Sanmao wrote this sentence in "Baby":
"Those things that come because of fate will eventually part ways."
Indeed, I originally thought that holding hands would last a lifetime, but slowly I discovered:
Even if this person has occupied the top of your WeChat, chat history, or even every circle of friends;
may eventually withdraw from your entire life without looking back.
Whether it is a couple or a lover, there will be these obvious signs before the relationship ends.
Care about every detail
People who are willing to pay for you unconditionally are people who want to live a lifetime.
In life, there are some people who, even if they like you somewhat in their hearts, still dare not invest too much.
People who are afraid that all their efforts in the end will be in vain are actually not firm about the future.
People who are willing to pay for you unconditionally recognize you from the bottom of their hearts and will stay with you for a lifetime.
Therefore, you never have to worry so much. As long as he has it, he is willing to give it to you;
if he doesn't have it, he will find a way to give it to you.
Writer Tonghua also wrote this in a book:
"If you really love someone, even if you give her your whole world, you still worry that you don't give enough or that it's not good enough."
sincerely agrees.
The essence of love is to give willingly without expecting anything in return.
And if in a relationship, when it comes to caring about some material benefits, it is not far away from parting ways.
Indeed, people who love you will not care about you so much at all.
Only people who don't love you will become careless and afraid of suffering a loss.
There is a sentence in "Heart Talk" that goes like this:
"Patience, resilience, understanding, tolerance, and tolerance are all synonymous with love, but care is not."
So, if a relationship reaches a stage where everything needs to be care about. , it was time to end the show.
There is no common language with the other party
There is a scene in the movie " One sentence is worth ten thousand sentences ":
"As soon as the door of the marriage registration office opened, men and women lined up eagerly.
The registrar asked one of the couples: "Why are you doing this? Divorce? "
" we can't say. "
The registrar then asked the next couple: "Why did you get married? "
" We can tell. ”
A person’s loneliness is not loneliness. A person is looking for another person, and one sentence is looking for another sentence, which is the real loneliness.
It seems that this is indeed the case. When getting along with people, the most fearful thing is that one is affectionate and the other is unintentional. ,
One of them tries his best to find a topic, and the other tries to prevaricate without being salty or indifferent. In the end, he tires others and hurts himself.
Any intimate relationship is inseparable from communication.
If two people are together, it becomes. Being cold and distant without anything to say.
means that this relationship is over.
No one is so stupid as to keep holding a cup of boiling water and refuse to let go.
When the passion fades and the desire to share disappears, even if the two people are still together. , the heart is separated by the Milky Way.
Happy love must have nothing to say.
Only when there is no emotion, there will be nothing to say.
When two people get along together, they will always have nothing to say. It is normal to encounter some stumbling blocks.
After all, you are both independent individuals with your own independent nature and personality.
Being together is a process of getting along with each other, and there are few couples who do not quarrel. But once quarreling becomes a common occurrence, the two people will always quarrel over trivial matters.
In fact, there are already problems in this relationship.
When two people are together, there will be so many fights. Unless they already dislike each other.
Only two people who hate each other will quarrel frequently.
Just like Yishu said:
"When a person no longer loves you, everything you do is wrong, crying is wrong, being silent is wrong, and even dying is wrong."
Indeed, when After a person does not have you in his heart, you will have no bright spots at all.
No matter what you do, he won't like it and will always quarrel with you.
If a relationship reaches the end, there will only be frequent and endless quarrels.
There is no need to continue with such a relationship.
Just like this lyric in "Old Accounts" goes like this:
"Some people are noisy and stay together until the end of their lives. Some people don't know the rules and are destroyed by quarrels. They are broken up and separated in the middle."
The person who truly loves you, I won't quarrel with you all the time. Even if I quarrel, it is warm.
Only people who don't love you will turn a quarrel into a long tug of war.
When love has disappeared, don't give in, say goodbye to the wrong one, only then can you truly meet the right person.
