text丨Love words: 30:30
I am here, waiting for the wind, and waiting for you.
Between men and women, in addition to love, most people are more friendship, and some people are above friendship. The feelings that are not satisfied with lovers are extremely wonderful and extremely happy.
However, as the saying goes, "A good word warms up in three winters, and a bad word hurts people in six months." Even among friends who have deep feelings, you should pay attention to the way and measure of speaking.
Speaking is a technique, and even more so a technique. If you agree, you will still be friends with the same relationship; if you fail, even the deepest relationship will appear.
Many people understand this truth, but in real life, it is difficult for everyone to grasp such a measure, and speaking and doing things still embarrass the other party.
Therefore, when men and women interact, no matter how deep the relationship is, they must go through their brains. Don’t say anything, and don’t hurt each other’s feelings because of your few words.
Dating men and women, no matter how good their relationship is, they cannot say some things:
No matter how good the relationship between men and women, they cannot always say words to hit each other
On the road of life, there are bumps and some things that are difficult for us to control. It is precisely because of this that in life, you will inevitably hear some criticism.
At this time, people with bad mentality will feel depressed and urgently need comfort and encouragement between friends.
As a friend, you should be by the other person silently, instead of poking his pain points everywhere, and do not randomly evaluate his pain points, and do not publicize them. No matter how good your relationship is, for you, it is undoubtedly the beginning of a breakup.
You must understand that when a person is in a low mood, he listens to other people's blows. It may be okay to say anything, but you will say whatever you want, but in fact, you will think more in your heart, you are not good.
In fact, no matter whether it is a friend or a stranger, when others encounter difficulties, especially in desperate situations, don’t hit him and encourage him more. Don’t say that society is very realistic, there is no need to coax others.
Many times, those who are in desperate situations just hear your encouragement and embark on the road ahead again, let alone among friends.
No matter how good the relationship between men and women is, they cannot randomly evaluate the other party’s family or partner
The pure friendship between men and women is valuable. Especially in this society with complex emotions, few people can have pure relationships between men and women.
If you want to protect this pure friendship relationship, you must know how to be sensible and abide by the boundaries between friends and lovers, and you cannot cross the boundaries or do it on purpose. Especially for the affairs of friends and family members of the opposite sex, participate as little as possible.
As the saying goes, "Every family has a difficult sutra." No matter how good the relationship is, don't evaluate the other party's family. Even if your friend quarrels with his family and talks to you, don't talk about the right and wrong of his family. Try to persuade him to make peace as much as possible, and don't make too many comments.
It is important to understand that a very realistic problem for your friends, their family and partner are largely greater than the relationship between you and him.
Wanderingly evaluate their character may very likely destroy the relationship between you and your friends. Even when you evaluate it, he has not yet reacted to this. But afterwards, when he reacts, he will naturally label you with a bad label.
Therefore, no matter how good the relationship between men and women is, don’t evaluate the other party’s family or partner at will. When they have conflicts and need your evaluation, just say more things to persuade them. Learning to be a talent is the most important thing.
No matter how good the relationship between men and women is, don’t always compare your strengths and weaknesses with your weaknesses
No matter what kind of friends you make, you must remember one sentence: "No one in the world except your parents, except your parents, hopes that you will live better than him."
Remember a reader left a message asking, why does it mean that no one in the world wants you to live better than him? Actually, this question is easy to understand.
Between partners, if one side is strong and the other side is weak, the weak side will always worry that the strong side will get rid of itself.
It is precisely because of this that many people try to choose a partner who is evenly matched as their partner when choosing a partner.
And the reason why you can become friends among friends is that you have no like-minded points in the process of getting along with each other.
If at this time, the like-minded point occurs when there is a strong and weak situation. The weak side will also take into account the strong side and what they say and do.
Think about it, when a friendship is concerned, the relationship will naturally lose balance, and the so-called pure friendship will no longer exist.
Have you figured it out now? No matter how good a man and a woman have a good relationship, don’t always compare your strengths with his weaknesses. Over time, you will be envied by others and even break down the relationship.
Love words:
Discussion is more about heart-to-heart talk, not about making friends.
The reason why two people can become friends is that they have experienced many things together. In this process, they have points of mutual attraction. When this point is infinitely magnified and even surrounded the two of them, the two of them naturally become friends who can speak everything.
But in fact, friends who say everything do not mean that they are true, and they can say anything.
Take the famous Chen Sheng in history, and Wu Guang's uprising as an example. According to the records of the Grand Historian, Chen Sheng and Wu Guang have the most chance to overthrow the tyranny of the Qin Dynasty and create a brand new dynasty.
However, because Wu Guang was not taboo to speak, he frequently touched Chen Sheng's bottom line and was eventually hit by Chen Sheng, which also caused Chen Sheng and Wu Guang to rebel without the result he did not get the due results.
Of course, looking at the long river of history, there are countless examples of this.
So, in general, no matter how good the relationship between men and women is, you should pay attention to the three points mentioned above. Don’t always think that you are good friends, you can talk about everything. The same sentence: "Be a person, stay at the front line and meet again in the future."
