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China, where there are more than 4.1 billion single women ? This is not alarmist, but real. What causes this situation? Is inappropriate or unwilling to get married?
In everyone's mind, what kind of concept of marriage and love is considered normal in ? Have a car, a house and a deposit? or have the affection to drink water? Or are you a non-marriager who only enjoys the present? Or maybe I would be a little princess who doesn’t touch love, after all, the word love is the most hurtful.
The word love, until now, almost no one can tell what love looks like . Everyone meets different people and things, so their concept of love is different.
With the continuous progress of the times, society has higher and higher requirements for women. constantly requires girls to be independent, but still wants women not to forget their family when taking care of their careers. Children lack maternal love, and there will be no complete childhood. If so, what does marriage give to women? family? child? They are still some husbands who only make money and ignore their family.
Of course, there are many good men in the world. They can make money by , and they will help their wives take care of their children to do housework when they get home. But ask yourself, how many men are there like ?
I saw a blogger online saying: These women in China who are unwilling to get married and are single are being praised by capital . What is it to be praised by? Why do you want to praise and kill?
is because in today's era, only women and children's money is best for . Women can spend a lot of money on a bag, a piece of clothing or cosmetics. Some women can eat instant noodles for several months for a brand-name bag, and use the saved salary to meet their face needs. Of course, there may be very few such women. After all, no matter how good the bag is, it cannot support themselves.
whatever capitalists are willing to praise women who can spend money at will for things outside of themselves, and constantly promote their products in advertisers. For example, a merchant selling luxury bags will say: buy a bag you like can "treat all diseases" . The cosmetics boss will say: has no ugly women but only lazy women.
Especially in recent years, a business that specifically tailored for women with : body management . Whether you are an ordinary mother or an unmarried woman, you can see that the benefits of body management are everywhere in the circle of friends: for example, in the past, I thought that thinness was the most beautiful, but now I think that thinness was the most beautiful, and then with various pictures of hot beauties, makes women in life who are not satisfied with their figure want to participate immediately.
When women sprinkle money for these things outside, the purpose of these merchants is achieved. While selling to you, they constantly praise you, making you think you are a unique existence, the most beautiful little fairy in the world, carry their branded bags, wear their figure management clothes, and use their cosmetics, and you are the most beautiful baby on the street.
Under such praise, these women naturally think that ordinary men in are not worthy of them at all, and must be the second generation of official or the second generation of rich . The key point is: These men must also be good-looking, otherwise wouldn’t it be useless to marry him? So now there are more and more single women who are unwilling to get married to . They believe that this is the capital that has changed women's values and distorted their views.
Seeing this, there must be many men who support this statement, believing that women are extremely materialistic. As soon as falls in love, they ask to buy a house and a car , otherwise they don’t have the idea of getting married. Therefore, men think: Can’t you get married without a house? Have you lived with a room or with me?
With such thoughts, men will feel resentful. Then when they really talk about marriage, if the man really can't buy a house in , they should blame the woman for material . They are not fond of him at all, but for house money, etc. At the same time, the man's family will also say: It's okay if you don't want such a girl, but for women who only like external things, what's the point of nostalgia for women? There are so many women in the world that they can't find a wife.
Yes, this group of women who have married because the house is abject and see the true face of men, thinking that men are the same. If they meet such people after several blind dates, it will make women even more unwilling to get married and fall in love.
From this point of view, is it really a problem for all women? I don't see that in today's fast-paced life, everyone wants to have a place to settle down. When two people get married, they are a small family. newlyweds are definitely unwilling to live with the elderly. After all, women of this age group have very different concepts from older mother-in-law. Whether it is living habits or parenting concepts, these are the crux of the contradictions in the future. Everyone says that distance creates beauty. is not limited to men and women, but also includes the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Frequently not meeting will avoid many conflicts, and the relationship will be better. But if you live together every day, who will not have conflicts? The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are a contradiction. Of course, there are many very excellent mother-in-law in real life who are as good as their daughters, but not every woman can encounter these problems. If you have a room in , almost all of them can solve . Why is the man unwilling to do so? Either the family really has no money, or the man's parents did not like the woman whom his son brought back, and did not want her to be his daughter-in-law. , so no matter what the girl asked for, they would not meet .
Some boys may be very dissatisfied with this. They will definitely say that , how many mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along well on TikTok, are they all fake? I don't deny that it's all fake, but there are definitely many of them acting. Once becomes popular, it's easy to make money. , then no matter how bad the relationship is, it will be very good for money. , no one will be able to get along with money. .
Why don’t women now want to get married? Some people say: I haven’t read too much poisonous chicken soup on . I say that I can make money and spend on my own. Why do I have to give birth to children for those stinky men? It turns out that the children I gave birth to are not yours. Some people also say: Isn’t it just that I’m crazy about playing and don’t want to return to normal life? In this case, most women do not agree with it. There are many toxic chicken soup online, but the problems that arise in society now tell women : Get married with caution. Why
? Some men look very good, whether it is 's family, appearance or work , but only his wife knows what they look like in private. Some men look excellent on the surface, but in the family, they are a man with and his wife's spirit PUA. Every day when they come home, they will tell their wife, without me, you can't live such a good life at all. Without me, you are nothing . There are many TV series like
. Gradually, women dare not contact men anymore. After all, they have hands, feet and abilities, and it is still very simple to support themselves. you will definitely say that TV series is just that, not true. Have you forgotten that there is a saying: sees it comes from life and is higher than life. Many themes of TV series come from real events in life, and some are even beautified.
In addition to the examples on TV, there are also the various life seen in real life. There are constant videos of men bruteing women leaking, and there are also many married women's feelings that the freedom before marriage has been dragged by life and children. The most important thing is that in today's era, women no longer rely on men to live . Some women in earn more than men and work better. So in this case, who is willing to compromise? Isn’t it nice to eat, drink and have fun alone? Isn’t it better to find a nursing home with the money you earned?
There is another most important reason, that is, in real life, they see too many women who get married, turns from princesses to nannies, but men don’t cherish it. Most women have the determination to work hard with their husbands, but most men cannot do it all the time after they become rich. Once they have money, they abandon their wives. women are originally independent, and when they see similar news, they will naturally be afraid of getting married.
Since 2013, the marriage rate in my country has been declining, from the original 9.97% to below 7.2% . In addition to unmarried, the divorce rate of in recent years has also increased , resulting in the number of singles rising rapidly. In addition to women who do not want to get married due to external reasons, there are also some boys who want to get married but cannot meet their favorites. Some women's working environment leads to few boys they can come into contact with, and they don't have the opportunity to fall in love freely. They can only get to know through blind dates. However, some women think that people they know on blind dates can never find the feeling of being moved by . After for a long time, they naturally become a single person.
Someone conducted a survey in 2019. The survey report showed that the reason for too many single women is that they have too high requirements for boys of the right age in their minds. These boys must be ambitious, good-looking, optimistic and cheerful. The requirements of these women in are not too much, but once has a house and a car, they will be defined as a "money-worshiping woman" by men.
Of course, I think that men and women who go through blind dates are indeed qualified to make requirements. After all, no one knows who is . In this fast-paced society, is honest with each other. The fastest way to understand . Those women who are free to fall in love with are actually easy to coax. As long as this boy is nice to her, she will really be with him regardless of everything. These women are just affectionate and drink water. As long as they are with the person they like, RVs are all things outside of their bodies and are not allowed to be .
There are also some single women who have been influenced by their original family since childhood. has caused them to be unwilling to enter into marriage. is afraid of repeating the old path of their parents , so they only fall in love but not get married. This is unacceptable for boys who want to get married, so the final result can only be a breakup. Therefore, there are many reasons for the number of single women, and they cannot be simply called capital. Although there are some such reasons, various factors can make women unwilling to get married. Whether it is independent women or women after divorce, they all have their own considerations. Everyone is responsible and working hard for their lives. What kind of life they want to live is their right and freedom.
