text/Da Meng
Love is the attraction between men and women, and it is the most advanced form of getting along in interpersonal relationships.
Good love must be equal to each other's relationship and status. Both parties have certain autonomy and voice in their relationship; love and being loved are like flowing water in the riverbed, flowing each other.
Zhang Ailing once said that falling in love with someone will make you humble to the soil. However, love that comes from humble begging will never last.
The relationship between equal personality and identity status is a healthy and easy to nourish people.
Smart women rarely please their partner, but can maintain self-esteem and self-love in love and attract their partners to their side.
1. In love, knowing how to be your own woman will be more likely to be appreciated by men
" Bottom Line " episode, Zhou Yian confessed to Ye Xin, and Ye Xin asked him what he liked about him.
Zhou Yian said without hesitation that when she first got along with Ye Xin, she felt that her shortcomings were much more than her advantages. She was stubborn in doing things, was stubborn, didn’t know how to discipline, and was stubborn. All her body exuded was aura of 6 people living with .
But after getting familiar with it, I found that Ye Xin is very kind and sincere, and is easy to get along with.
Zhou Yian's confession Ye Xin quickly accepted it because she also had a good impression of Zhou Yian in her mind. She would be embarrassed to face the cheers of her colleagues, but she insisted on being herself well. She did not lower her attitude in front of the other side because she liked Zhou Yian and would obey and please everything.
instead insists on being his own characteristics, making Zhou Yian more convinced.
There is a saying: If you bloom, the butterfly will come. Be yourself well and don’t change it in order to please others. Your shining points will eventually be seen by the appreciated people, and the flower of love will bloom under the watering of real emotions.
Don’t focus on changing for others. Always remember that good love is to meet the right person while making yourself comfortable. It is not to compromise and please your partner.
2. The love obtained by begging is not strong. Men will choose to leave
because they meet someone they love more. They will see the other person's feelings very important, and they will even lose their minds, cannot see the truth in their feelings, and be kind to someone without any bottom line. The love obtained by begging alone may be a game that a man may get on a whim, or may be given briefly, but none of them can truly possess the true heart of a man.
If a woman is not attractive, she lacks the ability to tie a man around her. After the novelty of a man passes away, she will never pay attention to any woman's demands in love.
Just like Xiaoyu in "The Wife's Choice", she is very good to her boyfriend, taking care of each other's daily life like a nanny, obeying everything and accommodating, and her love for men is far beyond her and her family.
Unfortunately, Xiaoyu's efforts are not exchanged for the sincerity of a man, but the contempt of a man, trampling on Xiaoyu's good deeds again and again. Xiaoyu sacrifices love while being sad.
The more humble the love you beg for, the more likely it is to lose. Men will not take women who lower their dignity to heart, and they will even tease others' feelings because they know that someone loves them unconditionally.
3. Really beautiful love, attracting each other, even if it is pleasing, it is mutual
Two people can be together and based on the mutual attraction between each other. Only in this way can the relationship be bonded, and even if there are contradictions and uneasiness in the process of getting along, they can quickly reconcile as before.
Moreover, good love is a two-way rush: One of them is afraid that the other person is unhappy and will try to please the other person. Just like the most common way of getting along in love is to please the other person in order to accommodate his lover.
However, pleasing also exists mutually, in a dynamic balance, not just one of them is working hard.
Falling in love with someone will make you afraid of losing, so you will act to please your partner when there are emotional problems.
However, there is a limit to pleasing. Real pleasing should have the purpose of making emotions more harmonious, rather than just unilaterally grieving and seeking completeness. Pleasing is no longer an effective tool for managing love, but will become a pressure to get along with each other.
Woman, if you fall in love with someone, remember that if there is a 100-step distance between two people, you have willingly completed 99 of them. Don’t continue to walk the remaining last step.
If a relationship is maintained entirely by one's grievances and seeking omniscience, the ending of this relationship is destined to be a failure.
Good love does not need to be pleased. The other party can see your efforts and will be willing to take the initiative to maintain the relationship between the two parties.
I am Dameng, an emotional counselor, committed to healing myself, and want to help more friends who encounter emotional problems solve problems. If you have emotional problems, please come to me.
