Compared with complimenting a woman on her beauty, complimenting a woman with "feminine" is more valuable.
Because beauty is beautiful, it only stays on the surface. It may be lost over time. It may also be due to the law of diminishing marginal utility of and the dilution of appearance at the beginning. Stunning.
But "femininity" is different. It is the taste engraved in a woman's bones. There are thousands of styles in every gesture. The so-called beauty is in the bones but not in the skin. This is the truth.
"Feminine" women may not have much advantage in appearance, but their charm can often stand the test of time.
will make people unable to stop, will make people linger, will make people never forget, will make people continue to be addicted.
Therefore, we must become a "feminine" woman.
Psychological research shows that women with these "smells" are particularly attractive and irresistible to men.
Powerful taste: Even in adversity, you will always be positive
TV series "Come on!" Zhu Luxi in "Mom" has been pampered since she was a child. She has never made a decision on her own. She has always followed her parents' arrangements and grown up in a honeypot.
When her husband ran away because of tax evasion, she also panicked because she didn't know how to raise her children by herself.
However, the desperate situation did not defeat her.
Zhu Luxi likes to do manicures and has artistic talent, so she borrowed some money from her parents, bought a manicure shop and started doing it herself, so that she could have enough food and clothing.
As for that bad marriage, Zhu Luxi chose to cut her losses in time, because if she wanted to start a new life, she would naturally have to get rid of those terrible people.
Therefore, and because of her perseverance, she is very popular among ski instructors.
There is a classic line in "The Shawshank Redemption": "Everyone is his own God. At any time, the only one who can really pull you up from the abyss is yourself."
Those who are in adversity can still People born toward the sun have strong resilience and will not give in to fate. This kind of resilience is a fatal attraction for men.
Positive taste: Pay attention to the sense of ritual and love life
We often say that no matter whether life is poor or rich, whether it is ordinary or trivial, this life is always for yourself.
There is a kind of woman who is particularly delicate.
is like Anjie in the TV series "Parents' Love". Even in the countryside, even though her life is impoverished, she still maintains an exquisite life.
When drinking tea, use a tea cup, and when drinking coffee, use a coffee cup.
This is not pretentious, it comes from a person's ritual sense of life.
Some people think that the sense of ritual is just moaning for nothing, but only those who have experienced it know that this is not moaning for nothing, but an attitude towards life.
Haruki Murakami said: "Ritual is a very important thing. People who pay attention to the sense of ritual can live a sunny life even if their life is boring."
In other words, paying attention to the sense of ritual is a person's innermost The positive manifestation of this is that no matter what kind of environment you are in, you will not let your emotions and opinions be affected by the things around you.
When you are with such people, slowly, that positive attitude towards life will assimilate to yourself.
The taste of confidence: never belittle oneself, know the world but not be sophisticated
We accidentally fell down while walking on the road. At this time, we will be particularly embarrassed and embarrassed, because we always feel that the people around us are whispering and laughing at ourselves. Looking at himself with strange eyes.
In fact, others just glanced at us and did not stay too much on us. It was us who amplified other people's reactions.
This is the spotlight effect in psychology, that is, amplifying other people's views of oneself and overestimating one's status in other people's hearts.
In fact, this is also a manifestation of lack of self-confidence. They cannot tolerate a little mistake in themselves, and such people often do not dare to be unsociable.
Correspondingly, there is another kind of person:
They like to be alone no matter what they do. They deal with social relationships with a casual attitude. They can have it or not;
They never care about others. I don’t like to take the initiative to disturb others, and I don’t like others to disturb me. People like
are unsociable people, but in fact they are very full and confident inside. They will not let themselves live in other people's mouths. They are living a minimalist life according to their own ideas.
wrote in " One Hundred Years of Solitude ": "Life has never existed independently without loneliness. Whether we are born, we grow, we fall in love, or we succeed or fail, until the end, loneliness exists in the corner of life like a shadow. . ”
Therefore, when they are confident, independent and unsociable, they have a lot of time to spend with themselves. In this way, they will be closer to their inner selves and it will be easier for them to gain inner peace and tranquility.
