Introduction: Falling in love and getting married are completely different things. Love is when the two of you only have eyes for each other. Marriage is a matter for two families, and they have to face the daily necessities of life. Aunt Yang, 58, once thought that it was enough for two people to love each other. Age, financial conditions, and family background are not important. But when she married the 35-year-old Xiaoxianrou, she realized that love alone was not enough. She was tortured every day by her mother-in-law, who was two years older than her. What exactly is going on with
? Let's listen to what Aunt Yang has to say.
I have been the apple of my family's eye since I was a child. My parents are both in business and make a lot of money every year. Other kids had to live frugally, but I spent as much as I wanted. I don't care about money, I just want real feelings. When I got to the age of marriage, I originally wanted to marry my beloved boyfriend. But my family disliked my boyfriend because he was too poor, so we beat him up. I couldn't resist my family, so I turned around and married the arranged blind date.
The other party is also a rich second generation. But I especially like to eat, drink and have fun. I hang out outside every day and never go home. I would sit in the living room and wait, sometimes all night long. I feel very alone and lonely. The rich second generation said that as long as they give you a generous living allowance, that's enough. Don't want so much! I can only endure it silently. When the rich second generation was looking for women outside, I could only pretend not to know. I regret not being able to marry love every day.
I think love should be supreme, pure and flawless. It doesn't require material things, just two people together is enough. Decades passed in the blink of an eye. The child has also graduated from a major university. I also divorced a second-generation rich man. The rich second generation gave me a huge amount of divorce compensation. But it can't make up for the emptiness in my body and mind. After the divorce, I lived alone. I would occasionally go out to the mall and have afternoon tea with my sisters. I spend money like water every day, but I am still unhappy when facing an empty house.
I am getting older and older. In order to maintain my appearance, I go to beauty salons from time to time. Thanks to my efforts, I finally look much younger.
One day I met a young man on the street. His name is A Liang and he is 36 years old. He is full of muscles and speaks fluent Mandarin . He wanted me to sign up for personal training at his gym. I fell in love the first time I saw him and decided to sign up on the spot.
We work out together in the gym. If I make a mistake, he will guide me carefully. Sometimes we accidentally get into physical contact. My heart palpitated. He often brings me some fruits to eat. He said that he bought too much, and girls used these to beautify themselves. Sometimes when I am in a bad mood, he will chat with me and take me out to relax. I fell in love with him unconsciously.
On the day of my lover, I confessed my love to him. I didn't expect him to agree to it. He said he likes a mature and wise woman like me. My best friends are not optimistic about our relationship. I always feel that a big age difference will cause a lot of conflicts. And I feel that this man is after my money. But I still believe in A Liang very much and always feel that I can be with him forever. After we dated for a while, things started to heat up quickly. A Liang offered to get a marriage certificate so that he could take care of me for the rest of his life. I quickly nodded in agreement.
When first started, our time together was particularly sweet. Every day you wake up and see the person you love most beside you. Whenever I want to do anything, I always have someone with me. There are also people to help with the heavy work at home.
But gradually, I found that there is a big generation gap with him. He likes to follow trends, while I like things from the old era. Moreover, he likes to smoke and drink, and his salary is not enough to squander. Therefore, I am still asked for an allowance of 3,000 yuan every month. I didn't want him to suffer, so I gave him the money.
I have always been responsible for all the expenses at home. I actually feel quite uncomfortable. But he really couldn't afford it. He is quite childish sometimes and wants me to help him with everything. I feel like he is like my second son.
He and I sometimes quarrel and get into fights.Such days are really tiring. Maybe it's because I care about him too much. That's why I care about some things so much.
Later, he proposed that he would take his mother over to live with him in the countryside. He said that his father died of a cerebral hemorrhage very early. The mother is alone. My mother had been tired for most of her life, and I wanted to do something for her. I didn't agree at all at first. Because I don’t know how to deal with the awkward relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
He's only two years older than me, so he doesn't know what to say about me after he comes here. And this is my house after all, I don't like people coming to my house. But I see him feeling depressed every day. In addition, he often said nice things to me and begged me for help, and he also put in extra effort when we had sex at night. I reluctantly agreed. When his mother came, my nightmare began. His mother said that I spent money lavishly and bought too many miscellaneous things for my family. And they forced me to finish all the food, saying it was not good to waste it.
His mother's feudal ideas are particularly strong. She often said that I was almost as old as her, yet I still dared to seduce her son. It's simply shameless. I felt extremely ashamed and couldn't talk back. His mother is also trying to make ends meet and often compares me with other young and beautiful daughters-in-law. Moreover, it is said that when men eat, women cannot serve at the table and must wait on the side. At that time, I felt that this idea was too backward. His mother believed that men were superior to women and women should serve men.
But the pocket money I gave A Liang every month also contributed to his mother’s living expenses and medical expenses. It's really unbearable for his mother to point fingers like this. I felt like I was enduring hardship and not being grateful. A Liang also became less and less caring under the influence of his mother. My days are getting harder every day. His mother also picked up scraps everywhere in order to make some money. Then I piled all the scraps in my living room.
After a long time, the stench can make people faint. His mother often invited some aunts and wives from the countryside to play at home. I was asked to prepare a table of dishes every time. There's also cleaning to do. I am so tired that my back aches. If I refuse, his mother will accuse me of being unfilial.
Now I finally understand that getting married is not that simple. You are not only married to a man but also to the family behind him. And love doesn’t need money, money is needed everywhere in life.
If you find a man with poor economic conditions, you must be prepared for targeted poverty alleviation. I already want a divorce. My mother-in-law, who is two years older than me, is really terrible!
