Tang Dynasty Li Ye wrote in " Eight to ":
To the highest to tomorrow, the most relatives and the most distant couple;
means that the highest and brightest are the sun and the moon, and the closest and most distant couples are the couples;
The simple words contain profound truths;
No matter how loving couples enter marriage, they will inevitably have bumps and bumps, let alone those couples who lack the depth and purity of love and walk together?
When people reach middle age, all kinds of pressure suddenly double, and their upper and lower levels are young. Their experience and abilities are already a little unable to keep up with the pace of the times, and their physical condition is not as good as before.
What makes people feel more helpless is that couples have already passed the 7-year itch, and they are disgusted with each other, and their relationship gradually fades;
When passion fades, big and small things in life become an important test of the relationship between husband and wife;
If you cannot fight accidents in your family, you will lose in your marriage;
So, don’t wait until you realize the complexity of human nature and cry about your experience, but be prepared in advance.
Please be more careful in the following three things.
In terms of love, don’t think that the other party will never betray you
Someone once commented on the changes in marriage between husband and wife:
When we fell in love, we like the other party’s handsomeness and beauty, and what we say is all about vows and sweet words;
When we enter marriage and become an old couple, no freshness, the content of the words will become:
Did your hemorrhoids be cured? Or your freckles seem to fade.
A few jokes reveal the trivial daily life of middle-aged couples;
Two people have been together for a long time and have fewer topics to talk about. What they see in their eyes is mostly the shortcomings and shortcomings of the other party, and they even secretly compare with other people's partners in their hearts;
Seeing that other couples are loving, or that other people's partners have the ability and can make money, they will come back to blame and complain about their partner's boredom and incompetence;
In this way, it is easy for couples to have cracks;
or The two sides make different progress. One person makes great progress and the other party is on the ground. Then the common language will naturally decrease and the heart is not close enough;
It can be said that middle-aged couples may change their hearts when they have some movements.
Some people will firmly believe that their relationship with their partner is stronger than gold. However, many examples in real life tell us that feelings may not stand the test of time;
So don’t devote all your feelings to your partner. You must give yourself a little to love yourself so that you will not be too uncomfortable and hurt when the other party betrays you.
In life, don’t think that the other party will always leave you when danger comes
Middle-aged couples have gone through the nearly half of their lives and have a certain understanding and understanding of the various aspects of the world and the fickleness of people’s hearts;
But there are still many people who have too many naive fantasies and expectations for the people by their pillows.
There is a saying: Husband and wife are birds in the same forest, but when the disaster comes, they fly by themselves;
This is the profound understanding of marriage by the ancients, which shows that it thoroughly reveals the true human nature.
Once saw a news online that a couple who had just gotten married soon, the woman suddenly fell seriously ill and was bedridden. The man was by the woman's side and took care of her hard for 5 years, and finally divorced decisively;
What is somewhat surprising is that the relatives and acquaintances around him did not blame the man too much, because the woman's situation was really bad. It is rare for a man to take care of and protect the woman hard for years and make willing efforts.
So you see, when danger comes, it is not necessarily all because of not loving, and letting your partner let go of your hand;
Even if you love each other deeply, your relationship will be exhausted and a day will be exhausted;
When the disaster comes, everyone must take care of themselves first;
Even if you are the person next to you, you will protect yourself at critical moments and may not always leave you;
In terms of money, don't refer to your partner completely, but have your own source of income
The biggest mistake of a person is to use money to test others' sincerity;
As adults, especially middle-aged people who are already experienced, don't overestimate human nature;
people are profit-seeking, and marriage is actually a "cooperative relationship" based on feelings;
Everyone hopes to find a "partner" who is suitable and matched with them, make progress together, work together, fight the ups and downs of life together, and live a happy life;
Naturally, no one is willing to take full risks for the other party and suffer all their hardships.
For example, if your husband is outside, you can make money by going out in the wind and rain, while a woman is a housewife and has no income;
Then, even if a woman pays too much for her home, over time, the pressure of life will make men feel that women lack value and feel disgusted;
So, don’t blame the cruel reality. People must know how to leave a way out for themselves. In marriage, they must have their own financial sources and be able to rely on themselves without relying on the other party;
It is entirely stated that relying on the other party will make you depend on it and make your marriage unstable, so in terms of money, you must give yourself a guarantee.
Middle-aged couples, please remember that people love the most is always themselves;
If you want to make yourself feel safe in marriage and respected by your partner, please be careful, add value to yourself, and love yourself well.
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