In modern marriages, couples always have friction because of their attitude towards their original family. Uncle Qiang feels that it is normal for human beings to be filial to his parents, repaying their nurturing grace, and even giving them some financial help to help his relatives overcome difficulties. However, both husband and wife need to play a role in the new family first and should not help at the cost of giving up the interests of the small family.
That's right, the people mentioned by Uncle Qiang have a special Internet tag, namely " Helping Brother Mo " and "Phoenix Man". These words are all satirizing those who subsidize their original families by sacrificing their own marriages and completing their assistance to their original families. They forget that marriage is not a bargaining chip for transactions. Those who gain benefits through marriage not only hurt their spouse's feelings, but also give their happiness for the rest of their lives.
Zhu Ming and his wife Huifen met through friends. Huifen at the beginning did not like Zhu Ming because Zhu Ming looked average and his work was tepid. Moreover, in Huifen's opinion, Zhu Ming was a little stingy, especially when it came to money. Zhu Ming always looked very careful and petty. Finally, after being persuaded by his parents, Huifen agreed to get along with Zhu Ming for a try.
When getting along, the two of them occasionally quarrel. Compared with others, Zhu Ming is a little stingy, but he is still willing to spend money on big issues, especially when buying things for Huifen's family. Therefore, parents often said to Huifen earnestly: "Silly girl, Zhu Ming is a pretty good child. He doesn't have so many colorful things, and he doesn't have any bad habits. He knows how to live at home and should not be too greedy."
Under the persuasion of his parents, Huifen gradually accepted this situation. The two soon reached the point of talking about marriage. When discussing the betrothal gift, Huifen's parents did not make any excessive demands, but just asked for a 100,000 betrothal gift, and the two successfully held the wedding.
Compared with other couples, Zhu Ming and Huifen do not have much pressure because they do not have to pay the mortgage. When Zhu Ming's old house was demolished, one house and part of the cash was compensated. Despite this, Zhu Ming knew this very well. He could not eat and drink all day just because he didn't have to pay the mortgage. So he worked hard to make money. Over the years, he also saved a lot of savings, almost 300,000 yuan. In order to show his loyalty, after the two got married, Zhu Ming handed over the financial power of the family to his wife.
Life is like this. Some time ago, Huifen went back to her parents' home to visit her. Her parents told her that she wanted to help her brother buy a wedding house. Huifen did not express her opinion at that time. When Huifen talked about this with her husband in the evening, Zhu Ming knew how to be grateful, so he said to his wife: "This way, we have to do our best to buy a house, but we have to consider our own family. You give 100,000 yuan to your parents, which is our little filial piety."
Hearing this, Huifen said a little angrily: "We have 300,000 yuan in savings. Now my brother is the most important thing to buy a house and get married, why can't we give them all the 300,000 yuan in savings? It's a pity that my parents tried their best to persuade me to marry you, but I didn't expect you to not know how to repay kindness, which disappointed me so much."
Huifen just finished speaking Zhu Ming retorted: "Why am I not grateful? Didn't I agree to get 100,000? I did this for our small family. If we take out all our savings, what should we do when we urgently use money? You can't ignore our own family for your brother. Your behavior is too selfish."
The two of them got older and older. Zhu Ming slapped the table and said in a very cold tone: "If you dare to use 300,000 savings to help your brother buy a wedding house, we will divorce immediately. I will do what I say." After saying this, Zhu Ming left the house without looking back, and Huifen fell into deep thought.
