Although a family does need to help each other. But don't go too far. If you go too far, you will definitely lose everything in the end, just like the woman in the article. At that time, don’t blame your husband for divorcing you. It’s all your fault. If you hadn’t gone too far, would your husband have divorced you?
It’s okay to help your family, but it must be measured. What is going on? Let's take a look at this matter together. I hope this can make all women pay attention. It's okay to help family members, but you have to do it in a measured way. The monthly salary is 4,000, but I have to use 10,000 to help my brother pay for a house. My wife said: I will use my own money, and I: Get out.
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36-year-old Mr. Song:
Many people said that I was wrong and should not choose divorce impulsively. Including my mother told me the same thing. My mother told me, what's the point of getting a divorce? Why are you so impulsive? Divorce hurts you a lot. If you have a choice, don't get divorced. It's difficult to find a wife now. You know it without me telling you. What will you do if you divorce your wife?
I told my mother that I know it is difficult to find a wife, but facing this matter, what else can I do except divorce? I have no choice. But my mother told me, why don’t you have a choice? Why don’t you and your wife live a good life?
You have lived with other people, why can't you live with your wife? You and your wife have been together for so many years, and you have feelings. I told my mother, so what if we have feelings for each other, there is no place for me in my wife's heart, and he is also her brother. Otherwise, my wife wouldn’t force me.
It’s not like you don’t know what my wife said. She said she must agree to this. If I’m given 10,000 yuan a month, how can I have so much money? Even if my wife’s 4,000 yuan is not spent. If you ask me to give you 10,000 yuan, that means you have to give me 6,000 yuan. Did the strong wind bring my money? Where do I have so much money?
Not to mention that my wife’s 4,000 yuan is her own pocket money. In other words, let me give you 10,000 yuan back today. If it's 10,000 a year, I can think about it. The question is, can I afford 10,000 a month? My mother was speechless by what I said. So today I will talk about this matter, and everyone can help me comment on it.
Shouldn't we choose divorce when faced with this matter? If it were you, what would you do? This matter should have started a week ago. Up to now, I have been separated from my wife for a week. During this week, my wife did not apologize to me.
didn't say anything to me. It was obvious that my wife just wanted it, and I agreed to this. If I don't agree, my wife will ignore me and not come back. A week ago I discovered that there was no money in my bank card. What is going on? Why is there no money in the bank card? I'll go to the hospital then. I don’t know what’s going on. Why do I feel insomnia?
When I go to the hospital for a check-up, I have to pay a fee, and then I swipe my card. But when I swiped the card, I found that there was no money in it. No way, I save money every month, how could I have no money? I checked my balance and found that I really had no money. I'm really angry.
Money is more important than anything else these days. Especially in the past two years. Affected by the epidemic, making money is particularly difficult. Where did the money go? I told my wife about this. The bank card is with me, but it is my wife’s bank card that is bound to my wife’s mobile phone. I asked my wife, why are our savings gone? Where did the money go?
My monthly income is 18,000 yuan. The mortgage is more than 4,000 yuan and close to 5,000 yuan. My pocket money is 1,000. The expenses at home are not much. Logically speaking, you can save about 10,000 yuan every month. But why is there no money in the bank card now? My wife told me, have you checked?
I don’t know, how can there be no money in the bank card. You also know that I am not short of money, I have 4,000 yuan every month.4,000 yuan is enough for me. So I didn't touch the money in the bank card. When I heard my wife say this, I was confused. If my wife did it.
Then I can believe it. The problem is that my dad now tells me that she did not take the money from the bank card. Since my wife did not take the money from the bank card, where did the money go? Has it disappeared? Or maybe it was taken away by others. If it was stolen, at least I would receive the news, and my wife has never told me about it. Also, the bank card is always with me.
I haven’t found anything stolen. Then comes the problem. Where did this money go? I definitely didn't take it. If I had taken it, how could I tell my wife about it? Could it be that my wife lied to me? I told my wife again, just tell me honestly, where did the money go? If I spent the money, I must know it in my heart. The problem is that I didn’t spend the money. How could so much money be gone?
Could it be that you spent the money? Did you buy something? But my wife said to me, how is it possible? Why did I buy something? I told you, I have 4,000 yuan every month, and my salary is enough for me to spend.
How can I still spend your money? If I say no, I won’t. Don’t talk nonsense. If I spent this money, I will definitely admit it. I can swear to God that I definitely did not spend this money. That would be strange. If it’s not my wife who spends it, it’s not me who spends it. So where did the money go?
This is hundreds of thousands. It’s about 10,000 yuan a month, and after so many years, how much does it cost? Since it's not my wife, I can only check where the money went. When I got home, my wife also told me about this. I thought my wife would confess.
At that time, my wife still told me that she didn’t take it. Since it was not my wife who took the money, where did it go? That's when my wife went out to answer the phone. I didn't care about anything, and then I took a side. I wonder where the money went? Should I call the police?
Then I heard it. My wife said, your brother-in-law hasn’t received his salary this month. He will have money when he does. Don’t be anxious. It’s useless to be anxious. Who told you to spend all this month's money last month? I gave you the money to pay for your house, not to spend it.
It’s none of my business that you spent the money. Even if you want the money, at least you have to wait until your brother-in-law pays his salary. Now there is no way to open the pot at home. I give you 10,000 yuan every month. Now the family really has no money. Now that my husband knows about this, I think he will investigate.
So I may not be able to give you money... Only after hearing my wife say these words did I know where the money went. I'm very angry, my wife really can't be like this. My wife is still on the phone with her brother-in-law. But I interrupted my wife while she was on the phone with someone else. I said to my wife, what did you just tell me? Tell me you don't know where the money went.
But now go and tell me that the money was given to your brother. Is that what happened? My wife never expected that I would be standing at the door listening to her call? My wife was surprised and said to me, how did you know? Then I told my wife, what you just told your brother, I have been standing here. When I said this, my wife said, brother, I won’t tell you anymore.
Let’s talk later, we have something to deal with. After saying this, my wife hung up the phone. After hanging up the phone, she told me, I'm sorry to let you know about this, but so what if you know, the money has already been given to my brother, there's no way I can ignore it. .
My brother bought a house. As you know, he bought it two years ago. At that time, he paid more than 800,000 yuan for the down payment. Now the monthly payment is 10,000 yuan. How can my brother have so much money? My brother doesn’t want this house anymore. But if he doesn’t want it, he will be blacklisted by the credit bureau.Without this house, my brother would still owe the bank 600,000 yuan.
The down payment I gave before was gone, and I had to pay it back for another two years. In the end, I still owed 600,000 yuan. It would be too uneconomical to do this, so I had to help my brother pay for the house. I gave him 10,000 yuan every month. I never expected that the money in my bank card would be gone so quickly. I usually don’t spend much of your money, all I spend is my own money.
I was very angry when my wife said this. I told my wife that what you usually spend is indeed your own money. The question is why did you give my money to your brother. Was my money blown by the strong wind? Where can I have so much money? Now the family can’t open the pot. What do you think about this matter?
My wife told me, how do I know how to look at it? I don’t want to be like this. My brother is very helpless. I don’t spend your money anymore, what else do you want? If it were any other woman, I would have spent all your money long ago, but I didn't spend your money, I spent all my own money. I told my wife, I don’t want to tell you any tongue twisters.
I know you didn't spend my money, but you gave my money to your brother. When I said this, my wife was speechless. Then I told my wife that I had already had sex just now. If it's 10,000 a month and a year, it's about 120,000, and at least 300,000 for more than two years.
Let your brother get back 300,000, and then this matter will be over. If your brother doesn't get the money back, don't blame me, it's you who went too far. You spent your own money. Then take 10,000 from me and give it to your brother. Another 10,000 a month. So do we still want to live through this? If I hadn't discovered this problem now.
When your salary is paid next month, will you have to give money to your brother again? If that's the case, then we won't have any money at all. So do we still want to go through it? Why don't we get divorced directly? Hearing me say this to my wife, I felt wronged. My wife felt wronged and told me aggrievedly, is there anything wrong with this?
He is my younger brother. We are all a family. Even if we say that we are a family, then we should help each other and think about it in another person's shoes. If you have a younger brother or an older brother who needs help, you will also help, right?
What I am encountering now is this problem. I am helping my brother. We are all part of the same family. I couldn't bear it and told my wife that in your heart, your brother is more important than our family. Then let's get a divorce, okay? Whatever you want to do in the future, your brother can do it. We have nothing to do with each other anymore. I don’t want to interfere with your affairs anymore.
My wife told me that you don’t love me anymore. If you loved me, you wouldn’t do this to me. What can i say? Because of this matter, I divorced my wife, and my wife returned to her parents' home. This is how things are, what do you think about this matter? If it were you, would you choose to divorce? Am I wrong to choose divorce?
Conclusion:
This matter is really helpless. If it were me, I would choose divorce. First, your wife doesn't love you. If your wife loved you, she wouldn't treat you like this. Secondly, there is no place for you in your wife's heart. If there was a place for you in your wife's heart, she wouldn't give all the money to your brother.
So there is nothing wrong with your choice of divorce. To put it bluntly, if you don’t choose divorce now, you will be even more unable to live in the future. If you give your wife a chance, your wife will definitely treat you like this again.
So you must choose divorce, and don’t feel embarrassed. When faced with the most important thing, divorce or divorce, there is nothing wrong with you. If you don’t divorce, you will have nothing to do in the future.
So you are not wrong.Let me say one more thing here: Women can be filial to their parents, and they can also help your younger brother, but they must be measured. If you don't do things properly, you will end up like the woman in the article, and you will lose everything. Don't blame your husband, blame yourself. If you hadn't gone too far, your husband wouldn't have divorced you.
