"Have you ever been in love?" "Isn't this nonsense? Who would do a solo these days?" "It's the kind that lasts for many years..." "Ha, I thought you were talking about fast-food love!" "Ah. , this..., don't do this kind of thing." "Hey, I heard that you have been in love for four

"Have you ever been in love?"

"Isn't this nonsense? Who is still maternal and solo these days?"

"It's the kind that has been in love for many years..."

"Ha, I thought you were talking about fast food love. "

" Ah, don't do this kind of thing. "

" Hey, I heard that you have been in love for four years? Now, "

", you are doing your own thing? ”

Xing Fei choked up for a long time.

"I want to hear about your sincere love history. If you feel uncomfortable, don't forget it."

It was very sweet at first

"No, I can share my long-distance relationship story with you."

" I always felt that my love was so strong that it couldn’t be compared to the distance of thousands of miles? ”

“Are you far away? ”

“It’s okay. I think some people can have cross-border relationships. At the end. "

" Maybe that's an exception. I didn't realize it until I experienced it. "

" It's just a long-distance relationship. It's not like we can't see each other. "

" You want to talk to me this night? This is really sad. "

" This kind of story makes me feel better. I'm so looking forward to it! "The day Haotian was admitted to the diplomat, he came to see me very happily.

As soon as I saw him from the subway entrance, he couldn't wait to run towards me and hugged me.

I almost thought I was privately married for life

The nice smell of mint on his body suddenly entered my nose, and I knew it was the smell of his commonly used body wash.

Before I could say anything, Haotian couldn't wait to tell me: "Baby, I got admitted to the school I always told you about. It's great. My goal has been achieved!"

The coastal city has a warm climate. There was a rush of people and huge potential for development, as well as mentor professors that he liked.

He is very good at English. When he was preparing to take the diplomat exam, he told me that he must go there, otherwise he would not want to go anywhere.

I sincerely congratulated him on achieving his goal and finally getting what he wanted;

At the same time, I told him that I also successfully entered a local university. After we were happy, we decided to find a restaurant to treat ourselves to a treat. Own.

Growing together

Until after dinner, we did not mention the issue of how to deal with long-distance relationships. Maybe we can overcome the distance in the next four years of college, and this is not the first time we are in a long-distance relationship.

looked at him aggrievedly. The smile on his lips was still about getting into the university where he had his ideal goal.

We were young at that time and never knew how big of a problem distance would be.

The first year of college, maybe not the first year, because we started missing each other crazily as soon as we separated.

I have video calls with Haotian every night. Because he is very busy during the day, he always hides in a quiet place for half an hour at night to video chat with me.

Most of the time I was talking about what happened today and what the instructor said today.

Haotian listened silently most of the time, and occasionally responded with a few words. Sometimes he would tell me to listen to the instructor and remember to put on more clothes when the weather was about to change.

At this time, I will sincerely say that I am very grateful to the development of high technology, which allows us to chat as if we were face to face. Haotian said, but baby, I really want to touch your head now.

I wanted to cry all of a sudden. Haotian seemed a little at a loss and said from the other side of the screen that he would come and see me during the next vacation.

He coaxed me for a long time, until I burst into laughter and finally breathed a sigh of relief.

When we are not on the phone, we will share what delicious food we ate today, what good songs we listened to, and how many interesting books we read.

So sweet

"Wow, it's quite romantic!"

"I feel so sour!"

In the first year, I went to his city four times and he came to see me six times.

We all believe that the final outcome will be that we are together.

"Did you know? He is so outstanding that he has a junior sister who is passionately pursuing him in a different place."

" Ah, yes, I overlooked this point. In terms of loyalty, how can a boy resist the temptation of a junior sister who is younger than him! "

" Ah, this, I didn't think much about it at first. "

In the second year, Haotian told me not long after school started that a junior sister was passionately pursuing him. He also said that I firmly rejected her when she confessed her love. His tone of asking for praise made me want to laugh. .

But I still praised him: "We Haotian are so awesome, I will definitely give you a kiss next time we meet." "

I didn't tell him that a senior student pursued me when I started school. Because I refused without mercy, he never gave me a good look.

I just want to share my happiness and my life. I don't want to He had to worry about me while he was busy.

Soon, he told me hesitantly that he added the girl’s WeChat account because the girl looked so pitiful and kept begging him. He also said that he was just an ordinary friend. I'll ask some questions later.

I didn't accuse him. I know he has always been a soft-hearted person. Besides, he told me that he must have thought about it for a long time.

There's no point in blaming him anymore. I just told him, Be careful.

But not long after, I found that Haotian and I chatted less and less. We used to video chat almost every day, and then it became one video every three days due to busyness, but recently he didn’t call me for a week. I called him.

I asked him what he was doing recently. He was just too busy to send messages.

But I was busy too. He was in college. But I still took the time to greet him and pay attention to him. Weather, go share your own moments.

Beautiful moments

I sent a message to Haotian at the beginning of the movie. It took a long time after the movie ended, but I didn’t get a response.

"This is obvious. There is someone else! "

" I didn't believe it at the time! "

I thought at the time it was because the movie was too short and he didn't see it, rather than anything else.

"I always understood that he was busy! "

Later, I quietly logged into his WeChat account and found that he and the girl talked a lot every day. At first, she just complained about how difficult it was to go to college and complained that the food in the cafeteria was unpalatable. She went to Moments to like and comment.

Later, Haotian had many replies. When we started talking, she would sometimes talk about her favorite bands and things from the school supermarket. She said that you were really similar and that you liked the same things.

After I finished reading the chat, their records were very formal and there was no ambiguity in every word. , but my heart still felt a little cold.

"Ah, in this case, he may not remember that you can still log in to his WeChat! "

" Later, did he find out? "

" No, I didn't say it, I kept it to myself! "

Haotian, I believe you know that losing the desire to share is the beginning of separation.

When you see and hear things, the first thing you think of is not me, but another person.

It's like, I am not You need me, I am no longer the one who is tilted in your heart.

It’s uncomfortable.

"So, you showed your hand later?" "

" Yes, I can't stand this kind of deception! "

" I remember very clearly that I had a big fight with him that night and forced him to delete the girl. He was a little angry, but he still deleted it. "

Then, Haotian said: "Baby, you are a little unreasonable. We are obviously innocent, right?"

I understood in a moment that distance is really a terrible thing. I was hysterically angry on the other side of the screen. , he couldn't feel anything on the opposite side, and he could tell you very calmly that it was you who was making trouble unreasonably.

A feeling of powerlessness enveloped me, and he finally said: "Let's calm down. "

" Later we met! "

It was almost October 1st, and he came to see me from school. Although he was angry, I still went to pick him up.

I stood at the airport waiting for a long time, thinking about how to speak, but when I saw him, I still Without saying anything, Haotian hugged me again, but this time the smell that hit my nose was no longer mint, but lemon.

"I miss you so much, I suddenly broke my guard!"

held back what he wanted to say. I asked him why he changed from shower gel to . Didn't he always like the mint flavor of that brand?

Haotian waved his hand nonchalantly and replied that my junior sister bought it during the promotion. I bought more as a gift to him. He thought they were all from the same brand, so he used them.

"Oh my god, he mentioned that junior sister."

"We started arguing again."

I don't understand.

Everything seems to have laid the foundation for breaking up.

When we were eating, he suddenly put some vinegar in it. It was also a new way of eating that his junior sister taught him. He thought it was pretty good.

It is always just a small thing that defeats feelings.

"It turns out that I am the redundant one."

Later, when he went back, I proposed breaking up. He didn't agree with it, and didn't understand what he had done wrong. He didn't understand a good relationship, so how could we just break up? broke up.

He has never understood that long-distance relationships are actually something that requires a sense of security. Because each other is not around, they need to be double careful.

The strangeness caused by the distance is the biggest problem in long-distance relationships, because we cannot share our joys and sorrows, and cannot embrace our laughter and tears.

I don’t know how you are living there, or whether you are in a good mood, so I always ask you and want to know.

I saw a beautiful cloud and I want to share it with you. I also want to recommend it to you if you eat delicious food. In this way, the next time we chat, we will always have some consistent topics.

"So sharing with each other is actually a very important thing. For any long-distance relationship, care and warmth may be beyond reach, but indifference and alienation can come over mountains and ridges."

You see, when you find another person When you talk to someone, you will gradually forget that there is someone on the other side of the screen waiting for a good night or a message.

It’s like there is nothing wrong with your life without me. You are still happy when you are happy, and you are still sad when you are sad. And these have nothing to do with me.

"Ah, it's so uncomfortable. I think he's too much!" A lyric that

liked very much in the past: "For this reason, I spent half a year's savings to travel across the ocean to see you. For this reunion, I even I have practiced breathing repeatedly.”

In fact, at the end of this song, the two of them separated.

always says that what you love is across mountains and seas, and mountains and seas cannot be leveled.

"Feifei, I know, it's not true. All mountains and seas can be leveled. What's hard to level is that you are in a long-distance relationship. Suddenly you find that I have been teaching you how to make me happy. You find that you are a failed lover." "

" can be understood like this. "

" Thank you for sharing your story with me! "

" Promise me to love life and love yourself well. "