When a man falls in love with another person, he begins to consciously or unconsciously compare her to his wife, setting certain criteria for divorce decisions. These are the factors I want to share with you.
Overall, my experience of cheating men clearly shows the parameters they consider themselves:
Men consider 13 factors that are about to divorce
1. How much dependence he has on his wife, relatives and friends, and the nature of his relationship with them. If a man has an income, career (his boss is a relative of his wife or their friend) or makes a living from their property, and the bride-to-be cannot boast about his income, real estate and high social status, this may seriously prevent him from exercising his intention to leave his wife. Especially if his kinship with his wife is warm and friendly. If he is completely independent of anyone (or such dependence has happened but is now over), and his relationship with his relatives is formal, the likelihood of divorce will be greatly increased. Especially if the mistress has her own property, at least the average income and full support from relatives.
2. The nature of the relationship with your wife. If family relationships are generally good when applying for divorce, it is even more sad than being thrown on plates, scratched in the face, and thrown from the balcony at that time. Then he may never turn from words to actions. If the relationship in the family has been openly hostile, the case smells like a real divorce.
3. Number and age of married women. It is obvious that the more children there are in a marriage, the younger the more conscience pain a man leaves his family experiences. Therefore, the fewer children and older the older the men are, the less worried they are and tend to divorce.
4. Children's attitude towards the divorce process of their parents. If the children clearly want to save their parents' marriage and take the initiative to ask them not to leave, this cannot leave anyone indifferent. If the children remain silent or candidly happy to be separated from their father (if the father drinks, beats the child and mother, screams, parasitics, etc.), then the man will have much less concern about separation and he will leave.
5. Your own age. realizes that men’s marital attraction is still very high before the age of 50, and men aged 23-45 who are undergoing divorce procedures are quite optimistic about their future. Men over 45 will think twice before doing it. Should they divorce?...
6. Health status. It is obvious that the stronger a man’s health is, the more confident he will be before entering a new family life. If a person suffers from some serious chronic illness or disability, the extent to which he experiences from losing his usual lifestyle and environment can be quite large. Such a person, if he leaves his family, often tries to return to his family. Of course, if it is accepted there.
7. Have your own living space for further living. In a state of preparation for divorce, a responsible man almost always understands that the apartment should stay with his wife and children (if the couple has children). So if he has alternative housing – another apartment, a completed shared apartment, a comfortable apartment for his parents, service housing, etc., a man is much more courageous to leave his family than if he leaves his family. Home, having to hang out with friends, rent expensive houses, and even go to an apartment with another woman. Therefore, it is no surprise that the existence of a second or third apartment in a family almost always increases the likelihood of a husband leaving his wife. This is the dark side of wealth...
8. Income level. A man whose career and income are rising is always positive, so the divorce procedure makes him afraid significantly less than a man whose income is barely enough to maintain an average or low standard of living. As a result, a high income man feels less about the burden of alimony and he is often determined to provide substantial financial assistance to his children even without proper court rulings. Therefore, he was ready to do whatever it takes, including a divorce.
9. Have had divorce or separation . The situation here is very interesting. Men who have not yet divorced have more than those who have experienced a divorce (and have children) and know directly what mental pain, moral emptiness and insomnia are. People who have divorced do not want to divorce again. But those men who have experienced two divorces are often no longer afraid of anything that actually leads them to remarry and divorce.
10.Attitude to this divorce from one's parents and (or) friends. especially considers the religious and ethnic traditions adopted in a kinship group or field of communication. If the opinions of parents or friends are important to a man and they treat and relate to his departure wife enthusiastically, or point out to him that divorce is unacceptable based on the religion, state and other norms related to that man, men dare not disobey their loved ones’ opinions. If in principle these do not exist, then the door for this man to divorce is open. Alas...
11. The number of happy or unpleasant memories of the current marriage. If the existence of this marriage between a couple is associated with mental, family, material and intimate comfort most of the time, then the feeling of divorce will be significantly more. If the couple's discomfort before divorce has lasted for many years, the joy of being freed from the problematic partner will exceed the sadness of parting.
12. The husband’s own intimate activities and his sexual comfort in the family. People have noticed that intimate and active and emotional people will experience the threat of divorce, which itself is more emotional, but also… faster. They quickly entered a new relationship, and this sense of freshness and novelty quickly brought them back to normal. Intimate and passive people go through a slightly less vivid but longer period. Because their loneliness can last for months or even years. And their loyalty to their past partners has nothing to do with it: everything is determined by innate temperament.
The most important thing here is that if a man feels more comfortable with his mistress, he is more likely to leave his family. If, overall, he wasn't bad in his bedroom at home, despite his betrayal, things might never be divorced.
13. The social, property, education, career, age, external, family and personal advantages of mistress. is obvious, the more the more the man is, the easier it is to endure divorce and thoughts about him. The fewer they are, the smaller the chances of transitioning from words to actions.
All these "fatal" thirteen factors most often appear in the mind of a married man who contacted his mistress for a long time and proposed to her a common family. It is based on the processing of these data that an average middle-class man tries to predict the main thing: the possibility that his life will generally deteriorate or improve after divorce, if he still decides.
Unfortunately, there is a nuance here, and it is unpleasant: Even the acquisition and processing of the most objective information about the prospect of a husband leaving his family’s life, takes place through five distorted lenses he perceives—love, alcohol, stupid male self-confidence, whether there are important life experiences and mistress’s behavioral talents, she can present herself in a more favorable way than she does.
Because of these five crooked shots, they entered the divorce case psychologically. Human thinking always lags behind events in life. That's why:
A month after leaving home, or even a few months later, men began to make a real assessment of the consequences of leaving their home.
