Introduction:
For single people, it is really a very happy thing to have a lover who knows both coldness and warmth. However, there are always many variables in this world. People who promised to be together for the rest of their lives are very happy. Maybe due to physical reasons or personality reasons, we couldn't get together in the end.
For men, not having a wife in their later years is like losing their hands. After all, women usually do most of the housework. Many men are only responsible for making money and don't worry about why the house is clean and the clothes are tidy. , in fact, these are all the contributions of women.
Therefore, once many men are single again, they will immediately find a wife, for no other reason than to have a family and a lover who knows both coldness and warmth.
So, what is the real purpose of men insisting on finding a wife in their later years? In this regard, some people raised questions. The 65-year-old Aunt Zhang said frankly: "After two partners, I finally understood the reason why men must find a wife in their later years. It is simply because the purpose is not pure."
What did Aunt Zhang go through to become this person? Have such an opinion? Let's look down together.
The self-report of 65-year-old Aunt Zhang:
My name is Zhang Li. I am 65 years old this year. I often lament that time flies by so fast. In the blink of an eye, I have been retired for more than ten years. Currently, I have a deposit of more than 300,000 yuan and a set of 80 I have a small house with a monthly pension of 4,000 yuan. Although my two sons are not big bosses, they have stable jobs and don’t need me to worry about them. I still live a very comfortable life in my later years.
It’s just that no matter how powerful the tiger is, there are times when it takes a nap. Originally, I could have lived a good old age. Eight years ago, I personally ruined my happy old age. Now that I think about it, I still regret it very much.
This is a long story, and it starts from when I just retired two years ago. At that time, my wife was in good health, and what we always wanted to do was to spend the rest of our lives together in our later years, and my wife even promised me , wanted to take me on a trip, but in the end, my wife left me forever because of a car accident.
This incident hit me hard. My wife and I worked hard to raise our two sons. My wife left before she even retired or enjoyed a day of free life. I absolutely cannot accept this ending.
Later, my two sons came back for the funeral. Seeing their loved ones right in front of me, I finally couldn’t help but burst into tears. I cried and finished handling my wife’s funeral affairs. Afterwards, I got some money from my wife’s company, which was all from his past. I paid , five insurances and one fund, and so on. My wife just left without even receiving a pension. When I talk about this, I still feel heartbroken.
Originally I wanted to imitate the women on TV and be widowed for their husbands, but after living alone for half a year, I knew that I couldn’t do it. I am just an ordinary woman. I can’t carry things with my shoulders and lift them with my hands. I usually carry a It takes a lot of effort to carry a bucket of water, let alone resist gas, so I feel that we still need a man in the family. At least I can have someone to rely on to help each other, and life can be easier.
I told my two sons about this, and they both advised me to go to their home for retirement, so that I would not be lonely. I feel that my sons simply don’t understand what I want in my heart. It’s not that I lack company, but He lacks a pillow to talk to. Although his son is filial, his love cannot replace many things.
Since my son doesn’t want me to remarry, I can only think of other ways to pass the time. I have arranged many activities, including practicing calligraphy, square dancing, practicing manners, etc. I was really full of interest at the beginning, but time After a long time, I felt bored. Generally speaking, I still had no talent. I made slow progress in everything I learned, and eventually I lost confidence.
At this moment, Lao Qi came into my sight. He has been dancing square dance for a long time, so he is very proficient in many dance steps. Lao Qi saw that I was struggling to learn, so he took the initiative to talk to me. Taught me the dance steps step by step.
Not only does Lao Qi dance well, but the instructors are also very serious, and the teachings are very simple and very suitable for practice. Because Lao Qi teaches well, I also respect Lao Qi. I usually buy Lao Qi some drinks. Ice cream or something, the two of them started to have a good impression of each other just by talking to each other.
But my two sons always disagree with us being together, but I really love Lao Qi, so even if I lose my temper with my two sons, I still want to be with Lao Qi. My son quarreled with me about this We had a fight and said that if I were with Lao Qi, they wouldn't recognize me as their mother. I hate people threatening me the most in my life. The more they do this, the more rebellious I become, and finally I start living together with Lao Qi.
Lao Qi has a higher pension than me. Although he is five years older than me, he looks about the same age as me because he exercises regularly. He has a son and a daughter, but he doesn’t want to disturb their children’s lives and seldom interacts with them. This is very much in line with my requirements for choosing a mate.
Later I packed up my things and moved to Lao Qi’s house. At first, Lao Qi was quite nice to me, because we both had similar economic conditions, and there was no saying that anyone was superior to the other, so Lao Qi also took good care of me. , when we go shopping and buy clothes, Lao Qi pays for it. Although the living expenses are shared equally between the two of us, he will give me 1,000 yuan of pocket money, and I am quite content.
I usually have a lot of leisure time. Apart from cooking and cleaning, I have nothing else to do. Lao Qi is not the kind of pampered young man. Every time I cook, he will help me pick vegetables and finish the meal. He even rushed to help me wash the dishes. Lao Qi was so kind to me, and I was really satisfied.
I also took Lao Qi and my old sisters to have dinner. During this period, Lao Qi helped me pick up the food and acted like a first-married couple. They were very loving. My sisters all said that I was lucky to have met such a wonderful person. A man who will be settled in his later years, I felt happy in my heart after hearing this.
I had also longed for it, and it would be nice to live together with Lao Qi in his later years. But I didn’t expect that just one year later, Lao Qi changed. We went shopping to buy clothes, and Lao Qi always magically disappeared while paying the bill. Even when he went out to a restaurant and paid the bill, Lao Qi had to use the restroom as an excuse. Even later, the 1,000 yuan pocket money was gone, and I had to pay for both of our living expenses alone. At that time, I was still worried Lao Qi made excuses. Maybe his financial situation was not good recently, so I didn't blame him.
Another three months passed like this. I really couldn’t bear it, so I asked Lao Qi for living expenses, because in the next three months, I paid for even the groceries. I felt it was unfair, so I asked Lao Qi for living expenses. Qi asked for 1,000 yuan to be split evenly with me, but Lao Qi turned the tables and said I was stingy for asking him for a mere 1,000 yuan.
Lao Qi not only failed to satisfy me materially, he was also becoming more and more indifferent emotionally. I found that he started to dance square dance again. I heard from his fellow dancers that he and another woman were talking and laughing. Others said they were dating.
I was really angry at that time. I was Lao Qi’s real girlfriend, but seeing that Lao Qi cared less and less for me, I was completely reduced to a free nanny at home. Not only did I have to do housework, but I also had to serve. In the end, he didn't even have a word of concern about his basic necessities, food, housing, and transportation. What's the point of living like this?
I was mopping the floor several times and Lao Qi didn’t help me, so I just complained a few times. Who knew Lao Qi came and said, "What are you complaining about? Now you are served delicious food and drink, and you still live in such a big house." , you are so happy, what’s wrong with doing some housework? It is natural for women to do housework, why should I, a grown man, do it? You are not afraid of others poking your spine!"
Lao Qi’s words completely disappointed me. After all, I broke up with Lao Qi and moved back to my hometown. After
and Lao Qi broke up, I lost confidence in finding a wife. I feel that if I find a wife again, I must get a marriage certificate, otherwise the other party will look down on me and not take me seriously. Only after getting a marriage certificate will the other party be responsible. Heart.
Later, my sister introduced me to Lao Zhou. He was three years older than me and had a daughter. He was already married. Lao Zhou’s pension was only 2,500 yuan. I didn’t like him at the time because I thought the pension was too little. , but my sister told me: People without money have less money to spend and they know how to take care of their families.
I listened to my sister’s words, and after six months of dating, I got my divorce certificate and remarried him.
Originally, I thought that after receiving the certificate this time, I would be able to live a steady life, but many problems still came one after another.
Although Lao Zhou and I are really compatible in terms of personality, we can't stand it because he has no money. He pays 1,000 yuan for daily living expenses, but I have to pay 2,000 yuan. After a long time, I still feel a little unhappy.
Also, his daughter used to live in other places, but later she got divorced. She had nowhere to go, so she had no choice but to join Lao Zhou. From then on, I have to serve them, father and daughter, and take a little grandson with me. , they are a happy family, and I am like a nanny, sitting around the pot every day, not to mention that the family expenses are high, and I have to provide money to support their family.
Not only that, Lao Zhou also likes to invite friends to his home as a guest, which is known as letting his friends see that he has a good wife. This is hard on me. I am usually tired. When his friends come, I have to cook a few dishes to go with the wine. For Lao Zhou’s sake, I am often too tired to stand up straight.
I told Lao Zhou several times that if I want to entertain guests in the future, I will take them out to eat at restaurants. I really don’t have the energy to cook so much food, but Lao Zhou has no money, so every time I entertain guests, I will still go home. bring.
Unexpectedly, after two partnerships, none of them really made me feel comfortable. Now I really miss the days when I was single. I don’t know how comfortable I was. How could I be like now, working as a servant for no reason? They also had to pay money to serve their family.
I now understand that men who insist on finding a wife in their later years simply want to spend the least amount of money to find a free nanny to take care of their daily life, preferably with their children. Second-married couples are very It's rare for people to live their lives sincerely, and their hearts are full of calculations. I really regret it. If I had known I should have been single proudly, I wouldn't have suffered this injustice.
