Parents are the wall between us and death.
Because your parents are still alive, you will always feel at ease, as if there is a wall firmly standing between you and the god of death.
But once your parents leave, you will face death and clearly see the end of your life.
01,
At the condolence scene for my 91-year-old aunt, my cousin cried heartbreakingly. I stopped her several times, but I also fell into endless sadness.
"Where should I go during the Chinese New Year this year? If my mother is gone, I won't be able to go home..." my cousin kept repeating.
My cousin is also a grandmother. Her husband died early and her children are all married. She helps raise her grandchildren in Chengdu.
As long as someone comes to express condolences here, the family members will kneel down with them and pray. When the kneeling is over, they can stand up.
My cousin couldn’t afford to cry, so I tried to persuade her not to hurt her body by crying. My cousin’s son was very sensible. Whenever someone came in, he would be the first to kneel with him. He wouldn’t get up until everyone got up. When he saw his mother crying, In this case, the child hugged his mother very sadly.
My cousin has been telling me that every Chinese New Year, she tells her son and daughter-in-law that she wants to go back to her hometown to spend the Chinese New Year with her mother. Because her mother is here, she can have a strong reason. Regardless of whether the daughter-in-law wants it or not, she has a reasonable reason. The reason for returning to my hometown to celebrate the New Year has not changed in more than 30 years.
She said that only when she goes home and her mother is here, she feels at ease. She said that she is looking forward to the New Year and the holidays because it is the day to go home, and there is nothing more meaningful to her than this.
My uncle passed away many years ago, and now my aunt has also left. My cousin, who is over 60 years old, is like a child because she has no parents.
Her son has been hugging his mother sensibly. My heart aches very much.
As the old saying goes: If parents are alive, there is still a way to go in life; if parents are gone, there is only a way back in life !
In life, no matter who we are, we only have the identity of son or daughter in front of our parents.
When our parents' bodies are stable, our hearts will be stable; if our parents are happy, our hearts will be happy.
02,
The tree wants to be quiet but the wind doesn’t stop; the child wants to be raised but cannot be kissed.
Confucius said: "If your parents are with you, if you don't travel far away, you must travel in the right way."
Perhaps when you were young and vigorous, you couldn't understand the continuous thoughts in your parents' hearts, and you didn't understand the principle of spanking, scolding, and love.
Many regrets will remain in the quiet years until one day they are awakened by inner uneasiness. Perhaps, there is no chance of regret.
Writer Maijia When he was a child, he stayed away from his father in anger because of his father's slap.
One day he was very anxious and uneasy, and when he wanted to reconcile with his father, his 81-year-old father suffered from Alzheimer's disease.
The father looked at Mai Jia, staring at him with empty eyes, and held his hand forcefully: "Can you let my second child come back and see me?"
Mai Jia shouted, "Dad, I am the second child!" "But the father just kept repeating: "Where is my second son? Let him come back and never hit him again..."
At this time, the Mai family wanted to have his father slap him a few more times, and he grabbed himself hard. His head and heart have been crushed and bleeding...
After his father passed away, the Mai family found that their heart hurt when touched, because one corner of the heart was damaged and could no longer be repaired to its former perfection.
Parents and children are connected by blood, but sometimes, they are so cautious even in missing each other.
03,
To truly love your parents, you must be kind and cheerful.
We always give our best emotions to society and express our inner resentment to our parents.
I don’t know since when, going home to visit my parents has just become a reasonable gimmick. No one helps my parents cook, but they play with their mobile phones with their heads down. After eating, the cups and plates are messy, which will only make the parents feel extremely melancholy.
And they are looking forward to the next time their children come home. They are always disappointed, but they still hope to see their children. As long as they see their children, it is the greatest comfort to them.
As parents ourselves, do we feel the same sense of loss?
Many parents are careful about what they say in front of their children, for fear that their children will be unhappy. Don’t we feel guilty?
When people reach old age, they have fewer material requirements. What they need is companionship and greetings.
Don’t look down on your parents. Go visit your parents when you have time. Even if you cook a meal and wash the dishes for them, if you really need something, don’t be stingy with a phone call or a video.
Small actions will nourish your soul and help you sleep soundly.
Ever since my father got cerebral infarction , I never dare to turn off my phone at night, for fear that I will disappoint them when they are needed. I try not to leave empty regrets, because this can be avoided.
In life, parents often become more cautious, timid and submissive as they get older.
Yu Dan once said: When children have money, it is easy to buy cars and houses for their parents, but what is difficult to do is not to look down upon their parents.
To truly be filial to your parents, you should look kind, smile from the bottom of your heart, and make them happy.
04,
Where parents are, even the world is so gentle.
Confucius said: "One must not know the age of parents. One is joy, the other is fear.
When parents are here, there is still a place to come in life. When parents go, life is still there. There is no way back!
He had strict family rules. Whenever he made a mistake, his mother would punish him with a cane.
Han Boyu did not follow the family rules when he was middle-aged, and he accepted every punishment
. When his mother taught him a lesson that day, he burst into tears.
His mother felt strange: "I didn't see you crying when I beat you before. What's the reason for this?" "
Han Boyu cried and said that every time his mother hit him, he had strength, but today, there was no pain. He felt that his mother's body was not as good as before, and he was afraid that the chances of being beaten would become less and less in the future. He hoped that his mother's cane would always be as strong as before.
When our parents are around, no matter where we are, the lighthouse will always shine in our hearts;
The day our parents are gone, the lighthouse will go out, and there will be no one to guide us home.
Our parents are the most ordinary people. , have never seen the big world, have not read any books, and have not received any formal education, but with such parents around us, we will feel at ease.
Where our parents are, even the world is at ease. It is so beautiful, so gentle, so kind.
There is a kind of faith that keeps you going without worrying about being homeless.
