I am Brother Hui, and I make an appointment with you every day to have an emotional world. I have a story, do you have wine?
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Preface: There is a classic saying on the Internet: "Life abuses me thousands of times, and I treat life as my first love." The sentence describes the hardships of life and people's helplessness in life.
In recent years, due to masks and the disasters in the world, most people's lives have been more difficult than before. Many people have lost their jobs and some families have lost their income. Under the pressure of mortgages, car loans, living and education costs, many people have begun to become discouraged and even lose hope for life.
In fact, Life is a textbook full of hardships. All setbacks and difficulties are just stepping stones to success. If you read carefully, you will gain courage, tolerance, optimism and strength; but if you are willing to surrender or choose to escape, you will be abused by life and cannot control yourself.
In a family, men often play the role of the backbone. They need to make money to support their families, to warm their wives, to support their parents and to raise their children. Therefore, , whether a family can be happy depends on how the husband performs in the family. If the husband does not assume family responsibilities, then every member of the family will be in crisis.
Husband buys a loan for RV Want to be a self-media, if you don’t do your job today, your wife collapses and wants to divorce
Recently, the author saw a video of a female VLOG owner "Cuihua", in which she tells about her current marriage status and current life The dilemma is almost choked deep in the depths, which moved me.
From the video posted by Cuihua before, we learned that her home furnished in Henan, is over 20 years old. She has been married to her husband for a few years and has a daughter over one year old.
About a year ago, Cuihua's husband saw someone driving a RV to work as a self-media, and he could not only travel around the country, but also make money by the way. He felt that this kind of life was his ideal life.
However, at that time, Cuihua's daughter was just a few months old, and in order to have this child, she had been resting at home for almost a year. Moreover, due to the mask, Cuihua's husband did not go out to do things and was idle at home.
The couple has not worked for more than a year and has no source of income at home. In addition, they have to pay their mortgages and raise children every month, so the family has great financial pressure. Cuihua advised her husband to go out to work and earn money to support his family, but he was unwilling to go out to endure hardships. He always wanted to take a loan to buy a RV, and then drive a real estate to travel and make money by doing self-media.
Cuihua finally couldn't resist her husband who was determined to be alone, so she borrowed 300,000 yuan to buy a RV and started her RV self-media life.
However, because my husband only has elementary school education and does not have the experience and ability to be a self-media, and because of the mask, after driving the RV out, he couldn't afford to pay for the oil because the video posted was not played in volume and the revenue was scattered. The fees and meal fees were finally terminated.
After coming back, Cuihua's husband, who felt frustrated, parked his RV at the door of his house, ate, slept at home every day, and no longer cared about family affairs. The family owed a lot of foreign debts and had to pay the loans every month. Cuihua was in a mess every month and found ways to tear down the east wall and repair the loans in the west wall, which made her exhausted.
Finally, facing the camera, Cuihua said, "Follow his butt every day and wipe his butt. I have lived enough of this kind of life! Now he is in his thirties or forties and still cares about his family every day, and doesn't care about nothing. Thinking of myself, without any responsibility, I decided to divorce him." After saying that, Cuihua covered her face and choked up.
It seems that if a woman's heart is broken, she will no longer care about her home.
Hui Ge commented
" Sorrowful " [The second] says: " I know that everyone has this hatred, and poor couples have everything to be sad. "
This sentence comes from Yuan Zhen poem to mourn the dead wife , The original meaning of the poem is that the couple dies, although it is inevitable for people to live together, but for couples who share poverty and humbleness, it is even more sad once they are forever. But until now, people have tampered with this meaning as "Once life is not satisfactory and faces economic difficulties, couples will quarrel and worry, which will affect their relationship."
Indeed, in modern society, everything is expensive, every I personally feel that life is under great pressure. If a family does not have financial ability and lives in poverty, no matter how good the relationship is, the couple will live a sad life, and they will inevitably make noise every day.
Many times, people blame the misfortunes in their married life on "poverty and humbleness" and think that their material conditions are not good, which leads to today's dilemma. However, whether you can live a happy married life is really not about how good material things are, but about what kind of person you marry.
The person who truly loves you, even if he lives a wandering life with you, does not matter, because he cares about you; and the person who does not love you, whenever he encounters trouble, thinks about how to escape, because he wants to It is your own future.
The husband of Cuihua in the article escapes when encountering things and only cares about his own well-being. What he lacks is a sense of family responsibility and love for his family. Such a man is selfish and irresponsible, and he will never stand up and bring happiness to his family in the future, so leaving him may be the best choice.
For Cuihua, although she married an unsatisfactory husband, she did not go to train her well, but only knew how to complain. Even when she thought of divorce, it proved that she did not love her husband much and lacked the confidence and courage to run a good family.
"The husband and wife are birds in the same forest, but they fly away when the disaster strikes." Cuihua's family properly confirms the correctness of this sentence. Since we don’t love each other and are unwilling to run a family together, rather than continuing to make each other sad, it may not be the worst choice to disperse.
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