Zhuang Die Xiaomeng/See the essence through the story
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There is a 42-year-old leftover woman around her. She graduated from a prestigious school and earns more than 500,000 yuan an annual income. Although she is no longer young and beautiful, she is quite elegant.
When I was young, I was busy with my career and didn’t want to get out of singleness. Now I finally want to get married, but I have never found a suitable partner.
In order to find a good person, she reduced her conditions for choosing a spouse again and again, and finally she was willing to accept a man with an annual income of about 300,000 yuan, but even so, she could not do what she wanted.
Now she is completely trapped in a situation where she cannot succeed or lose. This may be the realization of many high-quality older leftover women.
Women always think that as long as they are excellent enough, they can find a suitable partner even if they are older, but reality is contrary to their expectations.
"Excellent" in the eyes of women
Excellence in women's eyes is considered from a large scale, and they take society as a reference.
. Educational
In this era when everyone has the opportunity to study, highly educated people are still rare talents.
A woman has already gained a huge advantage in her academic qualifications after graduating from a prestigious university. If she finishes her master's degree and doctoral degree, she is undoubtedly a social talent.
Although academic qualifications do not represent everything, academic qualifications can improve a person's cognition, not to mention that academic qualifications are the stepping stone for us to do many things.
Therefore, people with high education do have many advantages in society.
2. Career
Survival of the fittest is the law of nature, and the human world is naturally no exception.
Each of us has different directions and choices, and career happens to be the key point of dividing levels.
People are different after all. Some people have successful careers, while some people can only have a job to support themselves in their entire lives.
So, successful people have become social elites and they have won at the starting line.
3. Material conditions
In the past many years, people have always advocated the Tao Yuanming spirit, regarding money as dirt, and not bowing for five dou of rice. This spirit is of course valuable, but life is realistic.
People who live in this world must experience food, food, clothing, housing and transportation. The height of material conditions will determine the ease of life.
Based on this point, a person's material conditions are very important.
For the entire society, having a house and a car, having no worries about food and clothing, and having a high income and huge deposits has gained a great advantage in material conditions.
From a social perspective, a woman’s idea is indeed correct. If a person has the above advantages, she is undoubtedly the best person.
May marriage is often different from life, and the advantages in life may not necessarily become advantages in marriage.
"Excellent" that men value
Men often choose their partner from the social level. They will always choose their partner who thinks they are better from the perspective of marriage.
. Beauty
Everyone has a love for beauty. No one in this world does not yearn for beautiful things. Men are all face-controlled. They will choose a better-looking partner if they have the conditions.
Beauty not only makes people pleasing to the eye, but also allows men to gain great face.
Therefore, for men, women's beauty is almost ranked first.
2. Young
Men are a very strange creature. They like mature women when they are in their 20s, but once they are over 30, they begin to be interested in young and beautiful women.
Men usually tend to be a few years younger than themselves, or even a teenage woman when they have the conditions.
No matter how outstanding women are, as long as they are over 40 years old, their charm in the eyes of men will be greatly reduced.
Many men would rather marry a woman who is about 30 years old than a woman who is particularly outstanding over 40 years old. This is the reality.
3. Hardware conditions
Men do not care about hardware conditions. Marriage is the turning point in life and the starting point of the next generation.
What's more, human nature is selfish, and no one is born to like poverty alleviation.
Therefore, when men choose their partner, they will pay special attention to the other party's conditions, but when they are young and beautiful, they will relatively relax their hardware conditions.
Women miss their best years. No matter how good it is, they will be difficult to get out of singleness.
After 40 years old, if you have an annual income of 500,000, you have reduced your requirement to choose a spouse to 300,000 yuan. I originally thought that by reducing the requirements, you could find a suitable partner, but in the end you will find that a man with an annual income of 300,000 yuan would rather choose a woman with an annual income of 100,000 yuan than a woman with an annual income of 500,000 yuan over 40 years old.
At this age, the advantages you have are no longer considered an advantage, because the advantages you have cannot make up for your age disadvantage at all.
For fast-paced life, late marriage and late childbirth is a normal state, but it cannot exceed a certain limit.
Women can get married late, but try not to be over 35 years old, otherwise no matter how outstanding they are, they will fall into a passive state.
One thing you must remember is that there are subtle differences between social excellence and marriage excellence. Although men also value women's conditions, many men will be discouraged when women reach a certain age.
There are only two major things in life: the first thing is family and the second thing is career.
While women are creating their careers, they must not ignore their marriage.
Smart women know how to weigh and will not "remain" themselves until after the age of 40.
Zhuang Die Xiaomeng/Emotional Column Original creator
May your life be full of surprises and may your happiness come as scheduled.
