Some common sayings may sound reasonable at first glance, but if you think about them carefully in certain scenarios, they may not necessarily make sense. I remember that when I was working in a previous company, there was a sister in the same group as me. She was what people cal

There are some common sayings that sound reasonable at first glance, but in certain scenarios, if you think about it carefully, they may not necessarily make sense.

I remember that when I was working in a previous company, there was a sister in the same group as me. She was what people call a "good old lady".

She will bring food to the whole group during team building, and will respond to anyone's requests for help without reciprocation. However, her kindness did not receive the same friendly response. Instead, she received an almost opposite attitude - her colleagues could directly complain that the food she brought was not delicious, completely ignoring the hard work she had to carry all the way; When criticized, she directly complained that she was not helpful enough, and ignored her eyes that turned red because she was trying to help.

She doesn’t seem to care much about these unequal responses, and laughs at them every time someone talks about it. But the final result is - she is the busiest in the company, performs the heaviest tasks, but receives the most criticism in the group - she won't be angry anyway, so everyone wants to say something to her.

In fact, there are many people who understand her, but because their own interests are not involved, and it is difficult to directly conflict with those who bully her, they secretly hope that she can be like the domineering heroine in the TV series and gain enlightenment as soon as possible. Fight back. However, ideals are ideals after all, and there is always a difference between reality and reality. In the end, this sister did not fight back aggressively, but quietly packed up her things and left at a particularly ordinary noon.

As for the real reason for leaving, my sister didn’t say anything. She just left a message in her circle of friends saying “I’ve stayed enough, I’ve seen it through”, and then posted a photo of her packing her things and putting them at her workstation. However, the reaction of people in the office next was really outrageous.

First of all, some people who have my sister’s WeChat account publicly read this post in their circle of friends, with a tone of ridicule and full of disdain. Then the people around them used the topic to talk about the way my sister usually behaves. However, what makes me sad is that instead of hearing reluctance and gratitude in someone's tone, there is a sense of contempt - it feels like my sister's inner kindness is completely defined as "stupid" by these people!

In reality, there are many such strange scenes, which will always shake your outlook to pieces inadvertently - kind people are defined as "stupid" when they show kindness, but some people who do not care about people's feelings and are casual The person venting is praised as "straightforward" - and then every minute you are left questioning "what's wrong with the world".

Now, I still clearly remember the faces of those people at that time - there are people who my sister has helped more than once, there are also people who usually claim to be best friends with my sister, and even the leaders of the group. None of them regretted their sister's departure, but they just consciously and rationally came to some conclusions that seemed reasonable - "poor people must be hateful" and "her own attitude determines other people's attitudes towards her".

Of course, I admit that their two "conclusions" are reasonable. I also know that my sister's final departure also had her own reasons. But when faced with these people's comments, I sincerely feel how people can be so shameless - bullying others without even making sense!

There is nothing wrong with kindness in itself, but it has been distorted by some fallacies. - Is the reason why you bully others because they are soft-tempered? In the end, the responsibility is put on the other party - does the weak one have to apologize to you because of his own abilities?

No matter how reasonable the saying is, it is unreasonable to abuse it at will. is just like what happened to my sister - even if someone has the word "disgrace" written on their face, no one has any right to bully them at will!

Nowadays, people praise "kindness with an edge". At the time, I just thought it made sense, but now it seems that the first person who said this must have experienced the same despair as my sister. - countless Their ingratitude and countless attempts to push themselves to the limit have made people no longer dare to simply do good deeds.However, I always feel that compared to the good people who have no edge, those who have no morals and brains, and take it for granted after bullying others are more pitiful, because the former are at least worthy of sympathy. As for the latter, there is no need for sympathy - because they are not only pitiful, but also really hateful!

Of course, the end of the story is nothing special - because after a while, I also left - after all, it was uncomfortable to stay in a place with different views. I later cut off contact with those people who commented on my sister with high-sounding expressions at that time, because I didn’t know what kind of fallacies they would use to challenge my three views again - after all, I am also a layman, and I can’t stand their shock. Shocked away.

As for goodwill, I still recognize it. I also believe that in this huge world, there is always a pure land that conforms to my own three views - there, there are clouds of grateful people and gatherings of people who do good deeds.