#马爱 Manual# There is no choice in a person’s birth. If I could choose, then I would rather choose not to be born. Since you have no choice, just take care of the wind and rain. When I married him, I was only nineteen and he was twenty-one. I only knew that he was an orphan from t

You thought you had something to rely on in life, but unexpectedly you fell against a wall or bowed against a tree. What you can really rely on is yourself.

When I first got married, I was not used to him in various ways. Except for his ability to do some physical work, his life skills were a mess. I never take off my clothes and wash them when they are dirty. I don’t even know that I need to brush my teeth when I get up in the morning, or wash my feet when I go to bed at night, let alone cook and wash the dishes.

Maybe it was because of his adoptive mother's kindness. When I asked him to do something, he was a little reluctant, but he still did it one by one.

After being married to him for less than a year, his adoptive mother passed away.

I was pregnant at this time, and the death of my adoptive mother was a great blow to me. It made me very sad, and I sent my adoptive mother away with a very heavy heart.

Soon, our child was born. She was a girl with fair and tender skin. I was full of joy, but he couldn’t see any trace of happiness. What made me even more desperate was that the doctor told us that the child had congenital heart disease .

After taking care of the funeral arrangements for our adoptive mother, we had very little money left, and our adoptive father had already gone out to make a living early in order not to hinder us. The child's medical expenses were not paid, so I had to drag my weak body to take the child home first and then think of a solution.

Poor and humble couples are miserable. Even a penny can stump a heroic man. No matter how loving a couple is, they cannot resist the trouble of living without money, not to mention our already fragile relationship.

The first time, he and I had a heated argument over where to get the money for the child’s medical treatment. The child was not yet one month old, so I discussed with him that he should go out to find work first, as it was important to make money for the child’s medical treatment. But he said that he only knew how to do farm work and nothing else, and he was unwilling to leave home to find work. In anger, I said some unpleasant words to him, and he flew into a rage and smashed the only two pieces of wedding furniture in the house.

There is no money to treat the child's illness, and coupled with malnutrition, he often catches colds and fevers.

Late one night, the child had a fever of 40 degrees. He had convulsions and rolled his eyes at one point. I forced him to take the child to the village health center with me. The doctor at the health center saw that the child was in serious condition and did not dare to admit him. He suggested that he be sent to a large hospital. .

There was no car at night, so he and I walked more than 20 miles with the child in our arms and rushed to the town central hospital in the early morning. When the emergency doctor saw the child, he rolled his closed eyes and said, "You guys are too late." It’s too late, the child is gone.” When I heard this, I suddenly felt dizzy, and my eyes turned black...

sent the child away, wiped away the tears, and life had to go on. This time I proposed to go to the south to work with him. I heard that there were many ways to make money working in the south, so he reluctantly agreed this time.

Our first stop was Zunyi City in Guizhou, because this place has acquaintances from home doing small commodity wholesale business here. We found an acquaintance in our hometown, explained our purpose of coming, and asked him to give us a batch of goods on credit first, and then pay us after the goods were sold. Since they all knew the basics, he readily agreed.

In a strange city, two people with little education went to sell things for the first time, and their hearts felt like they were fetching water from fifteen buckets, and they were very nervous. But I didn't show any fear on the surface. With my firm attitude of no hesitation, he finally began to change.

During that time, he followed me and ran around the streets and alleys of that city with a city map behind me, dragging heavy packaging bags.

Life, when you pay seriously, it will always give you some small surprises inadvertently! But if you don't pay attention, he will slap you unexpectedly.

When we return home for the Chinese New Year, we finally have some savings on hand. I plan to renovate the old house at home during the Chinese New Year so that my elderly adoptive father can enjoy his old age at home.

I don’t know since when, he came home and met some unreliable friends. They drank and played cards together all day long, secretly behind my back, and lost most of our little savings. At that moment, I felt sorry for him. I was really disappointed, I even thought about divorcing him!

Maybe God likes to play a joke on me. At this time, I was pregnant again. After thinking about it, I had no choice but to give up the idea of ​​divorce.

Although I am pregnant, I still plan to go out to work with him, because I am really worried about letting him go out alone. Moreover, he speaks straightforwardly, which not only easily offends people, but also affects business.

This time we came to Huzhou in Zhejiang. With the little money we had, we wholesaled some small hardware commodities, because setting up a stall does not require any special skills. I don't have much ability, but I can endure hardships and stand hard work. I go out early and come back late every day. I even set up a night stall to avoid the urban management.

There is no overnight feud between husband and wife. If they can both look for problems within themselves and think more about each other, even if they are hard-hearted, they will be melted one day.

Maybe it was my hard work every day with a big belly that made him realize his conscience. He asked me not to go out and set up a stall again before the child was born. He said that even if he earned less alone, he would not starve my mother and me. After hearing what he said,

suddenly had the urge to cry. Although he has many problems, he is also a miserable person. If I don't treat him better, he may really have nothing.

After the child was born, she was still a girl, and I was still full of joy. After experiencing the misfortune last time, this time, he cherished the child even more.

Before our children went to elementary school, we made a living by setting up a stall. He also let me keep the income, and he also gave up his addiction for many years.

After the children went to school, he asked me to take care of them at home while he worked hard outside. I thought about how miserable life would be for a person with no one to talk to, and he couldn’t cook or wash clothes, so I discussed with him how to get a driver’s license, bought a minivan, and had sex in front of my house. goods.

Fast forward more than ten years, my daughter is in graduate school, and he is still driving a car as always. I do odd jobs in factories in the town to support the family, and I like to plant flowers and grass in my free time. Three years ago, we bought a commercial house in the town. Although our life was not rich, it was everything I had dreamed of.

Some people compare marriage to a school, and women are the best teachers in this school. I firmly believe this.

My marriage was worse than a pile of chicken feathers at first. All I could choose was to patiently pick up the chicken feathers one by one and work hard to weave them into a more beautiful feather duster.

Happy marriages are generally the same, but each unhappy marriage is unhappy in its own way. Not all unhappy marriages can solve their problems through divorce. Sometimes, taking a step back can lead to a brighter future.

Postscript: This story was created by the author based on the real experience of his friend. In order to protect the privacy of his friend, his real name has been hidden in the article.