Getting along with others is never easy.
There will be many gaps between you and your elders. When you are with your colleagues, you will have conflicts. Even if you are friends, you will occasionally feel resentful.
It is not necessary to stay together all day long. It is not easy to get along with people who are related to each other all the time. When we like someone and become a lover with someone, we are always related to each other in everything. When this relationship is maintained, It is even more difficult.
It is easy to fall in love but very difficult to get along with each other. It is precisely for this reason that too many men and women have a good relationship with each other at the beginning. Gradually, the relationship becomes worse and worse, but they cannot go on at all.
Speaking of breaking up, it seems that there is some irreconcilable conflict. In fact, many times it is just because of some trivial things, both parties feel disappointed in each other and feel chilled.
It is too easy after all to disappoint a person. Even if it is just a word or an action, it can be achieved.
Two people with completely different personalities and growing up environments need some skills and concerted efforts if they want to really get along.
Respect each other and accept each other as they are.
Regarding relationships, some people are very interesting. While they choose to be with one person, they always dislike the other person in various ways.
Either you really dislike the other person and feel that there is nothing wrong with the other person, and want to transform the other person so that the other person can gradually become what you want, or you want to use the method of suppressing the other person to maintain your own self-esteem and make yourself look better. Somewhat authoritative.
Anyway, they don’t treat each other as equals at all, and they don’t respect each other at all.
In a relationship, if the status of two people is not equal, and one person is in a high position and the other is in a low position, of course they will not get along harmoniously, they will only appear very depressed, and both of them will feel quite uncomfortable.
If we want to make each other feel more comfortable, then no matter whether the conditions are the same or not, even if they are quite different in some aspects, they must keep each other on the same level in each other's small world.
Respect each other as they are, love each other's strengths, and accept each other's shortcomings. You don't always want to change the other person, but learn to appreciate the other person, treat the other person well, and give the other person your preference.
When we can do this, and the other party knows how to treat us with the same attitude, then no matter how the outside world changes, each other will feel very solid and at ease when we are by the other party's side, and that is what we want.
Before you know it, this relationship will become stronger and more worthwhile.
Don’t be bored if something happens, communicate directly.
In life, at many moments, it is very natural that we tend to use our own thoughts to speculate on others.
The other party may be in a bad mood just because of some other things, but we often think that the other party seems to be dissatisfied with us. The other party may just accidentally not follow our wishes, but we will feel that the other party does not love us. .
always has a lot of inner drama, and is unwilling to communicate. He just thinks that since the other party's attitude towards him is not good and so excessive, then why should he lower his body and insist on getting closer, so he can just get more angry. , even more ignored.
Then, because of the lack of communication and cold treatment of each other, it was nothing at first, but later it became trouble. It was just some small things at first, but later it became a big thing. Both of them were resentful and wanted to escape.
When two people get along, communication is really a very important thing. After all, no one really has the mind-reading ability to know what the other person is thinking. When they don't understand each other that well at all, and they just have all kinds of suspicions, it will of course hurt their feelings.
It doesn’t matter who you are with. The best thing about getting along with each other on weekdays is to communicate more with each other. Don’t hide what you think, just tell the other person directly and let the other person know what you are thinking.
If you speak well and communicate well, you can really avoid a lot of problems and solve a lot of problems.
Protect each other and don’t let too many people interfere.
is obviously an adult, but many people always like to express their feelings and let the other party participate in various ways.
Let your friends around you give you advice, and let your parents give you advice on your feelings.
As a result, originally they got along well with each other, and there were no big problems. However, after other people analyzed, mixed in, and came up with various ideas, they started to have some secrets between each other. Some cracks.
When lovers get along, it is never a good thing to let too many people get involved in each other's feelings.
If you not only allow outsiders to participate, but also always listen to what outsiders say and guard your significant other in every way, this is even more taboo. It will never really be beneficial to the relationship, but will only make it easy to let others go. Relationships fall apart.
We must be aware, understand clearly, and know that feelings are each other's business, and we need to live each other's lives.
Instead of always dealing with outsiders to deal with those around you, always resorting to external forces, you should face it by yourself. There are too many conflicts, as long as they are not related to issues of principle, as long as you still want to continue to live a good life. Just deal with it yourself.
always stand on the other side, not on other people's side, treat their significant other as an outsider, always guard each other's small world, stand on the same front with each other, become a whole, and go together Fight against the ups and downs of the outside world.
The best way for couples to get along is to love with your truest self and allow the other person to be their truest self.
allows conflicts and quarrels, but we will never let those issues linger. We will communicate and resolve them in a timely manner.
Be sincere and live each other's lives in your own way. Don't let too many other people give you opinions.
On this basis, different people will have different ways of getting along. It doesn’t necessarily have to be approved by others. The key is to like each other. As long as each other feels good and really feels happy, then no matter what others say, it is actually the same. the best.
There are no shortcuts. All good relationships lie in mutual accommodation, mutual tolerance and mutual support.
Be the light in each other's eyes instead of being each other's critic.
In the vast sea of people, choose the person you love, and after that, you will love the person you choose with all your heart.
text/Tan Meng
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