When did you feel most insecure? Psychologists tell you: Only you can give
a real sense of security. Personal growth
I once saw a question on the Internet: When do you feel most insecure?
Many people answered: they can’t access the Internet outside; their mobile phone battery only has 20% left; the other party is slow to reply to their messages; there are many friends on WeChat, but only a few of them can talk to each other;
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Four manifestations of insecurity:
1. Always afraid of trouble others, sticking to oneself
Insecure people dare not trouble others, do not want to cause trouble to others, and are also afraid that the other party will be afraid of trouble. Dislike yourself and always hope that you can do everything well.
When the weather gets cold, you put on your own clothes; when you get sick, you buy your own medicine; you never forget to bring an umbrella and tissues when you go out; you can repair your own light bulbs and install toilets.
The more insecure a person is, the more difficult it is for him to ask for something.
It seems that one person can hold the world together.
2. People who are relatively sensitive and prone to random thoughts
Insecure people are mostly sensitive and delicate, considerate problems, always consider other people's feelings, and forget to love themselves.
When the other party responds with "um" or "oh" on WeChat, you will feel uneasy and suspect that you have said the wrong thing;
If you don't get a reply for a long time, you will guess who the other party is with and whether he doesn't want to talk to you anymore;
The other party will Walking by without expression, you will always wonder if you did something wrong.
People always think of the worst in everything, find it difficult to trust others, and inevitably have constant doubts. People become more sensitive and fall into the vortex of negative emotions, unable to extricate themselves.
3. Pretending to be strong, longing for someone to understand
Working hard to put on a smile, but being full of vulnerability inside is a true portrayal of a person who has no sense of security.
Even though I care deeply, I have to pretend that it doesn’t matter; even though something has happened, I still have to pretend that I can do it.
Due to a serious lack of security, he keeps everything in his heart and does not want to reveal it. He is afraid that he will be attacked or excluded by others if he says the wrong thing. In the end, he can only live in his own little world.
Even if I feel wronged and sad and want to find someone to talk to, I still pretend to be strong, constantly suppress and ignore my own needs, and put the interests and requirements of others first.
4. People with a please-please personality seek a sense of security
People with a please-please personality are almost always responsive to requests from others. Even if they are reluctant, it is difficult to refuse others.
is worried that he will cause trouble and cause dissatisfaction to others, so he habitually hides himself, is afraid of speaking his true thoughts, is afraid of contradictions and conflicts, and even cannot bear silence, embarrassment and other situations.
When getting along, they guess what the other person wants them to say and do in order to satisfy the other person.
The more insecure you are, the more sensitive you are to other people's emotions. Although they are not at fault, they often take the initiative to apologize to gain a sense of security in the relationship.
When he needs help, it is difficult for him to ask for help. He seems to have a self-denial in his heart: "I should always help others, but I cannot ask others for help."
Who can give us a sense of security?
In fact, the real sense of security does not come from suspicion and delusion, but from taking action.
If you don’t take action, no matter how good your idea is, it will just stay where you are.
A sense of security is not something you have to wait for, nor is it a pretense.
It starts when you realize your thinking bias and take action consciously.
The more active you try, the more sense of security will come to you uninvited.
Although during this process, you may still have doubts, hesitations, and fears, but slowly, you will become stronger from the inside out, neither humble nor arrogant, and have a stable self-awareness.
In the final analysis: The sense of security you want comes from yourself. Follow me to learn more!
