Does the elderly have the responsibility to help their children take care of their children? This question is very simple to answer, because the law stipulates that the elderly do not have the responsibility to raise their grandchildren, so it is completely okay for the elderly to not take care of their grandchildren. But the law belongs to the law, and life also requires affection. The elderly do not want to see their children so tired, so they are all helping to take care of their grandchildren to the best of their ability.
Grandma Sun has been helping her son take care of her child for seven or eight years, and there has never been any conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law that she often encounters because of taking care of her children. Grandma Sun said that it was because before seeing the child, she said three ugly words in advance:
1: There must be time limit to taking care of the child, and it cannot be "full care" 24 hours a day.
Grandma Sun is a very wise old man. After her son got married, she avoided conflicts and lived separately from her son and daughter-in-law. But on Saturday and Sunday, she would take the initiative to help them clean up their housework and cook.
Later, the young grandson was born and was taken care of by grandma grandmother for a whole month. The daughter-in-law was only responsible for feeding her. Later, after the daughter-in-law passed her maternity leave, it was time to go to work, so Grandma Sun offered to take care of her grandson, and she was very grateful for this.
However, Grandma Sun agreed in advance that she was only responsible for the care of her son and daughter-in-law when she was not at home. They were parents to take care of her son and daughter-in-law at home.
Because Grandma Sun said that one is that her health is getting worse and worse, she is tired after taking care of her child for a long time and cannot get rest. She may have physical problems and will not be able to help at that time, and it will cause trouble for her son and daughter-in-law; the other is that the child is still closest to her parents after all, and parents should spend more time with their children at home to enhance their relationship.
2: Do not participate in educational issues, and parents are responsible for their studies.
Grandma Sun said there is absolutely no problem with raising the child herself, and three meals a day will definitely be prepared for the grandson. However, she will not interfere with the education issue. Her son and daughter-in-law can educate her children in their own way. She will never blame her as an elderly person.
Because Grandma Sun knows the nature of a child, she will spoil herself when she has grandparents. If the elderly are not clear-headed and doting on the child, over time, the child will develop many bad habits, which is not conducive to the child's growth.
At the same time, the child’s learning problems must be the responsibility of the son and daughter-in-law. First, because they are old and their minds are relatively slow to move, and they are not able to adapt to the requirements of the new era, and are afraid that they will not be able to teach their children to learn; second, because parents participate in their children’s learning when they are young, and it is easy to master their problems, and then provide targeted long-term learning plans.
3: No living expenses are provided, except for the money you are willing to pay, and cannot morally kidnap .
Grandma Sun had heard her sister talk about the issue of living expenses before. The sister felt sorry for her son and daughter-in-law, and all the expenses were borne by their old couple. In the end, the couple not only did not be grateful, but became a peaceful dependent on the elders.
Grandma Sun is afraid that she will end up with such a result, so she told her son and daughter-in-law from the beginning that all the expenses in the family must be borne by them themselves, and they must take responsibility after getting married, and they cannot think about making a fortune with the elderly’s money.
However, Grandma Sun is not stingy. Grandma Sun is still willing to bear the daily expenses of her grandson, but because she agreed in advance, Grandma Sun is voluntary even if she bears it, not morally kidnapped.
Now Grandma Sun has been taking care of her grandson for five or six years. Although she usually has pots and pans, it is all small problems. The whole family is still very harmonious.
Many people also asked Grandma Sun about her secrets, and Grandma Sun told her experience.
The three seemingly ordinary sentences are precisely because they are said in advance that they play a good role as a regulator.
, such a way of getting along, the elderly can get rest in their bodies and will not feel like they are children and grandchildren. And the couple will become more and more responsible.
