro-Issues; their works have been selected as "Selected Essays of Family Love for Writers in Jiaodong in 2021" and "20 Essays from Jiaodong. Sun Jianye Volume". In the "Find Integrity People Around You" event held by Yantai City on September 29, 2021, his work "Online Shopping of Sheep Horn Honey Melon" won the second prize.
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