People often say that he doesn't love me anymore, how can he change him;
Some people also say that he doesn't pay his salary now, how can he get him to submit it;
Some people also say that he doesn't listen to me now, and used to obey everything, how can he make him the same as before;
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sounds like he wants to transform the other party and make the other party the same as he imagined.
So they tried their best to make trouble and talked everywhere, not giving the other side at all. As a result, the man did not manage his finances, and of course he could not achieve his goal.
I hope my lover will give you more love. It’s understandable. After all, why don’t you like to use it?
But the prerequisite for you to transform it is, can you change it?
There are several factors to change men.
First of all, is it willing to be changed by you?
This is the most important condition for transformation. Many people want to change each other, and they only remember when the relationship between the two people is bad.
At this time, the other party cannot be changed by you. The more you ask for it, the more rebellious he is. At this time, you can only use your own value to attract him.
makes him willing to change for you, afraid of losing you.
Other noisy methods will only make the relationship worse and worse.
He doesn't love you, he will be annoyed when he sees you. How can he change for you? Be kind to you, he loves you, you don't need to say anything, he knows everything.
Secondly, do you want to change whether it is formed acquired or born with it?
Everyone's factory is marked by their original family. These habits and personalities that have followed him for decades cannot be changed by just saying that you can change.
When you are with him, you should know that he is such a person and you cannot change him because many things are powerless even if they have the will. They are memories engraved in his bones.
Those who are like this from the bottom of their hearts, such as betrayal, violent li, and mama's baby. You cannot change these characteristics of not knowing how to respect you.
Even for you, the more you do in your marriage, the more fearless the other party is and doesn’t care at all.
So when you meet such a person, no matter how much you give, it will be nothing but a waste and will only make yourself sad.
In addition, the part that can be changed by you, what do you use to attract him to change.
You hope he will give you money. Many times, it is precisely because you have money and don’t rely on him. He is afraid of losing you and desperately trying to be nice to you, so he will take the initiative to buy you various gifts.
If he thinks that you can only spend money at home and know nothing, he will not be willing to give you money.
He thinks you are dragging him down. People say that love will not be on people who lack love, so money is also a person who lacks money.
You are financially independent and don’t care about him, so he will be willing to give up.
So if you want him to give you money, you often need to have the ability yourself.
Some people will say, if I have money, why do I need his money? That's different. If you have it, it's yours, and he gives it his will.
He is just willing to give someone who is capable, not someone who asks him for it.
You hope he will be with you. It is precisely because you have a fulfilling life and can live a good life alone. When he sees your wonderful life and exudes charm, he is willing to get close to you, because you are interesting in this way.
If you can only browse your phone, do nothing, and can't talk to him anything, then he naturally doesn't want to be with you.
So before you want to transform the other party, see if he can be changed by you, and secondly, you have anything worth what he is willing to change for you.
Between people, value determines your status.
