There is a question on the Internet: "What kind of people are easier to achieve?"
There is a good answer:
"Look at how he deals with things when he is not satisfied."
On the road to growth, eight out of ten things that are not satisfied; people who are not satisfied can be seen everywhere.
How to deal with yourself when facing adversity is the yardstick to measure how high a person can go.
There are 4 signs of a positive life: you can stand the idleness, listen to criticism, withstand pressure, and endure loneliness.
01
can bear idleness
People with a pattern are not afraid of being angry.
can stand the idleness and become a great man. There is such a story in the book "Planning".
Chen Bing's leader was once a technical expert in a major Internet manufacturer. He has strong technical capabilities. His subordinates ask questions and will explain them carefully, but he always likes to criticize them first.
No one could stand this anger and dared not approach him, while Chen Bing was the opposite.
Once, Chen Bing went to ask for the question. The leader took a look and said casually: "Is this problem difficult? How did you graduate before?"
Facing the heart-wrenching criticism, Chen Bing just smiled slightly and leaned over and listened carefully to the leader's explanation. At the technical iteration meeting of
, the leader explained several technical difficulties. Everyone seemed to understand, but no one dared to ask.
Only Chen Bing dares to ask the leader for advice.
Without any surprise, the leader came up and said, "Didn't I just tell you? What are your ears for?" Chen Bing smiled every time the leader scolded him.
This "stricken" has continuously improved Chen Bing's technical capabilities. In less than a year, he was promoted to supervisor.
Just imagine, if Chen Bing was discouraged by his leader, how could he outperform everyone around him?
Someone once said:
"People who are better than you often like to show off their superiority by hitting you. It seems to make you extremely uncomfortable, but in fact it does not hurt you."
People are in a low place, and they all meet strong people when they look up. They are inevitably cold-eyed everywhere and often get idle.
It is useless to avoid it when facing idleness; it is irrational to confront tits and is irrational; it is even more annoying to complain.
A truly powerful person can swallow his grievances and support his magnanimity; swallow complaints and feed the big picture.
The pattern of dealing with things is bigger, and the road to life will be wider.
Only by daring to be angry can you stand on the shoulders of a strong man, let yourself be high, see far, and gain more.
02
listen to criticism
There is a saying that goes: "When you are criticized by , fools refute every sentence and argue in everything; wise people reflect on themselves everywhere and improve at all times."
Smart people understand that they can listen to criticism without limits.
Chinese scholar Wang Shumin , I have had such an experience.
Wang Shumin was a famous talent in the school at that time and was very satisfied with his talent.
Once, his teacher Fu Sinian asked him what topic he was good at studying, and Wang Shumin answered "Zhuangzi" without hesitation.
He blurted out and recited the chapter "Zhuangzi" "Zhuang Zhou dreamed of being a butterfly" in "Zhuangzi", and expressed his thoughtful deep understanding and his face was full of satisfaction.
I thought that my talent would make the teacher proud and highly praised it, but after reading it, Fu Sinian criticized mercilessly:
"Superficial! If you want to be my student, first wash away your talent. You are not allowed to publish any articles within three years. You can study "Zhuangzi" in depth."
The sudden blow was like a bolt from the blue, which made Wang Shumin extremely uncomfortable, but he still resisted and agreed to the teacher's request.
As the topic gradually deepened, he realized that his previous knowledge was so shallow, and he felt deeply ashamed of his previous self-righteousness.
From then on, he worked hard, calmed down and followed the teacher to concentrate on studying "Zhuangzi".
Three years later, he became a master of Chinese studies with the research results of "Zhuangzi".
In life, there are always such people who have achieved some results and are complacent and have a high opinion of themselves.
Little do you know that pertinent criticism will constantly remove unnecessary stains, carve away your own flaws, and make you a piece of beautiful jade.
Fan Deng once said:
"The more mediocre a person is, the more he prefers praise; the more successful a person is, the more he can accept criticism from others."
A person's attitude when facing criticism is often the height of his life.
The most advanced way to deal with criticism is to deal with it with humility, treat it sincerely, correct it if there is something, and encourage it if there is nothing.
On the road to growth, those who remind you and those who criticize you are like the lights of exploring the path, illuminating your hidden shortcomings and deficiencies.
Only by listening to criticism can you continue to improve and move forward steadily.
03
can withstand the pressure
I like this sentence: "If you can withstand the baptism of fire, the mud will also have a strong body."
Similarly, being able to withstand the baptism of pressure is the greatest fulfillment for yourself.
I have seen such a story.
Xiaoxiao is engaged in planning work and has entered a large enterprise through hard work.
Soon, Xiaoxiao took a lot of effort to complete the first plan since she joined the company. She thought she could show her skills and gain recognition from the leaders.
never thought that her plan was useless by her colleagues at the plan seminar.
"There is no logic to speak of", "Is this a solution?" and other voices are coming one after another.
leader even said bluntly: "Why did you apply for a job with such a poor level?" The blow from all colleagues in
made Xiaoxiao extremely uncomfortable.
But she did not retreat because of this. She understood that if you bear this pressure, it is the real change.
For this reason, she began to look for various learning materials. At the same time, she also collected a large number of excellent plans in the unit and studied them one by one.
even found a personal teacher to help her grow.
After two months of hard work, Xiaoxiao's plan could hardly be found at a new plan seminar, and the leader repeatedly praised her for being reborn.
Xiaoxiao has gained the attention of leaders.
Water will not spray without pressure, and people will not be strong without pressure.
Dare to face pressure and be brave to take on things is the basic quality of a strong man.
The world of adults, pressure is the norm, and every change is a challenge; every growth is a tempering.
The book "Attitude" says: "Anyone who wants to change will inevitably break away from his comfort zone and face challenges that ordinary people cannot reach. Those who can withstand this pressure are the best."
If you can withstand the pressure, your life will thrive; if you can overcome difficulties, your life will transform from this.
In this life, the greater the pressure you bear, the higher the achievements you deserve.
04
can withstand loneliness
Excellent people are not only not afraid of loneliness, but also know how to shine silently in loneliness.
A few days ago I saw a very popular video. In the video of
, a chef said: "Thank you very much for giving me the opportunity to be lonely."
It turns out that he is usually very busy and can get off work after 1 o'clock every night, so he has no spare time to do anything else.
During the epidemic, he did not choose to lie flat, but reviewed his experience at home and studied new dishes.
finally developed two new dishes, which became popular dishes in the store once launched.
Writer Ning Yuan once said: "What a person does in a lonely time determines the fundamental difference between this person and others."
Yes, the way a person treats loneliness determines the thickness of his future life.
Some time ago, the epidemic in Shanghai suddenly broke out and lasted for two months.
During this period, the Internet was filled with remarks such as "can't stand it anymore" and "going crazy".
But for my friend Arong, it is a god-given opportunity.
He practices reading articles for two hours every morning.
During the day, watch video courses, learn relevant professional knowledge, and practice professional skills.
Night, review what you have learned every day.
In just one month, he began to contribute to major platforms.
As the epidemic slowly ended, he also successfully signed a contract with a platform and realized his dream of being an anchor.
Faced with loneliness, some people are so anxious that they are anxious, while others are quietly shining.
Zhou Guoping once said: "Loneliness is a kind of ability. Only a person who can endure loneliness can have quality and strength in his life."
Loneliness is the best time to think about himself and the best opportunity to become excellent.
Really excellent people know that when you are alone, you should put aside all distracting thoughts and accumulate energy quietly; let go of all miscellaneous things, improve silently, and then make a big splash.
In this life, people can gain as much growth as they survive.
The greatest awareness of adults is to accumulate strength in the time when they are free from trouble.
05
Someone once said: "The way a person handles things not only determines the level of happiness in life, but also hides the height of life."
People live for a lifetime, and the way you deal with things will have the same life.
can only become a great person if you can stand idle energy;
can listen to criticism and continue to improve;
can withstand pressure and move towards transformation;
can endure loneliness and gain strength.
When you are not outstanding enough, you must know how to endure the sufferings you should endure, and suffer the sins you should endure. Once you have endured it, it will become light and illuminate your way forward.
For the rest of my life, I hope you and I can deal with all kinds of adversities in life with a normal heart and walk out of a broad life with a calm attitude.
