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It is actually very simple to see whether a person is good at socializing. It depends on whether he can understand others and not blame him easily.
Yishu said: "A mature person often finds that fewer and fewer people can blame, and everyone has their own difficulties." Only similar situations will occur in this world, and there will definitely not be the same situation.
Learning to understand and tolerate is a compulsory course for everyone to strive for maturity. When getting along with others, you must know how to hide your wisdom and sharpness. No one will like the people around you to give people an unattainable feeling.
At the same time, don’t make yourself too easy to speak and soft. When the “unprincipled” label is posted, other people’s behavior will be full of disrespect.
The technical core of interpersonal communication is to control the "degree". Master the degree of goodness and can live in harmony no matter how complex the relationship is.
Society is complex. If you want to have your own place in a complex society, you must know how to get along with all kinds of people.
The place where people are is the world. When people are in the world, they have to abide by the rules of the world. Interpersonal communication is simple and simple, but it is really not easy to say it is difficult. People who are clear can understand clearly, while confused people always have a headache about this.
. What are the 4 common rules for interpersonal communication? Do you know?
Only when others take a strong attitude and firm position will you pay attention to you
Everyone has their own aura. In life, you often hear similar comments, saying that a certain person has a strong aura and a weak aura.
To put it bluntly, the strength here is the attitude of dealing with people in the world. People with strong attitudes naturally give people a feeling of being arrogant without anger. People with weak attitudes often show their timidity.
Human nature is fickle, and no one can truly treat everyone equally. For most people, what is emitted from their subconscious mind is the reality of "watching the dish and serving the dishes".
The old saying goes: "Children who can cry have milk to eat." It is not that the "mother" is biased, but that the child's behavior affects the mother's heart.
Compared to people who are hesitant and at a loss, a person with a tough attitude and firm stance is more likely to be valued. This is why the same needs are spoken from different people, and the solutions given by others are completely different.
Everyone has their own "personality". Sober people will change others' attitudes towards themselves by changing themselves. Confused people always think that God has its own fixed numbers.
When dealing with people, only when you have a strong aura will others value you. This has nothing to do with the so-called fairness.
reveals the bottom line. Forgive it later, others will care about you
Can't forgive too quickly.
Anyone who has experienced market bargaining understands that the fun of bargaining lies in the extreme pulling, and it can also be said that it is a competition for wins and losses.
As a seller, don’t show it no matter how much you want to sell goods. If you are eager to promote cooperation, this attitude is very likely to scare the buyer away. He must suspect that the truth behind your urgency is not good for him.
A qualified seller must not only let the customer bargain and win, but also make him win. The best ending is that your face is full of depressedness at the end of the transaction. The purpose of this performance is nothing else, but to make the buyer believe that it is worth it. If you look proud and let go after the other party bargaining, the transaction will usually be ruined. Even if the other party reluctantly pays the order, you will never come to visit your business again next time.
Psychological tactics are really important in interpersonal communication. Control your psychological emotions and then try your best to perform. You will definitely occupy an important position in the other party’s mind.
Interpersonal communication is just an emotional transaction. Don’t nod easily when facing the other party’s “bargaining”. Stick to the bottom line and let them feel the difficulties. Only then will others care about you from the bottom of their hearts.
, and always try to smooth things out, and they will only end up with injuries
People who can't smooth things out easily make the atmosphere awkward, and people who are too good at smooth things out often make themselves difficult.
As a person, you must not be too straightforward or too sleek. If you can tolerate things, you must not tolerate things that cannot tolerate.
People who force themselves to endure it again and again in order to show their greatness will inevitably suddenly explode at an inappropriate time, which will lead to the instant collapse of the character design that they had worked hard to create.
In this life, everything can happen. Sometimes, even though you have made complete preparations in advance, there are still many loopholes when things are about to happen.
Rescue is a manifestation of a person's agility. How to save the situation without hurting yourself is the true wisdom.
To smooth things over, we must also depend on the situation according to the situation.
Be a person, you must understand that Don’t always complain or even hurt yourself for the so-called “big picture view”, just to present a perfection.
Patience must have a bottom line. Some things can be turned a blind eye to each other. Some things must be explained clearly by Ding Mao or Mao. People who always smooth things out will eventually make themselves scarred.
Don't be too kind, show your sharpness, life will naturally become brighter
The society we live in has always been sinister and the world is difficult. Not everything is worthy of your kindness, and not everyone deserves your kindness.
" Caigen Tan " says: "You must not have a heart to harm others, and you must be careful of others." There is no mistake in being kind at any time, and what leads to the mistake is that kindness gives the wrong object.
You should not be too kind in life, you must be a little sharp in front of kindness. Only in this way can your life appear bright.
True kindness is to distinguish right from wrong, not just to give.
Kindness that is too stupid is often used by those with ulterior motives, resulting in irreversible disasters. Therefore, kindness should not be a personality, but a choice.
Cheap emotions will be let down, and heavy kindness will eventually become a bondage.
One day you will understand that if you want a bright life, you have to wear a thorny protective outfit to the kindness.
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