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1Fu Lei "Fu Lei's Family Letter": " people have been floating and ups and downs in their entire lives. As long as the climax does not make you nervous, the low point does not make you decadent, it's good. "
No one's life is a pool of stagnant water, with ups and downs, and ups and downs. Some people have a larger fluctuation in their lives, while others have a smaller fluctuation in their lives. Some people have more ups and downs, while others have less ups and downs.
people want to go to a high place, and don’t want to experience bullying. No one wants to enjoy the pain brought by the trough. However, when people are in a low point, they are powerless and dare not fall into depravity, so they have to encourage themselves or laugh at themselves by enjoying pain.
When we first experience a trough, we will think that the trough is only temporary. But if you experience it repeatedly several times, it doesn’t matter whether you encourage yourself or self-mockery. This state will become a normal state of .
When you have this state in your life, you can be in a state of hard work and not be afraid of boiling water, and you will no longer care about the ups and downs of your life. It is enough to deal with it calmly.
2Friends all say that Lulu has changed and is no longer as reserved as before. Life seems to have no way to do it at all. No matter what she has experienced, she can laugh and scold.
A person's temperament changes a lot, often because a certain experience triggers a certain psychological mechanism . Lulu, who used to be reserved and afraid of things, has now become big-hearted and thick-skinned, which must be related to her experience. Only when a person shakes his former values because of a certain experience can new values appear .
Her changes were related to her emotional experience. The first marriage was betrayed and the second marriage was plotted.
When she first got married, she was very young. The younger a woman cares about her marriage loyalty. She usually seeks death for a relationship and does not allow any impurities in the relationship.
When young people deal with emotional problems, they will not think too much like middle-aged people, because they do not have so many concerns. They will persist thoroughly, and they will not hesitate to give up .
According to her, the failure of that marriage was the first ordeal she had experienced in her life. Although she won in front of others, she lost all face and lost all her face, but she didn't expect that the divorce would be so strong that it would be with her for a year. There was always a voice echoing in her ears: "If you are really a good woman, why would you be betrayed?"
3She was decadent because of the divorce, just like a person who fell into a mud pit, unwilling to go ashore.
She has her logic: " Anyway, after getting ashore, she will fall into the mud again. I might as well lie in the mud pit and accompany the mud. "
Later she was pulled ashore by a man. The man's kindness to her made her mistakenly believe that she would never fall into the mud pit again. But what she didn't expect was that the love she felt was actually pretended to be a man.
After two people were in love and lived together for a year, the man took her home to meet her parents and agreed to get married, but the result was that sheep fell into the tiger's mouth.
After she came into contact with her mother-in-law, she realized that in their family, her boyfriend played the role of bait. Of course, the bait should look like the bait should be, so he will pretend. After taking her home, his mission came to an end, and then it was my mother-in-law's turn to appear on .
Her mother-in-law told her: "If you want to cling to my son, you must hand over your pre-marital property to your mother-in-law first!"
The boyfriend sat next to him and grabbed the barbs on his hand as if he was deaf, and was indifferent to his mother-in-law's words.
Lulu was puzzled, not understanding whether it was because she was a fool in his mind, or whether he was incompetent in playing the role of bait, why could he not understand why the mother and the mother dared to make such unreasonable requests with confidence, and it seemed that she would accept it.
She had a fight with her mother-in-law, and then she left: " I originally wanted to marry rich people to enjoy happiness, but I was regarded as a money tree. Is the meaning of living in this world just being played with by others? Is it probably a monkey in my previous life, otherwise why would anyone want to fool me? "
4Is she a monkey in her previous life? I don't know, I only know that her life is similar to what many netizens joke about: ups and downs... it's endless.
If a person's life is determined to be this pattern, it will not be that difficult. It doesn’t matter if you fall again and again, it’s good if you get used to it. When you don’t take your life seriously, it doesn’t matter if you are decadent. What I fear most is struggle, which will only make you fall deeper and fall more heavily in .
The fact is that no one’s life will continue to fall, it’s just an illusion. Even if it keeps falling in the process, it is because of subjective factors. When you are decadent and degenerate in the trough, your condition is not good, and your life may definitely continue to decline.
When people are in a low point, the most important thing is not to be eager for quick success or instant benefits, or to get ashore from the mud pit at the fastest speed, but to recognize and accept their own situation. No matter how difficult it is, it is just to treat it as your own life and a certain stage of life. If you can’t run, just walk, and if you don’t walk quickly, walk slowly. Don’t care so much about whether the future will be better. Just care that your current life is not bad. .
