I have just divorced, one is a bachelor and the other is self-employed. I have opened a store in a commercial street for three years and have a relatively good relationship with my neighbors, Brother Zhang and Brother Li. Brother Zhang and Brother Li have opened a store in the commercial street for five years. They were the first batch of merchants to settle in the commercial street after it was completed.
Brother Li's children go to school in the city, and his wife accompanies them to study. He only goes to the city to accompany his wife and children on weekends, and he can barely be considered a bachelor. Brother Li and I often eat together. Two bachelors often worry about what to eat for lunch. Brother Zhang and his wife each own a shop not far away. Brother Zhang usually goes to his wife's shop to eat.
Due to the different business scopes of the three of us, Brother Zhang can be said to be a know-it-all in the commercial street, and he is very popular. There is no merchant in the commercial street that Brother Zhang doesn't know. It is no exaggeration to say that Brother Zhang walked from the main entrance of the commercial street to his shop, nodding and saying hello along the way.
One day, Brother Li thought about it and said: "It's been a long time since we had barbecue. How about we ask Brother Zhang next door to make our own barbecue?" The three of us are Xinjiang , and we are familiar with barbecue. All preparations are in place, I light the fire, Brother Zhang cuts the meat, and Brother Li pierces the meat.
After a while, the delicious and delicious barbecue had entered the mouths of the three of us. Brother Zhang usually likes to drink some wine. At this time, he was eating happily and said: "Eating meat without drinking alcohol is equivalent to feeding the dog" . He took out a bottle of liquor from his shop and drank some wine with Brother Li to cheer up. Both of them have a good drinking capacity. . Brother Li naturally accompanied Brother Zhang to drink. As for me, I'm allergic to alcohol and never drink.
The three of them ate with great enthusiasm, and the two good brothers drank to their heart's content. You had a cup and he had a cup, and they were very happy. When we had barbecue, it was already past dinner time. The owner of a nearby store returned to the store after dinner. He passed by and said hello to Brother Zhang and Brother Li. The three of us are hospitable, so naturally we invited each other to have some food and drinks together. This invitation didn't matter, as more and more people gathered together. The barbecue we prepared was only enough for four to five people, and none of the three of us dared to do so at this time. When we eat again, we try to let every friend who comes over not only eat a full meal, but at least let them eat two or three skewers and try our barbecue skills. We invite all the merchants we pass by to have a try. After all, the merchants have all eaten before, and they don’t eat too much. It’s because of our invitation to sit down and chat. About a dozen business friends came.
Brother Zhang and Brother Liao are responsible for drinking with the new friends, and I am responsible for barbecue. After the meat and wine were finished, everyone left happily and went back to their respective stores. Brother Zhang was so drunk that he fell asleep on the chair. Brother Li's drinking capacity was a little better, but it only supported him to walk back to the store. I didn't drink, so I was naturally responsible for cleaning the "battlefield".
I packed everything up, Brother Zhang and Brother Li had already woken up, and the three of us sat together and chatted. All three of them felt a little hungry. Only then did we realize that none of the three of us had eaten a few skewers of barbecue. Brother Zhang and Brother Li only invited their new friends to eat meat and drink wine. As for me, I just kept grilling meat. There were three of us in the AA system, and we wanted to have a good time, but none of us ate well, but we drank well, and two of us got drunk.
The three of us just chatted. Brother Zhang said: "My friends saw us having a barbecue, and you said not to invite them. We are embarrassed. If we invited them, we didn't eat well ourselves. It's no one's fault." Brother Li: "Yeah, even my friends couldn't see it. When we invite people, our friends will definitely think that we are stingy and don’t even dare to say nice things. Moreover, our friends have already had lunch and only eat two or three skewers at most, which is considered as accepting our hospitality.” I said, “Yes, that’s right. When you invite someone, you have to insist on letting your friend eat a few skewers. Otherwise, if you don’t insist on the invitation, your friend will definitely think that we are being hypocritical.”
For us, we can't forgive people. We were having a barbecue and a friend stopped by. We couldn't help but say hello, right? You should at least invite friends over for some food. Besides, my friend had already had lunch and couldn’t eat a few skewers. Once we send out an invitation, we must let our friends eat a few skewers before giving up. Otherwise, it would appear that our invitation is insincere.
As a friend who passively accepted the invitation, he naturally couldn't bear to face our hospitality. Even if he had a very full lunch, he would sit down and eat at least one bunch, or sit down and chat with us for a while without eating. It gives us face. If a friend refuses to eat a skewer, will our friends feel like we are being slapped in the face? Doesn’t it mean that you don’t give us face?
I just remembered that in the TV series " conquers ", Song Huhu invited Liu Huaqiang to have dinner. Liu Huaqiang later said a very classic sentence: Brother Song, you asked me to come today to give me face, and I can come because Give you enough face. The same goes for in our barbecue today. I ask you to eat to give you face, and you come and take a bite to give me face .
There is nothing wrong with the inviting party or the invited party, and there is nothing wrong with eating or not eating. Why is things so complicated?
