Actually, I think it’s good to be an ordinary person. In today’s society where anxiety is becoming more and more normal, being a happy ordinary person is not the best solution. Just as Li Dan said: “The so-called anxiety is just an ambivalence that you are unwilling to accept and cannot solve.” Yes, ordinary people are complaining about the hardships of life and the injustice of fate, those successful people are already on the way to achieve their goals. They may be in the car to the company, on the treadmill in the gym, or in the conference room until dawn, maybe. . . . .
The ordinary people discussed today are not those who can accept and change those who have positive values. I want to talk about the thinking logic of ordinary people and the underlying logic of why they cannot get out of the mediocre curse.
An American sociologist conducted statistics in the United States. The presidents of the top groups (top 100) of the United States, CEO, the heads of the group, are basically either from poor families or from the so-called rich second generation of family businesses, and more than 80% of them are highly educated. Why is there no one in the United States, which accounts for the majority of small capitalists and middle-class people, who can become the president of the top groups? Is it IQ, genes, or economic conditions? Is it education level, or vision and knowledge?
is actually their habits and thinking logic developed since childhood. This kind of thinking will be destined to be ordinary, a middle class, economic level, and family conditions, so what they bring to children is to not worry about food and clothing, just live by, and it is easy to have characteristics such as not fighting for, not being willing to try, and not being able to try anything in school. They are not lacking in anything, not being good at anything, not persisting in trying anything, and not being curious about anything will also become a stumbling block for their success, mediocre and unaware of it. In fact, the reason why most ordinary people are ordinary is that they do not know themselves and do not reflect on themselves. They will never know their true state, advantages, emotions, and social applications of their personalities (not simply introverted, brave and shy, etc.), because their eyes have never looked at themselves. They are very busy and very busy, but after a day, they don’t know anything, what they have made, what progress and gains have, and what are the shortcomings, and they don’t even have time to think about it, because after a nap, there are still many things to be busy with.
I have a friend who has been unknown since childhood, and has never fought for anything. He has always been the middle class. Since childhood, no teacher remembers her, and he has never studied any interest classes. He is not interested in everything and is indifferent. I asked her why she didn't choose a club to play. He told me that I don't know what to choose. I said, "I haven't tried anything, and I don't know what I like. She said, "I haven't tried anything, and I don't know what I like. I don't know what I like. She said, "I haven't tried anything, and I don't know what I like. "A person who has never experienced anything lives like a blank piece of paper. Some people will say that she is simple, pure, quiet, and gentle, but only I know that she is afraid and inferior. Once you are out of touch with all social relations, it is a terrible thing. This means that you have no right to speak, no common topic, no same hobbies, no social experience, or even no personality. It is terrible to think about it. So after three years of school, our classmates don't even remember her name.
I also have a friend who likes short trips. In the past two years of school in Nanjing, I have basically visited Nanjing. So one day I asked her if she had any feelings and gains from these trips. She said, "It's very relaxing, fun, and happy." I asked again, what about other things, such as local culture, humanistic sentiment, or something delicious. She said, "I forgot." She didn't even feel her own feelings, so these few trips were meaningless. In fact, everything people do is to know themselves, understand themselves, and find themselves. If each experience can inspire different sides or more possibilities, then this is a very worthwhile thing. This thinking pattern and behavioral style are also destined to be ordinary, so now even things she likes are forced to give up because the economy cannot support it.
Finally, I want to say that people must constantly experience failure, experience setbacks, and experience the lasting satisfaction and emotions of success, because only if you have experienced setbacks can you cherish and be grateful for success. Only when you constantly accumulate success can you have the courage to continue to try and overcome seemingly impossible challenges and setbacks. Getting rid of ordinary things does not require a lot of success, nor does it have to be very tired. Psychological experts have done experiments. It only takes one time for your brain to remember this feeling and stimulate neurons to challenge more difficult tasks. For example, it seems unlikely to lose 10 kilograms a month, but as long as you do it, you will be more likely to lose 15-18 kilograms next month, and it is also possible that you don’t need to lose so much. What’s the matter? Anyway, you have experienced success, enjoyed and become a better self.
