The couple cannot be AA-based. Otherwise, what awaits you will definitely be a tragedy. Even couples who have just gotten married cannot do it. Although your relationship was the best at that time, if you had to do it, it would be better if you had to do it. That is equivalent to saying that you don’t care about this relationship, or that you don’t care about this marriage.
is like this man in the article. If you have to use your wife as an AA system, who can you blame for your wife’s divorce from you? If you want to blame, blame yourself. I hope all couples can pay attention to this. What's going on? Why is this happening? Let's take a look at this matter together. One month after getting married, my husband: We will live in AA system in the future. I: OK, but I have five requirements.
case story sharing person,
30-year-old Ms. Li:
Many people say I was wrong, especially my parents. My parents told me, why are you so impulsive? What's wrong with you coming back now? How long have you been with your husband? You are back now, will your husband want me to pick you up? Do you want to go back?
And you have your husband's child in your belly, and your belly will get bigger and bigger as it continues. If you divorce your husband, you can abort the child, but you have not divorced your husband yet. What should I do with this child? The longer the time, the worse it will be for you. Go back and live with your husband quickly. Wouldn’t it be better to lower your head? You are not a solution here either. We are not my parents and we are unwilling to support you, and we do not want you to live here. In fact, if you are here, you will definitely ruin you. You are 30 years old now. If there is another child, will you still get married in the future?
Who have you lived with? Why can't you live with your husband? You are the same with others. I don't know what to say, but I know I'm not wrong. Today I will tell you about this matter and please help me judge it. This matter should start a month ago. I found out that I was pregnant a month ago, and then I got married to my boyfriend, my current husband.
I originally thought that my child had a car and a house, and everything he should have. Our lives should be happy. But one month after my marriage, my husband actually proposed AA life to me, which I originally disagreed. But he told me every day. Forced me to no avail. My husband told me, why are you so selfish? The system is not just for me, but for my own good, but also for the family. Only after doing this can our lives be settled. Do you want to put all the burden on my shoulders?
You don’t know how difficult it is for me. I told my husband that life is hard, and I will be with you. Isn’t that enough? I will help solve it. My husband told me, what's the use of helping me? The only thing you have to do for me is to work with me. Reduce my burden, I do this for you, do you understand?
My husband also hit me because of this. I can't bear it anymore. Then I told my husband, if you have to work with me. Yes, I will give you a chance. Uncle, I have 5 requirements, if you agree. Then we will be AA system in the future and I will help you. If you disagree at that time, don't talk about this anymore. My husband said that as long as you agree to the AA system with me, as long as you are willing to contribute to this family. I will agree to any request.
The first requirement is, I won’t give you a baby.
Why should I give birth to a baby for you? As long as you have to understand the difference so clearly, it is impossible for me to suffer a loss alone. Girls suffer a lot from having children. Pregnancy for 10 months. During these 10 months, I may not have a job or income. If you have no income, how can you do it with you? And having children is a painful thing for women. Giving birth is very painful. If it is not handled properly, it is very likely that the operating table will not be able to be removed from the operating table because of this matter.
How many women died because of giving birth. I don't want to be like that, so I don't want to have a baby anymore.You don’t give, so why do you want me to give for this family? Also, having children will become ugly for women. After giving birth, 99% of women will have a distorted figure.
If I gave birth to you, what should I do if my figure is distorted? You don’t care about me, you are not responsible for me, and you are also responsible for myself. Then why should I have a baby for you? So this is my first requirement. I will not have children with you in the AA system. Don’t think about letting me give birth to you. It’s fair and just. Unless you give birth to a child, I will give birth to one, and I won’t give birth to one if you don’t give birth.
The second requirement is to enter my room for 1 million at a time.
Don't worry, I won't enter your room. If you say we are AA, that is, we are separated, then we will sleep separately. I won't go to your room if you are there, no matter what the reason, no matter what happens, I won't go into your room. From now on, this will be the case now, and this will be the case in the future.
No matter what happens, no matter how powerful the thunder is. I won't even go to your room to sleep, so don't ask me to give you 1 million. If I enter your room, you can ask me for 1 million, but don't come to my room, if you come to my room once. Then you give me 1 million. No matter what you come to my room, you have to give me 1 million. The room is my private place.
If you come in once, you will have to give 1 million yuan, and you will also need cash. If you can't give this money, don't think about coming in. Or you can give me an IOU, or something of the same price. One million is not an exaggeration. With this 1 million, I can make it for you. If you don't enter my room, you don't have to spend a penny. Of course, I won’t spend my money on you, I won’t go to your room, and you don’t think about making my 1 million. Come to my room for 1 million at a time.
The third requirement, if you take care of me, I will take care of you, if you don’t take care of me, I won’t take care of you.
You said we are AA system. In other words, take care of yourself. If you take care of me and you treat me well, then I will treat you well. If you treat me badly, if you don’t take care of me, then I will not take care of you, and I will not care about you. We are mutual, it depends on how you treat me, and I will treat you the same thing as your family. Even if it’s a dime, I want to share it clearly with you, because we are AA and I don’t want to suffer any losses.
The AA system you mentioned is that I won’t suffer any losses, it’s for the sake of the family’s good. Then we can understand 1 point. Everything will be clearly divided in this way in the future. Yours are yours, mine is mine. Don’t want me to share it. I won’t take advantage of you even if I have the advantage. The same is true in life.
I will take care of you if you take care of me. If you help me do something, I will help you do something. For example, if you help me wash clothes, I will also help you wash clothes tonight. If you don’t care about me, I will not help you, and I will not say that I am your wife. I should help you do these things. I won’t be like that unless you help me, I will help you if you help me.
The fourth requirement is AA system. Then don’t bother me to spend my money?
I have more than 6,000 per month, although my salary is less than yours. But in addition to AA system money. I spend the remaining money as I like, for example, I gave the money to my brother or my parents. That's my own business and nothing to do with you. The remaining money you and I have in my AA system is my own business. I spend whatever I want, and it doesn’t matter if I buy a car and a house for my brother to get married. Even I can lend my friends.
It's not your money anyway. I won't spend a penny on you, and you don't think about taking advantage of me. Because we are in the AA system, I didn’t want to be in the AA system, but you have to follow me in the AA system. Since this is the case, I can only tell you the truth.I don't want your money either, I don't want a penny.
I don’t care what you keep your money for, no matter if you go out to eat and drink with your friends. Or I don’t care whoever you give the money, you can do whatever you want, because those money that is yours has nothing to do with me. By the same token, my money has nothing to do with you. Don’t think about taking over my money, don’t think about making me a penny more cheap. Because we are AA.
The fifth requirement is, after the AA system, I will take my parents to the house to raise them.
all say that we are made in AA. Then I will take care of my parents by myself, right? Even if my parents have sons, I don’t need my brother to support my parents. I just need to support my parents. It was not easy for my parents to raise me, and I went to a noble school back then. It costs tens of thousands of yuan a year. How much money did my parents waste to study with me?
Now I can't ignore my parents. Since it is AA system, I can't let you take advantage of me. You can let your parents come here, so I can let my parents come here too. My parents came here to support their elderly care. Don't worry about my parents before, and you don't think about bullying my parents. My parents don’t need your care when they come home, just like I don’t take care of your parents. I will not care about your parents' affairs, no matter what your parents do. My parents will do the same in the future, and you won't have to care about what happened to my parents in the future. Even if my parents fall ill, you don’t have to worry about it.
I have a younger brother, and I have two younger brothers. Then I also have the time and ability to help my parents. So you don’t have to worry about my parents’ affairs, and I don’t care about your parents’ affairs either. I didn't want to do it, but you insisted on following me with such a heartless one, so I did it. If you want to blame me, you will blame yourself.
If you agree to my 5 requirements, I will follow you AA. Before I finished speaking, my husband slapped me and slapped me in the face. My husband angrily told me, "How come you want to work with me?" Obviously you just don’t want to live with me anymore. Since this is the case, let’s get a divorce. In anger, I went back to my parents' home.
My husband hit me, what else can I do? Do I want to stay and live a good life with him? It’s obviously not that I don’t want to live with my husband, but that my husband doesn’t want to live with me, right? If my husband wants to live with me, how could he have to work with me? Now I told him that if we agree, we will be AA system. If we don’t agree, we will live like the same as before. But not only did he disagree, he also hit me. What does it mean?
shows that I am not as good as the AA system shows that I am not as good as himself. Since he cares so much about himself, I will give him the best of his own. If you divorce, just divorce. This is how things are. I have been making trouble for so long and I still have to hit me. So what can I do? If it were you, would you choose to divorce?
Is it wrong for me to choose to divorce? If you don’t divorce, will your life be better? I don’t understand why my parents said I was wrong, why my parents didn’t divorce me, would they still have to continue living with my husband? Are you happy to be with such a person?
Conclusion:
face this matter. If it were me, I would choose to divorce. Let me say that, if your husband has no you in his heart, if your husband has you in his heart, he would not force you like this. You have already retreated, and you deliberately told him that this is a condition and that he will retreat in a difficult situation. But your husband not only disagrees, but also refuses to change this rule.
still has to hit you, what does this mean? This shows that in your husband's heart AA life is more important than you, otherwise he would not have hit you, and he would not have forced you to agree to this matter. Since this is the case, there is no need to live with your husband.
What's the point of going on like this? And there is a saying that has only 0 and countless times for . Once there is the first time, there will be the second time. So there is no need to give your husband a chance, just divorce him. All this is your husband’s own fault, no wonder you.If it were me, I would choose to divorce.
Here is another saying that you cannot be so clear during the cycle and you can understand the division so clearly, then you are not husband and wife. A husband-wife relationship is about me and I am, helping each other. I hope that this case can make all couples pay attention, and don’t use the AA system. #Autumn Life Check-in Season#
