at the beginning:
There was one night, late at night.
A female reader sent a message saying:
"I fell in love with a married man. He is gentle, elegant, and very meticulous. He has the charm of a mature man. I confessed to him several times, but he refused."
I said, then you did meet a good man.
She said: "But, I really want to know why. I have a high education, beautiful person, and can help him in my career. Everyone around me says I am very good, and I have seen his wife. She is very ordinary, looks average, has an average job, and has an average family background. I really don't know where I can't compare to her."
I just want to say, girl, you really underestimate this wife.
Most women who have successful marriages are definitely not ordinary people in the world of love.
She can make the person next to her refuse ambiguity and not indulge in emotions that should not have. She can live a calm life with her. This woman is definitely not simple.
Moreover, this man really betrayed his wife. After walking with you, you, as a third party, may not be able to create such an outstanding man.
In fact, in life, we have seen many such cases.
A man lives with this woman. He seems to be a role model, but after falling in love with another woman, he becomes a "limboy".
This is mainly because his current pillow has the best means to attract him, build him, and change him.
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A woman's high emotional intelligence can provide the most appropriate "emotional value" to a man, and will make him surrender to
Good love, depend on it, it has never been a woman's virtue and dedication.
Many women are charming, have personality, and have self-centered outside, but they become "suffering bags" at home. They always endure to treat their lovers around them and sacrifice themselves just to keep them.
But in fact, you do housework, take care of your children, be filial to your parents-in-law... If you don't let him see your hard work, most of your love confessions can be determined to be "ineffective".
What a man wants is not how virtuous you are, but what you understand and what you can provide him with emotional satisfaction.
Of course, emotional value is not to compliment him or please him, bow to him without principle, and be bullied by him without bottom line.
Instead, you can have high emotional intelligence, "independent" thinking ability, gentle and kind, reasonable, and be able to think from the perspective of others. What you say will not be a "knife mouth", but can stand from his perspective and make him surrender.
For example.
" Dream of Red Mansions ", Wang Xifeng is cruel and decisive. She covers the sky with her hands in Rongguo Mansion , but in front of Jia Lian , she still takes care of his face from time to time. Even if she does things perfectly, she will still say to Jia Lian from time to time, "I can't do this, and I will also complain."
In that patriarchal background, this undoubtedly gave Jia Lian confidence and praise, making it difficult for him to have dissatisfaction in his heart.
However, in modern society, women provide emotional value to men, which is actually to make them feel "dependent" for you. They will not feel that they say anything intimate to you, you will dislike him, and they will regard you as the person they are the one who is most intimate about.
Another thing is that he will regard you as the person he "trusts" the most. In other words, the feeling you give him is that he is the person in this world who will not betray him the least and will make him feel at ease the most except his parents.
In this way, when a woman makes a man feel "dependence" and "trust", he will definitely be attracted to you and the more he loves you, the more he cannot live without you.
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A woman's "not pretentious" can provide a man with a "backup" and will convince him
The breakdown of many marriages is not actually a problem between the couple, but a conflict between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
is like the old saying: The conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is strong, and the relationship between husband and wife is flowing.
A woman who can handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will definitely be a woman who convinces men.
Her method is that no matter how good the mother-in-law is, she can be: put her heart in the same way, know how to exchange, know how to keep a distance, and be tolerant and considerate.
After all, it is a blessing for many women to be able to possess an open and wise mother-in-law.
Most men are not so good at balancing the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. What they want is to be able to be at this home, be at ease and without being "sandwich".
So, you will find that those women who can handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are also very good at using the mentality of men to convince and train them.
In order to avoid disputes between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and to quickly resolve conflicts and differences, she will try her best to let the man come forward instead of taking the initiative to confront her mother-in-law.
She will never compromise when she should be sweet when she should be sweet when she should be fighting for it.
She will not live in her mother-in-law's house with a glass heart. When faced with her mother-in-law's trick of "hiding needles in the cotton", she will also make good use of the "bone-transforming palm" to deal with it invisibly. A woman like
seems to be weak, but in fact the strongest inside. She seems to have suffered grievances, but in fact she will never live in blood.
Her intelligence will also fascinate men, and the more they love, the more they are inseparable.
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The "ruthlessness" of a woman can make men "worry about gains and losses" and will make him obsessed with
I have seen a story.
In order to work in the unit she likes, a girl left her boyfriend and went to a strange city alone, enduring the loneliness and helplessness of her.
It is not that easy for a woman to take root in a city after all.
And every time her boyfriend comes to see her, what she says is always: the plan she said last time was only my adopted; the leader praised me again today...
The woman firmly believes in her heart: she can still live without this man; but if she loses her job, she will have no future and no ideals.
Whenever a man sees her thin body and tired eyes, he will always feel sad and pity. Every time he comes, he will make her a table of delicious food and fill her refrigerator.
It can be seen that a woman's "ruthlessness" seems to have pushed a man far away, but in fact it has taken root in his heart more and more.
Her fear of losing will make men worry about gains and losses, and worry that they will lose her.
In fact, in modern society, women in their lifetime, if you want to be Lin Daiyu , you will often not meet people who appreciate you; on the contrary, if you do Xue Baochai , you have your own pursuits and ideals, you have learned how to make men worry about themselves, the more you will attract people who love you.
In this world, all love relationships are actually dependent on your understanding of management.
Later, women had their own career foundation, men also transferred their jobs to the same city, and two people had their small homes.
The lingering love lies in the fact that women have a "ruthless spirit" towards themselves, rather than just wanting to rely on men.
Most of the women who can take good care of their career and family are not only know how to wear makeup to cover up the flaws on their faces, nor do they only know how to make a good braised pork to win over the hearts of men...but they will use a strong career ambition to support her to live at high cost.
So, such a woman is definitely an emotional master, attracting men to care about her.
Conclusion:
We always say that a woman attracts a man's heart, most of the time she is to act coquettishly and know how to make him happy.
However, most such women will not make men feel moved, but will only satisfy their desires on the surface.
Women who can really make men addicted are often able to absorb internally and expand externally. They will have high emotional intelligence and methods to tie men firmly around them.
You should know that men actually have very few needs for love in their lives.
What he wants is actually a stable life, a peaceful family, and a healthy family, so that he has no worries.
The woman he wants is actually to be able to guard the rear for him, to resist the wind and rain side by side with him, to have children with him, and to be filial to his parents. Therefore,:
A woman has a high emotional intelligence and can provide him with emotional value, which will definitely make him rely on ;
A woman’s unpretentiousness and being able to handle family relationships well will definitely make him live a comfortable life;
A woman’s ruthlessness, being able to handle family relationships well will definitely make him live a comfortable life;
A woman’s ruthlessness, being independent of the world without him will definitely make him worry about gains and losses, and fear of losing.
In short, a woman's open soul, high personality, and virtuous character are the most inseparable companions for men.
