Marriage is actually not only the union of a man and a woman, but also the union of two families, so the ancestors proposed that they should be well-matched. If two families are very different in all aspects, it will be particularly easy to cause conflicts. Even if they are married, it is easy for young couples to have disagreements in their married life.
Marriage is about fate. Only when two people are destined can they come together. If they are not destined, it will be difficult to hold hands with each other, so both parties must cherish their fate. When discussing marriage, both parties must put themselves in each other's shoes and not just think from their own standpoints.
Both men and women should not have the idea of scheming against each other, they should be honest with each other, and both of them will rush to grow old together. If you are too calculating and constantly cheat the other party for your own benefit, then the marriage will definitely not work out.
No one is a fool. If you treat others sincerely, others will understand. If you are scheming against the other party, the other party may not tell you because of feelings, but they will naturally understand in their heart. If both men and women lack sincerity and plot against each other, how can they get married?
On the eve of their marriage, the man and woman each bought a pre-marital house.
Qi Fan and her boyfriend met on a blind date. The introducers were Qi Fan's aunt and her boyfriend's aunt. The two women worked in the same factory. When the two were chatting, they talked about the children of relatives, and they enthusiastically helped match the two children.
Qi Fan's family and her boyfriend's family have similar conditions. They are both the only children in the family, and their parents are very satisfied. After Qi Fan and her boyfriend met, they both liked each other very much. Later, her boyfriend took the initiative to pursue Qi Fan, and Qi Fan naturally fell in love with him.
After being in love for more than a year, their parents urged them to get married, so the two were ready to get married. When discussing the marriage, the two parties agreed to buy a wedding house together, decorate it together, and write their names on the real estate certificate.
But after looking at the house, when he went to go through the house purchase procedures, his boyfriend did not notify Qi Fan and went through it alone. When Qi Fan found out, she was surprised. Her boyfriend took out a loan for the part that Qi Fan's family should pay for. In other words, the boyfriend's family only paid the down payment, and then took out a loan to buy the wedding house. Only the boyfriend's name was written on the property certificate.
Qi Fan asked her boyfriend what it meant and why it was like this? The boyfriend said that the wedding room should be arranged by the man. This is an old rule and he doesn't want to break the rule. He wanted to get married according to the old rules, so he bought a wedding room by himself, and Qi Fan's family only needed to buy a dowry.
Qi Fan had nothing to say if her boyfriend insisted on doing this. The boyfriend's family didn't spend the money from the woman's family to buy a house, so what could the woman say? But Qi Fan felt that if this happened, she and her boyfriend would have to repay the mortgage together after marriage. What would happen to this mortgage part?
’s boyfriend said that nowadays, the furniture and decoration of houses must be style-conscious, so you can’t just buy dowry randomly. The boyfriend proposed that all the money for the decoration should be paid by Qi Fan's family, and then the furniture and electrical appliances would be purchased according to the decoration style. Anyway, their family bought a house and Qi Fan's family renovated it, which is fair.
Qi Fan immediately felt that it was really funny. The house bought by her boyfriend's family had her boyfriend's name on the real estate certificate, but Qi Fan's family was asked to decorate it. What was the cost of the decoration? Qi Fan is also a smart girl. She immediately realized that her boyfriend's family was plotting against the woman's family, and she felt very unhappy.
Qi Fan had a quarrel with her boyfriend. What she meant was that since both parties agreed to buy a house and decorate it together, how could her boyfriend not follow the agreement? The boyfriend insisted on paying for the renovation of Qi Fan's home, but the two refused to give in, and eventually broke up on bad terms.
Qi Fan went home and told his parents about the house. Their parents were also surprised. How could the man get married if he was so dishonest? The mother immediately objected to the marriage, and the father suggested that Qi Fan should also buy a house. Anyway, with their family's ability, there would be no problem in repaying the mortgage.
With the support of his parents, Qi Fan, like his boyfriend, took out a loan to buy a house. Only Qi Fan's name was written on the property certificate.
Seeing that the wedding was getting closer, her boyfriend was anxious to decorate the house, so he came to Qi Fan and wanted to urge her to decorate the house quickly.Unexpectedly, Qi Fan refused and took out her real estate certificate, saying that this was her dowry and she was not responsible for decorating her boyfriend's house.
After his boyfriend took the real estate certificate and opened it and saw Qi Fan's name, he became extremely angry. He blamed Qi Fan for taking matters into his own hands and buying a house without consulting him? He had planned to let Qi Fan's family pay for the decoration of the wedding room. What should he do now? Their family doesn't have the money to decorate the wedding room.
Looking at her boyfriend's look, Qi Fan really found it funny. He bought a house on his own initiative, so what right did he have to blame others now? He clearly "only allowed the state officials to set fires, but not the common people to light lamps." How could he marry such a boyfriend? Qi Fan proposed breaking up. In fact, she had already decided to break up when she went to buy a house.
Of course her boyfriend didn't want to break up, so he quarreled with Qi Fan. The more he quarreled with Qi Fan, the more determined Qi Fan was to break up. Later, at Qi Fan's insistence, the two broke up, and each had to repay the loan after the breakup.
You must be sincere when getting married, and you must abide by the agreement to hold the wedding.
Originally, Qi Fan's family and her boyfriend's family were well matched, and the marriage was well discussed, but her boyfriend changed the agreement on his own initiative. My boyfriend thinks he is very smart. He took out a loan to buy a house. Only his name is written on the property certificate, so his money is protected by law.
Her boyfriend asked Qi Fan's family to pay for the renovation of the house. After marriage, he and Qi Fan repaid the loan together, but the house only belonged to him. Assuming a divorce, he would take advantage, so he was actually plotting against Qi Fan.
Qi Fan is not stupid. How could she not understand her boyfriend's "sexy" actions? Therefore, Qi Fan was determined not to pay for the decoration. Instead, she took out a loan to buy a house. She also had to use legal means to protect her pre-marital property.
Boyfriend and Qi Fan are both very shrewd people, and they are also very good at safeguarding their own interests. In the end, they broke up because of their "shrewdness". Therefore, when you get married, you must be sincere, abide by the agreement, don't be smart, and don't scheme against the other person, so that you can gain happiness.
Author: A creator in the emotional field, focusing on various issues in the emotional field, welcome to pay attention. Life is warm because of affection and love. Let us grow in love and spend every day in true love.
