I have heard a saying:
"I hope you are good, but I don't want you to live better than me."
In fact, this is human nature. Once there is a competitive relationship, we always hope that we will live better than others, even if we say blessings, we still have some reservations in our hearts.
is also because of this kind of self-interested behavior. In interpersonal communication, we should pay more attention to a sense of proportion.
Some relatives and friends get along well with us in person and contact us frequently, making us even easily think that they are sincerely considering us, but in fact, they are very thoughtful and everything they do has a clear purpose.
They are like butterflies leading the way ahead, luring you to move forward step by step, walking into the trap they have laid for you, using flowers and applause to relax your guard, just to get benefits and satisfaction from you.
The old saying often says:
"You must not have a harm to others, but you must be careful of others."
maintains a moderate degree of measure in interpersonal communication, not only to protect yourself, but also to protect a relationship. After all, when interests are in front of you, very few people can resist temptation.
, don’t tell them easily, even if you are a person with a good relationship.
01: Specific income
Whenever money is involved, a relationship will become extremely sensitive.
No matter what your relationship with someone, try not to talk about money. If you really want to talk about money and involve cooperation, then talk about it with the attitude of the partner to avoid mixing various relationships.
You must understand that many people will be jealous of those who live better than themselves, because jealousy brings hatred, because jealousy brings sarcastic sarcasm, and because jealousy brings scheming.
When you face these hatreds for no reason, you are not prepared at all and are very likely to be successfully calculated.
So, no matter how good the relationship is, don’t easily involve money, and don’t easily tell your specific income.
The person standing next to you, even if you have been with friends for several years, or even relatives who are good-favored, don’t easily tell your income, don’t easily tell your income source.
Because you don’t know at all whether the other party will make your privacy public,
02: Weakness
Maugham once said:
"Despicable and great, vicious and kind, hatred and love can not exclude each other and exist in the same heart."
Life is not easy, there are always times when we want to find someone to vent our emotions and express our feelings. When we see that someone is willing to listen to our talk, we are moved, thinking that we have finally met a friend of life and death, and we even want to tell each other everything about us.
We want to tell each other what we are afraid of, what we are afraid of, what weaknesses and what advantages we are.
In fact, when we do those things, we are taking risks, with extremely high risk factors, especially when we trust a person and become unreserved, the greater the damage we will suffer.
Everyone has their own weaknesses. Don’t easily reveal their weaknesses. Don’t let a person know too much about you, even if your relationship is good.
Even if you are a close relative of blood, you may not be sure to not use you in the face of interests, let alone love and friendship.
Your weakness may be just the capital for chatting after a meal in the eyes of others, but for you, once someone is uttered, it may bring you a catastrophe.
So, no matter how good the relationship is, don’t easily tell your weaknesses.
03: Family conflicts
Happy marriages are roughly one, but unfortunate marriages have their own misfortunes.
A family will still have conflicts no matter how they are managed. However, for some families, conflicts can be resolved and eventually become a stepping stone to happiness, while for some families, conflicts cannot be resolved and deteriorates the relationship.
Family conflicts, no matter who they are, are a kind of privacy that is not suitable for being said out.
is like the old saying: "Don't make family scandals public."
Assuming that if you easily say something like "There is a quarrel at home", others will think that your family is not harmonious and will not have a good impression of you and your family. Even whenever you talk about scandals in the future, it will involve your family matters.
But in fact, your family only had a fight last time a year, and the rest of the time was quite harmonious.
But because of your words, your family becomes the object of others' fingers, and suddenly it raises family conflicts to another level.
So, no matter how good the relationship is, don’t easily talk about your family conflicts.
In the interaction between people, a certain distance should be maintained.
No matter how good the relationship between two people is, some words should be kept in your heart, digested and grown up alone.
If you want to gain a good and sustainable relationship, you need to give your sincerity, but giving your sincerity does not mean that there is no secret or privacy at all.
Don’t say something easily, it is not only a protection for yourself, but also a maintenance of your feelings.
I am Aya, the writer of warm emotions. How lucky I can meet you in this life! Click to follow and let’s learn together!
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