all say that marriage is a turning point in life, and it also determines the rest of your life to a large extent, so you must be careful and prudent when getting married, and you must also think carefully about it, and don't let it happen because of temporary hot-headedness, or Marriage is chosen because of impulse. If some things are not resolved before marriage, they will eventually show up after marriage. Eventually, conflicts will break out, leading to the breakdown of the family's relationship, ranging from regret to divorce. Live again.
Therefore, it is very important to see each other clearly before marriage.
Some people say that the most important thing when choosing a partner for marriage is to choose the other person’s family. If the other person’s family is considerate, considers each other in everything, and knows how to be reasonable, then a lot of trouble can be avoided, and it can also help in the future. Life is getting better and better, but if the other person’s family is unreasonable or has some unacceptable bad habits and customs, then it is better to get married. After all, the future life is inseparable from the attitude and attitude of the family. Those who are connected, only if their hearts are together can they live a better life in the future and make their marriage happier.
However, all this is inseparable from your own choice!
Miss Wan, 32 years old
Miss Wan is 32 years old. When she was young, she always wanted to find a man with good conditions and wanted to make her married life happier, but over the years, although she has always had her own I have my own standards and requirements, but I haven't met anyone who is suitable for me. I have been in a few relationships, but in the end they didn't work out. The longest relationship lasted for half a year and finally broke up.
In fact, regarding the matter of marriage, although Miss Wan is getting older, her mentality is still very firm. She always believes that her marriage should have an emotional foundation and a certain material foundation. , if she cannot meet her own requirements and chooses to make do with starting a marriage, she will get divorced even if she gets married. No matter what her parents say, she has never lowered her standards.
When talking about Miss Wan’s requirements for marriage, she said:
“I am in my thirties, and my partner can be a little older than me, or a few years older than me, but it cannot be more than five years old. Otherwise, how will you support your old age in the future? You can get married a second time, but you can’t raise children. If you need to take responsibility for your own children, then you must at least have the financial strength. I didn’t marry to live a hard life. My salary is 10,000 yuan. Above, the appearance should not be too fat. In addition, the parents of the family are healthy and have their own pension. I cannot rely entirely on me for retirement. The bride price is 160,000. If I want to have children after marriage, I will have to wait until I am 35 years old at least. When the time comes, I still want to work hard on my career in the past few years. If I can work it out, I will have a stable job after giving birth to a child at the age of 35. If I can’t work it out, then I will be a housewife after the age of 35.”
Ms. Wan. In fact, my parents sometimes blame me for my persistence. I feel that everything Miss Wan thinks is too ideal. Naturally, I feel that it is difficult to meet the right person. Even though I have tried to persuade Miss Wan to lower her standards and find someone else over and over again. Marry honestly, but Miss Wan has not chosen to lower herself. Instead, she has continued to look for someone who suits her.
Last year, Miss Wan met Mr. Liu through a blind date. Mr. Liu was older than Miss Wan. Two years old, divorced. He was married once, but divorced soon. After the divorce, he lived alone. Mr. Liu did not have children in his previous marriage. He met Miss Wan through the introduction of someone close to him. Yes, I have to say that Mr. Liu's conditions are very consistent with Miss Wan's, and he also agreed that Miss Wan could not have children after getting married, so this gave the two people an opportunity to have further contact.
After the two people had been in contact for nearly a year or so, they began to discuss marriage. Basically, they followed Miss Wan's requirements, including various gifts, etc., and they all won Miss Wan's. Satisfied, even Miss Wan's mother said:
"Although it is a second marriage, after all, I have been married once. I am quite sensible, and I have good conditions in all aspects, and I am very serious. Just live a good life."
本Thinking that everything would go well, but on the first night of the wedding, Mr. Liu took out a piece of paper, which was an agreement that required Miss Wan's signature. It was precisely because of this agreement that Miss Wan turned around and was about to leave. Just now Once you get married, you get divorced.
There are several agreements in the agreement:
Article 1, property after marriage, except for the daily expenses of the two, all personal wages and income are personal property, and the other party has no right to interfere, even in divorce When the time comes, there is no right to share equally.
Article 2: All property owned before marriage has nothing to do with the woman. The house was purchased before marriage. Although there is a mortgage, it will be repaid with the man’s salary after marriage. The car is fully paid and has nothing to do with the woman.
Article 3: If the relationship does not go well in the future, and the woman takes the initiative to file for divorce, the woman will pay back the bride price of 160,000 yuan.
Article 4: If the woman is unable to have children after marriage, or cannot have children within five years, the man can choose to divorce, but the woman still needs to return the bride price.
Article 5: If the woman is not responsible for the elderly care of the man’s parents, the elderly care of the woman’s parents has nothing to do with the man.
Article 6: If the marriage is separated for a long time due to the woman's reasons, and the relationship is not harmonious, the man has reason to file for divorce, and the woman will return the full amount of the bride price.
Looking at these so-called agreements, Miss Wan began to regret in her heart, and directly angrily said:
"Are you living your life, or negotiating a contract, are you looking for a wife, or are you looking for a partner? The gift is always the same. It's all aimed at me. I will be yours forever after we get married. Did you spend hundreds of thousands to buy me out?"
Mr. Liu said:
"This is the best way for us to get along. It's guaranteed. At my age, if I get married, I will definitely spend my whole life. Besides, the conditions you proposed before were also very harsh, so I didn't mind. You are so old and you still want such a high gift. You are not willing. I have no objection to your request to give birth to a child after marriage and not be responsible for the elderly care of my parents-in-law. The request I made did not harm your interests. It was just to protect our marriage!"
Mr. Liu's words completely broke down Miss Wan! He turned around and wanted to leave:
"I will return the bride price to you when I get home now. If you feel that you are at a loss for the wedding expenses, make a list and I will give you the money! Divorce now, I am not you Bought it!"
After Ms. Wan finished speaking, she looked for a car to go back to her parents' home overnight. After finally telling her parents about the matter, everyone supported her divorce. The marriage ended just after it had begun. In the words of Miss Wan:
"If you are not satisfied with my request, you should have said it earlier so that you would not waste time. You also proposed those unreasonable agreements. Who can accept it? Thanks to him for bringing it up, otherwise I will suffer a loss and want to leave in the future." We can't live without each other! "
However, after this incident, Miss Wan also changed her attitude and gained a new understanding and definition of marriage. As for her previous marriage standards, she also changed a lot.
is written at the end:
Getting married is a very important thing. Before getting married, make good contact, get to know each other well, get familiar with each other, and express each other's thoughts in the most straightforward way. This is A very important thing is to express all your dissatisfaction and unhappiness well before getting married. If it can be resolved, it is naturally the best. But if it cannot be resolved, it is better to make a careful decision and do not delay the other party and do not Divorce after marriage is not worth the gain!
In addition, marriage always needs to be based on emotion. Many material conditions and practical conditions may be regarded as standards by many people, but what needs to be understood is that marriage is ultimately determined by emotion. Don’t overdo it. Rely more on various material conditions, and don't insist on having your own way. Only care about your own feelings, ignore the feelings of the other party, and ignore the essence of marriage. What do you think?
