How did the so-called "older leftover women" become "leftover"?# Are you still thinking: There are more men than women in China? The ratio of 100:130 means that there are about 30 million boys in China who will not be able to find girlfriends? If this is the case, have you ever t

Are you still thinking: There are more men than women in China? The ratio of 100:130 means that there are about 30 million boys in China who will not be able to find girlfriends? If this is the case, have you ever thought about why you were left alone? If not, you can follow me to find the answer!

First of all, if the ratio is 100:300, girls do have an advantage over men at the marriageable age, but what causes some people to be left behind is not a matter of proportion, but because of their cognition and requirements! First of all, these girls require boys of the same age to have a car, a house and savings when they get married. However, boys of the same age generally have just started working or have just graduated a few years ago. If they do not rely on their family, they cannot afford a car or a house at all, so I can only make money for the time being and then think about getting married. Do girls who make these demands automatically get left behind?

Secondly, although they look down on people of the same age who don’t have a car or a house, can those around 30 who have a car, house and savings be okay? No, they will think that they are over 30, so what if they have a car, a house and savings? He is no longer a potential stock, his health is not as good as that of a young man, and his personality is too calm. There is no sense of humor or fun in living together, so it is not suitable! As soon as this idea came up, it was left behind again!

Then, many girls now spend whatever they earn, and there is no pressure to buy a house. If they can support themselves, they think they are very good. If they can cook a few dishes, they feel that they are good wives and mothers. They just want to find a house and a car. Those who have savings can just move in with their bags and get there in one step! But even if I rent a house by myself, take the bus and subway by myself, and the conditions at home are very average, I still feel like a baby in my 30s! They still look down on young people of their own age who had no cars, houses or savings. Although they are getting older, they don't feel that no one will want them at all. Don't they all say that life has just begun at the age of 30 in Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou? However, the young people they once looked down on now have houses and cars after more than ten years of struggle. They look back and want to compromise with the person they once looked down upon, but others no longer look down on them!

Finally, in reality, I really want to advise everyone. If there is a boy of the same age around you who likes you, tolerates you, works hard and is motivated, seize the opportunity quickly! Don’t be influenced by the idea that girls shouldn’t be too proactive. Don’t miss out on anything you think is suitable! Because if you really wait until others have everything, then others will only choose younger and more beautiful girls instead of older leftover girls who have nothing. Don't think that men become bad when they have money. Who used youth as capital to despise young people of the same age who have no cars, houses and savings? Did they ever think that they would be left behind? You have to know that a good love and marriage requires less selfishness and more sincerity to start a period of happiness and inheritance!

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