I am 28 years old and I am having a divorce with my husband because I found that my husband hid his private money and modified the salary receipt information without hiding it. It violated my property control agreement before marriage with him. What's worse is that he used the money for food, drink, fun and great health care. I am very angry now and want to divorce, but he disagrees.
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I am Xiaofeng, I am 28 years old this year, I have been married for 5 years, and I have a 3-year-old child.
My husband and I are both ordinary workers. My monthly income is about 5,000 yuan, and his monthly income is about 10,000 yuan.
Because my job is finance, in order to better arrange family income and expenditure, my husband and I made a financial agreement after marriage: the salary of both of us will be summarized to me every month, and the expenses will be uniformly distributed, and each person will only leave 2,000 yuan as pocket money.
My husband expressed support, so the amount that comes to me every month is about 11,000 yuan, which is mainly used for family expenses, mortgage repayment, etc.
Under my careful arrangement, the family’s income and expenditure remain in a balanced state, and the balance can still be balanced by tens of thousands of yuan every year.
Although the expenses increased after the child was born, because there is a reasonable plan to use money, it can still be dealt with.
In a blink of an eye, the child is 3 years old. Our salary has increased a little over the years, but we still respect the original financial agreement and continue to maintain it.
What I didn’t expect was that something happened that day, which changed everything.
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That day I was cleaning up in the hall. My husband was taking a shower in the toilet. He put his phone on the countertop. Suddenly, he heard a short message. I happened to be next to me. I accidentally saw the content of the short message showing "Accounted salary of 18,510 yuan" on the screen. The message stayed for a few seconds and disappeared, but I really saw it clearly.
I was very confused. Since the beginning of this year, my husband has told me that his monthly salary is about 11,000, and also screenshots to show me his salary receipt record, so he always pays 9,000 yuan every time and leaves 2,000 yuan in pocket money.
Why is there so much 18,510 yuan this month? I had a thought in my mind that tomorrow is the day to pay the salary anyway, so I want to see how much he paid.
The next day, my husband transferred 9,110 yuan to me and sent me the screenshot of this month's salary receipt. I saw that this was the text message from last night, but the amount became 11,120 yuan.
When a discerning person saw it, he knew that he had moved. I remained silent and planned to observe him again, what exactly he was doing.
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In recent months, he has always said that he has to socialize and work overtime. He has only a handful of times to eat at home every month. Many times he comes back in the middle of the night and is full of alcohol.
I have been busy taking care of the children. Although I have some complaints about this, I have not thought about it in other ways. As soon as I came up with this focus, I found some clues.
I found that he had seen the business cards of clubs and bath centers several times in his pocket. I asked a friend to help me check it out. These are all great health care and the consumption is not low.
And we haven’t lived together for a long time, and occasionally if we want to communicate, he says he is tired.
But this is all suspicion and there is no actual evidence. Until that day, a colleague from the company saw him coming out of the big health club drunk, and there was a beautiful woman next to him holding her out, and told me the phone, and took a photo and sent it to me (this colleague is also a good friend and knows about my family).
This time I finally couldn't hold it in. When he got home, I deliberately asked him where he was going, and he was still lying to me.
I opened all the evidence in front of him, and he was stunned.
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Under my strong offensive, he explained everything.
First of all, his salary has indeed increased this year, from 11,000 to more than 15,000. If you add a commission reward, you can reach 18,000 or 19,000, but he told me that it was 11,000 yuan. Except for paying 9,000 yuan, the rest of the money became his private money.
And these private money became a small treasury for him to call his friends, eat, drink, and enjoy the big health care. Sometimes it is because of overtime work in social activities, and many times, it is just about being flirting with people outside.
After hearing this, I burst into tears. In order to save money, I was reluctant to spend money. I haven’t bought new clothes for a long time. All the money is spent tightly, but my son and his things to use are given priority.
But he is so good, hiding his private money, deceiving me, being careless and spending time outside.
I was so angry that I threw the thing on him, venting my resentment in my heart until I had no strength.
A few days later, I filed for divorce, but my husband disagreed and said that we should not divorce for the sake of our son, and promised that he would not do this in the future.
I am very confused now, I don’t know what to do?
Please give me some advice, do I want to divorce?
Another satirical drama of family. Xiaofeng worked hard at home to control her husband, and her husband actually made contributions to the family, but he had Xiaojiujiu in his heart. Xiaofeng feels wronged and understands it. From another perspective, what are the motivations and needs of her husband for doing this?
This Xiaofeng needs to think about how long has it been since she paid attention to her husband? Didn't pay attention to his feelings? Did he be such a person from the beginning? Has he not taken responsibility for his family?
I want to divorce, first clarify the above problem, don’t be unclear, communicate with my husband and see what the problem is? Is there a possibility of solving it?
Friends, if you are Xiaofeng, what would you do if you encounter such a situation? Welcome to leave a message to share your suggestions.
