Older leftover women are a lukewarm topic. It’s okay not to say it, but it’s easy to cause verbal wars when you say it.
Many times, some people don’t think your point is wrong, but just want to curse people!
So when talking about emotional topics, especially this type of topic, you must have strong psychological qualities, because if you are not careful, you will be besieged by a group of people, and if you are not careful, you will be ruined. Therefore, celebrities rarely take the initiative to talk about emotional marriage issues, but for me who is unknown, there are not many taboos on this topic.
Older leftover women are a product of this fast-paced society. Unlike older leftover men, because older leftover men have existed since ancient times, but older leftover women are a group that has only begun to appear suddenly in recent years.
As people's desire for material needs is growing and women's thinking is awakened, more people realize a problem: in this society, money is the source of all sense of security!
So whether it is a man or a woman, they pay more attention to how to make money, so as to put the emotional issues into a secondary position.
However, the rise of the Internet has made the circulation of information more convenient, and more and more marriage scandals have begun to recur, which has created a marriage illusion for people: the vast majority of people’s marriages are not happy!
Regardless of whether the facts are true or not, it is undeniable that under the influence of this information, people not only have conflicts with marriage, but even fear. Under the dual influence of
More and more women are fleeing marriage, refusing marriage, and beginning to enjoy the freedom of one person.
I believe that in this group, a considerable number of women are late to realize.
When they wanted to get married, they realized that it was too late, because their high-quality partners had already been sold out by the market, leaving a bunch of crooked dates.
It's like pulling out a big guy in the slut, and it's hard to choose a perfect partner.
The more picky you are, the older you are, and finally became a member of the older single woman and had to carry the banner of "independent women".
Older leftover women have come to this point. Some people may regret it, but they have to bite the bullet and go on.
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Why are older single women in trouble
I saw a post in the evening about older single women. Obviously, the post was posted by a man.
He listed the core issues of older women based on his years of blind date experience.
(1) Older leftover women are older, but the requirements have not been reduced.
In this post, when a girl in her twenties is on a blind date, the other party will ask him to have a house, a car and a stable job, and the dowry cannot be less than 200,000 yuan.
However, when he went on a blind date with a girl in his thirties, the other party also asked him to have a house, a car and a stable job, and the dowry can even be as high as 250,000 yuan, or even higher.
In comparison, which one do boys prefer to choose? The answer is self-evident.
(2) I am old but still a cute girl in my heart
Do you think a 20-year-old girl is cute and simple; then do you think a 40-year-old woman is cute and simple?
Few people think so, and even women may not necessarily recognize it.
However, among the ranks of older leftover women, a considerable number of women do things that are extremely inconsistent with their age.
Before, there was a girl like this in our company. She was in her forties, but she still felt like a little girl in her heart when she spoke and did things. She was cute from time to time, which made all the boys in the company laugh.
I remember when I watched a variety show before, Hao Lei said when commenting on a woman: What age do you have to act at what age you are.
is not just a female star, it should be like this for anyone. At any age, you should show what this age should look like.
This is not about living for others to see, it is a manifestation of growth, that's all.
(3) Economic value and emotional value
The big difference between older leftover women and young women is that the former can provide certain economic value, while the latter can provide more emotional value.
But this has a big contradiction with the first one.
In other words, a man who has a house, a car, a deposit, and can give out hundreds of thousands of brides, may not need women to provide too much economic value, and he hopes to get more emotional value from women.
Given a very simple example:
A man with a little success, what he wants to see after returning home is delicious food, a warm and clean room and a virtuous and gentle wife;
Compared to when he returned home, he might not feel very happy when he saw his wife sitting on the sofa eating snacks and playing dramas, making a messy room.
For marriage itself, sometimes equal strength is only needed in a higher level society; compared with the general public, complementary marriage is the foundation that can last for a long time.
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How to break the deadlock of older leftover women
Breaking the dilemma of older leftover women does not mean that they must enter marriage, this is not the only way.
The fundamental reason why older leftover women became "infamous" is because in this group, there are some women who use marriage as a means.
They hope to achieve class leap through marriage. This idea makes older leftover women less accepted by the public.
In fact, age is just a number for real independent women, and they actually don’t care at all.
Those women who live freely, even if they are not married, even if they are no longer young, still have hope for the future and passion for life.
So the first level to break the dilemma of older single women is to accept yourself.
Accept yourself not only accept your current self, but also accept your past self and future self. A woman who can accept herself will definitely not be afraid of the rules in her emotions.
She dares to accept her imperfections and can appreciate the beauty in herself. This mentality makes women more positive and grow.
Accept yourself and will not care whether life is perfect or not, but will enjoy every moment in the present and every different stage in life.
The second level of breaking the dilemma of older single women is to compromise and grow. is right, it’s just a compromise!
The real life is from politicians holding authority to the people; from merchants who are rich enough to rival a country, to peddlers on the roadside, everyone must learn to compromise in this life.
Compromise is not to admit defeat, compromise is a kind of growth.
There are always people on the Internet saying that we should treat our feelings as we like, but the result of our feelings is: the flood of love or the one we missed.
No relationship will live a peaceful life. It will definitely go through a lot of running-in and finally achieve a balance that belongs to the tacit understanding of two people.
In this process, we must learn to compromise. Compromise seems to be a temporary grievance, but it can bring happiness for a lifetime.
There is a kind of unhappiness in society now called "He feels that others are unhappy".
When we see some family conflicts, we open our mouths and say: This couple is not happy. Even list a bunch of opinions to support them.
Contradictions in emotional relationships are essential, and happiness is never necessary to let “others feel it”.
We don’t have to pay attention to whether others are happy. We just need to take it seriously when the relationship comes.
If we compromise and grow up, but still can't continue together, it means that we are indeed inappropriate to each other, but at least we have experienced growth and transformation.
The reason why love exists in this world is that I think it is not a thing that we all can have.
is actually a gift to life, allowing us to grow and feel.
Perhaps no one can get love;
Only when the old couple with silver hair, with their eyes closed after the baptism of the years, can they truly understand what love is.
