I am a Jiangxi girl working in Xujiahui . In 2019, when I turned 28, my family forced me to go on blind dates, and I was so annoyed.
They pushed several boys to me through various relationships, and some of them were quite good. I originally wanted to give it a try, but every time I met a few times and had a few meals, I really felt it was not suitable for me when I got along, so I proposed to break up. But every time I broke up, my family said that my requirements were too high and I was about to reach 30. At that time, I became an old girl and no one wanted it. Some relatives and friends also sarcastically said that I would not look at myself in a mirror, and that I only have this condition and I am picky about it. After listening to it for a long time, I was brainwashed and began to panic, feeling that all the outstanding boys have been selected. What should I do in the future? Later, I often ran and swimed for weight loss activities, and finally reduced my weight to normal standards.
I originally hoped to let it go and meet the right fate, but my family kept forcing me to not give me time. I was very confused at that time. I stayed at home for a time and was reluctant to go out to meet relatives and friends. People say that talking about love in college is true love, which is very innocent, but when you leave society, you have to be qualified. At least don’t date people who are worse than you, as that will lower your living standards and make the second half of your life very hard. It is said that no matter how cold the weather is, we must live a steaming life, and interesting souls are enough to support the years of being single. Listen to me, don’t listen to me, I am in the eyes of others with filters. Speaking of which, my conditions are OK. My parents bought me an 80-square-meter house in Xujiahui. They are decorated in a relatively high-end style, the furniture is all made of logs, and my appearance is OK. My education is a master's degree, so I refuse to settle for it.
My personality is also relatively strong. I remember that I once had a fight with a male classmate when I was in junior high school. Because he laughed at me for being fat. He was not small. I kicked his table over, picked up a chair and smashed him on the back, knocking him down, and I won a complete victory without any harm.
Of course, my dad was called by the head teacher. My dad made a review to the head teacher and compensated the tables and chairs. At that time, the head teacher asked me to write a review and admitted his mistake in front of the whole class. My dad firmly disagreed with letting me admit his mistake, and the head teacher finally compromised.
My father went out and turned left to buy tables and chairs. The head teacher immediately changed his smiling face. He told me that he had to criticize me as a head teacher in front of my father. He said, "As your teacher, I am pleased with your protection for yourself, but I hope that next time you can fight back on the premise of protecting yourself, don't fight hard, but have to fight in literature." Afterwards, my father also said that I did the right thing. If someone bullies you in the future, you will have to fight back. As long as you can beat yourself, you will definitely not be wronged.
So when a best friend talks about me, I need to adjust my thinking, not be too ambitious or self-esteem, I suddenly retorted and said, I am not that low, both cats and dogs can do it.
Later, I went to matchmaking agency and paid 18,000 yuan. I couldn't bear to leave my children and couldn't get a wolf. I went on a blind date with eight people and dated almost at the same time. Just want to choose the best. At that time, I contacted several partners almost at the same time, without any guilt. In fact, it is normal. I have to compare with three companies when I buy things. After all, this is the blind date stage, not love. I regard it as the stage of finding a job and submitting resumes and interviews. As a result, the ones I chose were those with an annual salary of more than 800,000 yuan, those with houses in Shanghai, and those with parents all had retirement wages. As a result, I finally chose a favorite. At that time, a man invited me to climb the mountain. Although he was strong, he couldn't take care of people. I brought food and he didn't know how to carry my backpack. It seemed that he was showing off his muscles throughout the whole process. I passed it off.
B male, no burden to elders, and both of his parents have passed away. He has a very independent personality and cooks good food. We get along very harmoniously, but I considered that if I don’t have an elder to help me with my child in the future, I would not choose him. Male C, I didn’t talk about WeChat, I met directly.The boy's condition is really good, he is only child, 187 tall, tall, handsome, sunny and cheerful, and his job is a policeman in Xuhui District . His family conditions are also very good. His parents have several houses in Shanghai. I felt very satisfied when I met once. The boy was quite graceful. When I went out to play for the first time, I was picking up the car and sending it off. The chat was good and I was generous in my actions. But after several contacts, I found that the boy was lukewarm and had a little bit of a waste of money. I gave up, couldn't bear to accept it, and I felt a little disgusted. Maybe I thought I was a woman from another place. You can guess later that the boy didn't like me. He chose to give up and slowly stopped contacting me. I also knew what he meant and did not have too much entanglement. Everyone is adults, and it is normal for boys to look down on me. After all, I am a little fat.
D man, his family is from a good family, his parents are both civil servants retired, and he is very strict in discipline and tutoring. He is not the kind of playboy, and his education is also good. I felt pretty good when chatting, but he is a slow-tempered type, not active or proactive, and I always ask me to contact him first.
After I graduated from my master's degree, I was admitted to work in a public institution. My family conditions are ordinary only daughters in other places and towns. My parents have achieved success in doing business. There are 2 houses and 3 shops in third-tier cities. There is an 80-square-meter school district house in Xuhui District, Shanghai, but I am a little fat, 164 cm tall, and I look OK.
The standard for finding a boyfriend is that I have to like my height and appearance. The age difference is no more than 3 years old, a master's degree or above, a diligent and willing person, and a civil servant, a large Internet company, and a surrounding private company. It is also acceptable for wealthy families with many children. As long as parents are healthy and easy to get along with, of course the family cannot have hereditary diseases and must have good character.
I have understood from this blind date that it is impossible for a boy like my ideal, and I cannot be with me. If I still want to find someone I like to get married, then I have to be proactive. So, I scratched my face and sent him a message for two consecutive months, saying good morning and good night every day, at noon, I asked him if he had eaten? I increased his impression and affection for me, heard a good song, sent it to him, and sent it to him an interesting , Douyin , and sent it to him privately, and then shared with him my daily work and life, as well as interesting things happening around me. I treated him as my good friend, told him everything, and shared it with him, let him know that I care about him very much, and let him understand my interesting soul. Two months later, I gradually reduced the number of messages to him and found an excuse to say that I was taking online classes to enrich myself. This is how it is for men and women to interact. The more you give, you will like the other person the more you will be, and the more you will get used to your concern. When you suddenly reduce your concern, he will be afraid of losing you. Later, the situation improved, and slowly he began to send me messages on his own initiative. I also began to share with me the ups and downs of their being policemen.
It’s like this, we are getting back and forth, and naturally we establish a romantic relationship when the melon is ripe and the stems fall. But in fact, I am a bit arrogant when I am with him, because he is better than me in all conditions, but my beauty scheming has worked. After all, it’s a woman chasing the male. When I got married, my family asked for a 200,000 yuan betrothal gift, but the man gave a 800,000 yuan betrothal gift, which was very respectful. Then my family added 200,000 yuan and returned with a dowry of 1 million yuan. We also established a common account and placed it in the drawer, which can be used by both of us.
We got married in 2019, and now we have 2 cute sons.
Some people say that a woman will not be happy in a marriage when pursuing a man. In fact, this view is wrong. Love is a spiritual life, and it respects ideal principles. It is not a complete equality of conditions. When a person does not know you very well, you take the initiative to fully release your strengths and you can also obtain ideal love. Now my husband and I live a very happy life.
