talks about old people remarrying. The first thing many old people think of is unhappiness. After all, not many old people can be happy when they remarry. But now there is an aunt who says that she is very happy now. Why is it different from others? Others are not happy, why can this aunt be happy?
Let’s take a look at what this aunt said. At the same time, we also hope that through this matter, we will remind all remarried elderly people if you are not happy. You can try this. Maybe if you do this, you will be happy in the future. Let's take a look at this matter together. 67-year-old aunt: After remarriage, we are husband and wife during the day and neighbors at night. This kind of marriage is very happy.
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67-year-old Aunt Li:
Today I want to share this matter. The most important thing is that I see many old people who are unhappy after remarriage. If you are not happy, I think the way you deal with it is wrong. I am very happy the way I am now. If you live like this, I think you will also be happy.
Let me talk about my personal experience. Lao Zhang and I remarried two years ago. I was asking about this with Lao Zhang, but my children didn’t agree with it either. When you choose to remarry, I believe your children will also disagree.
My child told me, he is already so old, why do he still have to go through so much trouble? Can’t you live well by yourself? Why did you remarry? You lived well alone before, which is already very good. Why do you want to get married again? Do you think you will be well off after remarrying? What if you have a bad day? What if life is even worse than before?
If that's the case, it's better to live alone. Are you feeling bad now? Why did I choose to remarry? Isn’t it because I feel empty? Before I got remarried, I lived alone. I didn't dare to sleep at all at night. Sometimes I get scared when I hear the slightest sound. Don’t think that I am like this. I believe other elderly people are like this too. The older you get, the more scared you become.
Sometimes there is water dripping in the bathroom. It can affect my sleep, not to mention that I live next to the highway. If someone passes by, or sometimes someone is drunk and curses there. will be affected by these things. And sometimes I feel very scared. This is how people are, once they are scared, they will think about many things.
In order to avoid these things from happening. I'd rather choose to remarry. Then I got together with Lao Zhang. If my children don't agree, that's their business, and their future life is my own. After we remarried, Lao Zhang and I were husband and wife during the day, but we were neighbors at night.
During the day, the two of us help each other. When cooking, two people cook together, and when doing hygiene, two people also do hygiene. When we have time, we will go for a walk together. In the eyes of others, we are a loving couple. I feel the same way, we are very affectionate during the day.
will not quarrel because of anything, let alone abandon each other because of something. During the day we are a perfectly qualified couple. Sometimes to cook what I want to eat. Lao Zhang would even go to the vegetable market to buy some for me. Sometimes if he couldn't buy it, he would go to a far away vegetable market to buy it. How many men can do this?
My life during the day has made me very satisfied. There is Lao Zhang during the day. It enriches my life. At night, we become neighbors. I can't stand him grinding his teeth , and I can't stand him going to bed without taking a shower. Of course Lao Zhang couldn't stand it either, and I kept turning over. I would move around when I couldn't sleep, and I would always be kept awake by little things.
Sometimes Lao Zhang can affect me even when he gets up and goes to the toilet. In order to avoid these things from happening, we had better sleep separately. Soon after we got married, we slept separately and became neighbors. The relationship becomes better as neighbors. In this way, the two of us can rest well.
Many people say that if you remarry, you should live together. I don’t think it’s necessary, there’s no need to be too forceful about these things. As long as two people live happily, it's fine. Do you think that if two people live well, why would they care if they sleep together?
Who said that those who sleep together will definitely be happy, but those who sleep together may not necessarily be happy. I'm afraid that Lao Zhang will disturb my sleep, and Lao Zhang is also afraid that I will disturb his sleep. Moreover, Lao Zhang can't stand my moving around, and he always thinks that I am a weird person. If the two of us could barely sleep together. There will definitely be a fight, I've tried it before.
got into trouble because of little things. It may even cause everyone to have trouble sleeping because of this matter. So let’s sleep separately. It’s nice to be neighbors at night. We are neighbors at night. From now on, if you respect me, I will respect you. He lives in the room next to mine. If something bothers me, I can just call him and he will come over. In the same way, if he has something to do, I will call him. Can pass.
This is a reliable neighbor. There is no need to say that they must sleep together. Ever since he and I were husband and wife during the day and neighbors at night. Our lives are much better. I just can't figure out why other people have it bad. There must be a reason why
is not doing well. There is no need to think that this will break you up. If you can't get through this, what's the point of being together? What's more important is that only in this way can we have happiness. Older people more or less have some problems of their own. Just like me now, I don't like others to disturb my sleep. I need to be very quiet before I can sleep.
If I get together with Lao Zhang, I will always be woken up by him. Of course, he will also dislike me. Lao Zhang thinks I am too much trouble and always quarrel with him over little things. I had never slept separately from him before. In other words, we were not neighbors at night before. There are always fights.
One night I couldn't sleep. I tossed and turned there. I couldn’t sleep without telling Lao Zhang. It was past 1 o'clock in the evening and I still couldn't sleep. Then Lao Zhang got angry. Lao Zhang told me, it’s been a whole night, why are you still here tossing and turning, if you don’t want to sleep, go to sleep quickly, don’t affect my sleep, I still have things to do tomorrow, you sleep every day , why don't you let me sleep?
It turns out that Lao Zhang was also affected by me. I felt aggrieved, and then I became motionless. It was past 2 o'clock and I still couldn't sleep. I don't know what's going on. Normally I should be able to fall asleep, but now I still can't fall asleep.
At about 2 o'clock, I really couldn't bear it anymore, and I moved around again. Then I accidentally kicked Lao Zhang with my foot. Now Lao Zhang was directly angry. Lao Zhang said angrily to me, I finally fell asleep, what's the matter with you waking me up now?
If you don’t want to be with me, just tell me directly. There is no need to torment me like this. It’s not the first day we’ve been together, and you’re like this every day, why don’t you let me rest? As you get older, you need to get some rest. How can we rest well when you are like this? If you don't want to sleep or can't sleep, just go out and don't torment me here.
I feel helpless when facing these things, even though Lao Zhang is my remarried husband. And our relationship is pretty good, but we always make noises at night over little things. It's okay to toss and turn when you are just sleeping, but if you are still awake late at night, it will easily affect others. And I don’t like Lao Zhang going to bed without taking a shower.
Lao Zhang told me that I had already taken a shower yesterday and there was no need to take a shower today. It’s troublesome to fall asleep every day, and I don’t have time to sleep. What’s more, I don’t even think I’m dirty. Then why do you say I'm dirty?
Anyway, as long as I don’t feel dirty, it’s fine. If I feel like this, I will take a shower. If you dislike me and don't want to be with me, just go outside. Isn't there a room next door? Just go and sleep next door. It won't affect you if you go next door.I got mad and I walked out. This is not the first time. Sometimes Lao Zhang goes back to the room without washing his feet.
Everyone knows that some people have athlete's foot , including Lao Zhang. That's how he is. That foot smells so bad that even threw it on the bed. It stunk the quilt. Gradually, I no longer want to stay with him. During the day, he was fine. At night time. The two of us always quarrel over little things.
Gradually, our relationship became unstable. In order to change this situation and for us to live a happier life, we decided unanimously. Let's be husband and wife during the day and neighbors at night. During the day, we are husband and wife. We will be very affectionate during the day, as mentioned above. Cook together, go for a walk together, buy groceries together and so on.
Even if I have anything to do, he will help me do it. Of course, at night, we are neighbors, the kind of neighbors who respect each other and treat each other as guests. What's going on? He will help me. But I will not be married to him.
When we don’t get together as a couple at night, I find that we have fewer quarrels. If it were in the past, I would always be noisy because of some small things. I would be fine living alone, but when I was with him, I would be noisy, which would be bad for everyone. But since he and I became neighbors at night, we no longer had any noise. We also had a beautiful life. We were happy during the day and peaceful at night.
And he was right next to me, making me feel more stable than ever before. Because I know something is going on and I can tell him. I am no longer afraid of not being able to wake up when I fall asleep at night. I used to be very afraid of this. Don't say I'm afraid anymore. I think many old people are afraid.
Now I am not afraid anymore, he is right next to me. And he also told me that if we couldn’t fall asleep while chatting, we could come out and chat. If you feel sleepy, go back to sleep. This feels good and happy. My children also knew about it, but they didn’t say much because I lived happily with Lao Zhang and we have been together for a long time now.
except that it was not easy at the beginning. We are living very well now and we are living happily now. I heard that I will also tell this matter. The purpose is to let everyone know that in addition to being a couple around the clock, we can also be a couple during the day and neighbors at night.
Being willing to give up does not necessarily mean that we have to be husband and wife around the clock. Sometimes we can also be neighbors at night. Sometimes separation is for a better reunion and a better life, just like what I am now. During the day we are a loving couple, and at night we are neighbors who treat each other as guests and respect each other.
If you look like this, you are very happy and good. You respect me and I respect you. You are good to me and I am good to you. This is enough. If you can do this, I believe you can also live happily. The old man's remarriage does not mean that he will not be happy, it just depends on how you handle these things. If you handle it well, you will definitely be happy.
Conclusion:
This is indeed the truth. They are husband and wife during the day and neighbors at night, which is also good. They can be very affectionate during the day. Respect each other at night. Treat each other with respect. This is enough. There is nothing to worry about when you are older. As long as you live a life like this, it is okay.
became an aunt in the article and now lives so happily that his children have no objections. If possible, I would also like to be like this in the future. As long as we are happy, it will be fine. We are husband and wife during the day and neighbors at night. This is quite good.
What do you think? If it were you, would you do this? Anyway, I think the purpose of being together is happiness. If we can be happy, that's fine.There is no need to mind couples who are together around the clock. Even if they are husband and wife during the day and neighbors at night, it is fine. As long as there is happiness, that's fine, isn't it? Being together is for happiness. As long as we are happy, that's enough. Even if we are husband and wife during the day and neighbors at night, it's okay.
