There are many subtexts that need not be said directly in adult relationships.
For example:
"Eat together when you have time" = I don't have time to eat with you.
"Talk again if you have time" = I don't want to continue chatting with you anymore.
"Goodbye another day" = it's okay to see him or not.
does not reply to messages = the most direct reply.
When a person does not reply to your message, it can only explain one thing:
In his heart, you don’t matter.
You need to understand, will a person spend less time playing with his mobile phone every day in the present?
Even if he is busy with work and doing things, would you believe that he has not seen your news?
Those who like don’t respond to you, they will give you the most direct answer.
In the face of this situation, you have to do 3 less things, otherwise it will make him disgusted with you more and more.
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Don't get entangled
YishhuIn "The Story of the Rose", write a sentence:
"What I lost has never really belonged to you, and there is no need to regret it."
For people who don't like you, you have never had the other party, so how can you talk about losing?
When you like someone, you should have this awareness:
"I like him, it's my own business. What does it have to do with him?"
You like the other person, and the other person just happens to like you too. This kind of favorable feeling of two-way rushing makes people feel happy and surprising.
But you should be prepared to "the other party doesn't like you".
You expected this result from the beginning, and you will be in a better mood when you are rejected. What is the best way to do if
does not reply to your message?
Don't be entangled, don't ask questions, don't force yourself.
The more you are entangled, the more disgusting the other party will be;
The more you ask, the more "impatient" the other party will behave;
The more you force yourself, the more he will stay away from you. What does
feel like?
You open a program with your computer, but the system prompts "The process cannot be opened". Do you need to wait or end the process?
I think most people’s choice is to “end process”. When
does not respond to you, leave silently without interrupting.
The more "stubborn" you act, the more curious he will be about you.
At that time, the initiative will be transferred to you.
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Don't "repent yourself"
There are always some people who are used to blame all bad things on themselves.
When the person you like does not respond to him, he thinks that all this is his own reason.
"It must be that I said something wrong, which made him unhappy."
"He didn't respond to me, because he hated me, right?"
"Why does he not like me? Is it too bad?"
"No one will like me."
This mentality is a manifestation of a person's low self-esteem and inferiority complex.
What is low self-esteem?
can be understood as:
People with low self-esteem need to rely on the recognition and response of others to make themselves live a better life.
They have inferiority complex in their bones. Once things do not develop as they expected, they will be anxious and inferior.
People who are too prone to "hazard of gains and losses" are often easily lost.
Because the more you care, the easier it is to be restrained.
In the book "Bored Charm", I happened to say this:
"Love is one of the ironies. The more you don't like someone, the more confident you can attract him."
And when you are attracted by someone, you can't control your emotions and are always inferior and cowardly in front of the other side.
If the person you like does not respond to you, don’t blame all your mistakes on yourself.
Like this thing, it requires fate, feeling, and more importantly, some opportunities.
Some people like you, but naturally some people don’t like you. These are the tests that life gives us.
accepts the status quo and accepts the fact that the other party does not like him.
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Don't "self-touch"
There are always some people who will fall into the illusion created by themselves.
creates a kind of: "I love him very much, I treat him very well, I give a lot of money for him, why does he still not like me?"
For example:
"I often buy gifts for him, I send him messages every day to care for him, I treat him to dinner, and I buy him snacks."
Are these the other party wanting?
Have you accepted everything you have given to the other party?
If the other party does not accept it, then why do you say you are very good to him?
All of this is just you are "self-touched".
people are most afraid of being self-motivated. When you fall into this false state, you cannot feel your true emotions.
From another perspective:
The more you force yourself, the more you pay, the more you are in "obsession" and can't extricate yourself.
People who are too obsessed with it will only hurt themselves in the end.
Writer Yi Shu said:
"No matter what you do, remember to do it for yourself, then there will be no complaints."
You like the other person, you give, that's enough.
Since the result is not satisfactory and the other party does not like you, then that's all.
After all, feelings are never obtained by barely.
Today’s topic:
What will you do when the other party doesn’t respond to you?
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