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Let’s talk about a case first.
A few days ago, a woman left a message in the background saying:
"I thought I just wanted to play, but in the end, I escaped and I was still deeply involved."
below, let’s listen to her story, it’s worth our discussion.
She and her husband are alumni. They have been married for eight years and their children are still in elementary school.
However, because her husband works all year round, she feels very lonely, so the two of them always have constant conflicts and often argue.
Half a year ago, she was pulled into a chat group of men and women by a female best friend, where she met a married man.
man is very humorous and witty, and he is considerate and caring to her. Every time he chats, he can talk about it to her heart. The man also said that his wife had mental cheating , so they often quarrel over this matter, and he really wanted to get rid of the current marriage.
On the one hand, the woman deeply feels that men are the lover she wants at the moment, and on the other hand, she feels that their previous marriages are wrong, so she immediately falls in love with this man, and loves him hard to part with.
Finally, the woman thought of divorce and tried to convince the man to divorce together and wanted to start a new family with him.
But when a man heard the woman say this, he immediately backed down and said bluntly: It is impossible.
The reason he gave was that, on the one hand, he couldn't bear the blow of his divorce, and on the other hand, his parents were both older and could not stand the blow of his divorce.
So, the woman chose to break off contact with him with a feeling of loss, and the man also agreed.
was broken for just a few days, and the woman couldn't eat well and couldn't sleep. She contacted the man again, and the two of them recovered as before.
When a woman's husband came home, he found a message sent to her by a man on the woman's mobile phone. Her husband thought about it and decided to separate first and divorce in two years.
The woman panicked at this time and wanted to discuss what to do with the man, but the man blocked her directly at this time. No matter how she contacted her, the man never paid attention to her again.
woman said: Thinking of his ruthlessness, I feel like a fool. I regret it very much now. I don’t want to divorce and I can’t bear to give up my children.
It’s a pity that you regret it now, it’s too late.
-02-
Women's "lack of love"
The above case is a typical extramarital emotion: women are very short of love, and men just want to have fun.
are both cheating, you will find that what women want is different from what men want: what women want is a lot of love, while most men are just working for women's skin and body.
Once upon a time, a woman sent two photos in the background. The woman in the photo was obviously middle-aged. She asked: Am I beautiful, can I deserve him? Why did he praise me for being beautiful yesterday but ignore me today?
Another photo she sent was a man "touching his head".
only finds it funny.
It can be seen that when a woman lacks love, she probably doesn’t know how naive her words and deeds are.
In life, you will find that this kind of woman who lacks love will emit a hormone that lacks love all over her body. For example, most of the circles of friends she posted are "lonely and cold". When you chat with her, the content will also be "Come and love me", "Come and flirt with me"...
Her emotional fragility will make her ignore the factor of "love", blindly think that a man says a few concerns to him and flirt with a few ambiguous words, which means that they fall in love with each other.
So, when a man comes out to eat wilderness, he will naturally aim at her target. Because she is so easy to get started, she is simply a good move for a promiscuous person.
He would understand her thoughts well and understand how to coax her into the bed. When he was familiar with the road, he would take her as a member of the harem.
-03-
"Extramarital lover" that men want
Women will have a mysterious self-confidence when facing extramarital lovers: If he loves his wife, how could he be with me?
And when a man faces an extramarital lover, his true psychology is: Hello, I can have tens of millions of dollars, and a heart can hold three thousand in the harem.
So, there will always be women who cheat, who are heartbroken, unable to let go, unable to forget, unable to live, and even divorce for a man outside of marriage. At this time, the man probably used his actions to tell you: the time for me to leave has arrived.
Friends talked about an extramarital affair that happened in their hospital.
The man was a surgeon, but he had extramarital affairs with a patient's family again and again. After being discovered by his wife, he was busy getting rid of it and blocked the mistress. It happened that a mistress was pregnant at this time, and he divorced for him. The mistress found the hospital and made a big fuss. The extramarital affair was well known to everyone.
Finally, the man not only lost his job, but also lost his marriage.
estimates that this consequence is also something he could not have imagined.
I still remember that I saw an article introducing a survey: Most women cheat on each other are acquaintances; most men cheat on each other are strangers.
Therefore, women cheat on old classmates, colleagues, friends, etc., while men cheat on them, just like the sea. As long as the other party exudes a "lack of love", he will smell the smell and beat him up.
Of course, we are not here to excuse women, but because most women will be immersed in the "psychedelic of love" no matter what age they are, and want men to pamper and care for her.
But in the end, the results are mostly achieved, men are in the kidneys and women are in the heart.
So, women, you must know: a married man, who obviously has a family, can still hunt extramarital lovers everywhere, his character has already determined that he will not be "sincere" to you!
-04-
Extramarital relationships are mostly emotions of "death when you see the light"
How many women will always believe in men telling how bad their wives are, and then they will compare with themselves and show their "good" to extramarital men.
But, you forgot, if he tells you how harmonious he is with his wife, can you still take the bait?
Women should understand that love requires unity of body and mind, and they need to be in love.
Even if there is a problem between you and your current lover, you should first resolve the conflicts within marriage instead of expanding externally. You must be clear: if a lover outside of marriage really loves you, he will not "flirt" with you like this.
You should know that men look for extramarital lovers, but they are not troublesome, so you can dump them.
So he would ask you, a married woman, to "flirt", because you both have families and understand the rules of having extramarital affairs, and will not cause trouble to each other.
Just like the woman we mentioned at the beginning, the man who later blocked her was probably seeing that the woman was going to divorce for him, and the woman's husband knew what happened to them, so he ran away in fear.
So, women, don't be stupid.
You are too immersed in the role, but it just touched yourself.
What people want is just dewy love, but you think you can "this love lasts forever".
Have an extramarital affair. For a woman who lacks love, the ending is only painful and sad, which will make you lose your lover and make your child a single parent.
have an extramarital affair. For a man who is searching for everywhere, the ending is that your character is getting worse and worse, and your marriage will be completely destroyed by you.
In short: extramarital emotions cannot escape only one ending: when you see the light, you will die.
Author, calm fox
picture, online
May you find the deep affection in my words in the ordinary years! Thanks for your attention!
