Introduction
In the eyes of many of us elderly people, after aging, the people closest to us, except for our parents, the rest of the people who are closest to us must be their children. Parents will eventually leave themselves first. In the future, they can only rely on their children, and their children can definitely rely on them. After all, there is a blood relationship between themselves and their children that will never be left behind.
Since we have this idea, many of us elderly people can really say that when facing our children, they want to give all our things to our children. At the same time, when our daughter needs help, the elderly can really be said to be unable to bear the extra effort. In the eyes of many of us elderly people, only in this way can our children rely on in the future.
Under normal circumstances, this is true. That is to say, since the elderly are so good to their children, then the children should be kind to the elderly in the future. However, what many of us elderly people don’t know is that now, even if the elderly are very good to their children, most of the children will be unreliable in the near future, and the elderly can only rely on themselves.
Especially after one's serious illness, many of us elderly people found that children are indeed unreliable. If you rely on them blindly, you are clearly deceiving yourself. When you reach old age, you still have to rely on these three things in your hands, and these three things must be tightened. In most cases, they are more reliable than anything else, including your own children! So what are these three things? Let's look down together.
75-year-old Mr. Mo's self-report
My name is Mo Guowei. I am 75 years old this year. I retired from my unit when I was 60 years old. At that time, many elderly people who were about the same age as me lived very well in their later years, but I did not have such a good life. The main reason is that my wife passed away two years before I was about to retire.
After retirement, although I had two sons, I did not choose to live with my two sons, and then let my two sons take care of me. On the one hand, the reason is that I am currently in good health and can take care of myself, and on the other hand, the reason is that I don’t want to bother my two sons too early, so in the later time, I chose to live alone.
Perhaps in the eyes of others, living alone is very lonely and you will encounter many difficulties in living alone, etc. But during this period, I found that this kind of living alone is not as unbearable as all of us imagined. Instead, I still live happily. This may be due to my personality, or maybe it is because of my strong ability to take care of myself.
Because of this, many people wanted to introduce me to a new and old man, but I politely declined it because I think living alone is actually good. So I have been living alone for about seven years, but an accident happened, but I had to say "goodbye to living alone."
One day, the bathroom lights stopped, so I brought a ladder to check. Suddenly the ladder slipped, and I fell directly to the ground with the ladder. My waist was not good, but after this fall, I always felt a slight pain in my waist. Not to mention doing housework, I felt uncomfortable just sitting there.
Later, I really had no choice, so I called my eldest son because I always felt that I was closest to my eldest son. In addition, the place where my younger son lives was thousands of kilometers apart. After receiving the call, my eldest son immediately went home without saying a word and took me to their home for life.
The eldest son's actions made me very happy. I thought that I could live with peace of mind in my eldest son's house in the future, and my pension problem could be fundamentally solved, but what happened later made me very angry.
To be honest, when I first arrived at my eldest son's house, not only my eldest son, but even my eldest daughter-in-law was very good to me. I was at their house and didn't care about anything or do anything. When I was hungry, I ate ready-made meals. When I was bored at home, I went out to find someone to play chess and chat. Sometimes, my eldest son would take the initiative to wash my feet at night. I live at my eldest son's house so much that I can't tell you how happy I am.
is a comfortable and comfortable life in his later years. After only two years, the eldest son and daughter-in-law took a 180-degree turn to me. Even though I have to do a lot of housework every day, they are not at all. Instead, they keep picking on the eggs, saying that I didn’t do it well here and didn’t do it well. In short, no matter what I do, they can always find faults in me.
In the past, no matter how loud I was in my meal, no one would say to me, but now even if I make a slight sound in my meal, they would roll their eyes at me immediately. And now if I want to wash my feet at night, they would ask me to wash my feet in my bedroom and not let me wash my feet in the living room. Their reason was that my feet were too smelly and they were smothered.
The most important thing is that they usually look at me with disgust everywhere. Now I am like a burden. Although the two of them treat me like this, I dare not say a word. I can only choose to endure it silently. After all, people are under the roof and have to bow their heads.
I thought that my repeated tolerance would eventually bring about their "prodigal son's turn back", but what I didn't expect was that not only did I wait for this day, but I also waited for their change.
Once when I went to the hospital for a check-up, the doctor told me that something had grown in my brain, and after a medical examination, they told me that this thing was very dangerous in my brain and needed surgery as soon as possible, otherwise it would be life-threatening. So I quickly told my eldest son about the situation and I needed surgery as soon as possible.
But my eldest son's reaction surprised me. Not only did he not care about my condition, but he also didn't mention the operation for me. I was so forced to do it, so he said, "I can do it if I want to have the operation, so I will do it myself." Anyway, he has no money, so I will find a way for it myself.
This made me so angry, so I quickly called and called my younger son back from another place. I thought that I have been good to my younger son since I was a child, and he should do things that make me happy. But who would have thought that compared with my younger son, he was really even better than that. The eldest son asked his younger son to pay for money, and the younger son asked his older son to pay for money. Anyway, neither of them wanted to care about me.
Later, I was heartbroken and told them to ask them to pay for the money first. When I am discharged from the hospital after the operation in the future, I will give them the money for the surgery. They reluctantly agreed. I thought that the problem was finally solved, but I thought it was too simple.
Since I was undergoing brain surgery, the amount of spending in the hospital every day was relatively high. I remember the highest time was 10,000 yuan a day. At this time, my eldest son and the younger son were in the goal of not wanting to continue paying money, so they wanted me to be discharged from the hospital and then find some folk recipes to try. I immediately refused this suggestion from both of us, after all, my condition was very serious.
Seeing that their goal had not been achieved, we both had other bad ideas on me one after another. Fortunately, I was very wise at that time and did not fall for them, which completely failed their conspiracy. Otherwise, my intestines would probably regret it now.
First, my eldest son said to me: "Dad, you now have a pension of more than 5,000 yuan a month, and you can't spend it all. Besides, you have lived in our house for more than two years. For both public and private, you should hand over your pension to me to keep. On the one hand, you can subsidize my family income. On the other hand, if you are discharged from the hospital in the future, I can take good care of you. Take care of you, do you think this is the reason? "
I admit that what my eldest son said still makes sense, but even so, I did not agree with his request. I can't spend all my monthly pensions, but I can't spend them, so that I can save them to make my savings more and more. If I give him the pensions, he will change his mind in the future, or if he doesn't take good care of me, who should I go to? I won't take this risk.
Then, the younger son found me again. The younger son meant that I would spend a lot of money on the operation this time, which put him under great pressure. Even if the two of them shared the cost, he still felt very difficult. Therefore, he hoped that I would take out my savings, whether it was handed over to him or to take them out for medical treatment, he had no objection. What my youngest son said is indeed true, and I admit it, but if I take out my own deposit, once they know how much deposit I have, they will inevitably peek at the deposit in my hand everywhere in the future, which will inevitably make me feel insecure. I will never do this unless I have to. Therefore, I naturally cannot agree to his request.
Not long after, my eldest son found me again, and this time he actually set his sights on my old house. According to his opinion, since I will live and support my old house in their house in the future, then my house will be useless. Besides, I am still hospitalized in the hospital, so I don’t know how much it will cost in the future? For reason, I should have sold my old house.
But no matter what he said, I would not sell the old house, because the old house can not only shelter me from the wind and rain, but also the old house is my last retreat. I must leave a hand for myself. Besides, it is hard for me to believe that my eldest son will do his best to support me in the future. I will keep the old house. In the future, if my eldest son wants to drive me away, I will at least have a place to stay, otherwise, I will likely be left on the streets.
It is precisely because of this that I did not agree to the three requests made by my two sons. Instead, I firmly held the three things in my hands, including pension, bank deposits, old houses, etc. After I recovered from the illness, before my eldest son could rush me, I immediately moved out of his house and returned to my own home to live.
Nowadays, I spent money to hire a nanny to take care of my old age. I live every day without saying how happy and comfortable I am. Through this incident, I have also discovered that no matter when a parent is, we cannot rely too much on our children, and we cannot give everything we have to our children, especially after our old age. This is even more so. When people live, they are not reliable except relying on themselves. Only by relying on themselves can they not lose in life! If the elderly want to rely on themselves, they must firmly grasp the above three things. Only in this way can the elderly live the old age they want in the future.
#Guarding the Silver Age World#
