Everyone will experience youth and age slowly. For the happiness of old age, they need to make some preparations early. Generally speaking, a healthy body, a harmonious family, and as much saving as possible are worthy of attention.
However, for many single elderly people, emotional comfort is often a big problem. Just as a 70-year-old Aunt Shao said, only realized that savings have become a stumbling block for when she got older. What the hell is going on? Let's listen to her story together.
01
I am a salesperson in a department store and I married Lao Shao as soon as I turned 20. We neither have a wealthy life nor a passionate love. We spent decades in a confused manner, raising a son, a daughter, and two children.
Retirement, take care of my grandson, and enjoy my old age. I thought my life would pass by in a simple way, but with Lao Shao's sudden death, I was completely uneasy.
After the son finished college, he started working in another place and settled down; and after his daughter got married, she also went to her son-in-law's hometown to live. Although I don’t have to worry about food or drink, I always feel lonely and bored when I live alone, and it’s meaningless.
In order to adjust my mood, I sometimes go downstairs to chat with neighbors, and sometimes I go around the square and learn to dance. It was in this process that an old man named Luo entered my life.
02
Lao Luo 's family situation is similar to mine. My wife left early and the children are not around, so she eats and drinks every day and goes wherever there are many people.
may be the reason why the same fate is connected. Since we met, we have been very close and chatting very much, and we even felt that we had met too late. After a period of time we get along, we become more and more acknowledged and closer to each other.
One day, Lao Luo asked me to go out for dinner. After meeting, hesitated and said, "We are both so old, why don't we live with a companion?"
Actually, I also have this idea, but I was embarrassed to say it out loud. After hearing what he said, I naturally agreed.
03
Although it is a matter of two people to get along, both parties have children and their own families, so they need to discuss or notify them. But when I mentioned this with my two children, they unanimously opposed it.
The son said unhappily: "People nowadays are very realistic. You have a house, a retirement salary, and a lot of savings. Who doesn't jealous? I think that old man is probably trying to plot against you."
The daughter also said: " It's great to live a free life alone! Don't talk about your age, even young people today are unwilling to get married and start a family. They all want to live alone. "
Faced with this situation, I hesitated, not knowing whether to persevere or give up. And at this time, Lao Luo's words made me understand what they mean.
04
That day, after listening to my retelling, Lao Luo said helplessly: "It's really difficult to get old! The children do not consider the actual feelings of the elderly, but only focus on the elderly's savings, and also tell a lot of reasons."
Yes, what the children are concerned about is not whether I live well, but how the property will be. In this way, savings became a stumbling block for me to join in the road.
Lao Luo reminded me that if we still want to continue, the best way is to share the savings with the two children so that they can feel at ease and will no longer object.
Just like that, after finding a suitable time, I divided the property in my hand and came with Lao Luo without hesitation.
Some people say I shouldn't do this and I will regret it in the future. But who knows what will happen in the future? Live in the present and take one step at a time.
at the end:
In real life, there are still many similar things like this. With the change of concepts, people can already accept the elderly's relationship or remarriage. But facing reality, many children cannot accept their parents' property being taken away by others.
values money and weakens family affection. This is a selfish manifestation of human nature and a lack of moral education. What is gratitude and what is filial piety? Many people don’t understand, but are unwilling to do it.
Everyone has the right to pursue happiness and should also be respected and understood by their relatives. The same is true for single elderly people.
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Thank you for your reading and support, and I wish you good health and happiness!
Author: Yi Shi Juan, an emotional narrator with a cheerful personality and joking love. I am willing to accompany my teachers and friends to appreciate life and talk about life with a joke.
