Sanmao wrote in "Hollow Man": "All people are just hollow people at first. The so-called self is just a vague shadow. It depends entirely on other people's life experiences in books, paintings, music, and movies to find direction and use their own Fill it with experience and grad

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Author: Chen Xihe (Fushu columnist)

Sanmao wrote in "Hollow Man":

"Everyone is just a hollow man at first. The so-called self is just a vague shadow, relying entirely on books, paintings, music, The life experiences of others in the movie bring out the direction, and they fill it with their own experiences, gradually becoming a solid person. "

's growth from a hollow person to a solid person is a process of precipitation. How does

start to precipitate itself? You can try these 9 good methods recommended by "People's Daily".

Keep exercising

I have heard a saying:

"Exercise is an investment that no one will regret. When you start to fall in love with exercise, your health will also fall in love with you."

Exercise is the secret to staying healthy, and it can also change your mood. Be more happy.

Research has confirmed that exercise stimulates the brain to secrete something called endorphin , which helps the body synthesize dopamine and serotonin , and these are chemicals that can make us feel happy.

People who like to exercise and exercise regularly can get rid of the effects of negative emotions such as depression and irritability more quickly.

Exercise and non-exercise lead different lives.

Instead of envying other people’s health and happiness, it is better to exercise yourself.

Even if it is just 5 minutes a day, it will be closer to the state you want than sitting or lying down.

read every day

Recently, Dong Yuhui has made "cultural live broadcast" popular with his good eloquence.

Netizens questioned whether a team had prepared a manuscript for him in advance.

In response, Dong Yuhui said:

"Such a simple copywriting does not require preparation in advance. What each teacher speaks out in front of the camera depends on the books he has read over the years."

His emergence from the circle is just like Charlie Munger said:

"There is not a single smart person from all walks of life I have met in my life who has not read a lot of books - none, not one."

Read a good book, that is Talking to top experts. Get the most advanced growth strategy at the lowest cost.

Every time you read a book, it is like putting a coin in your pocket.

Slowly save one by one, it seems insignificant, but as time goes by, you will be the one with a lot of money.

Even if life is full of difficulties, you can still live a free and bright life without panic.

At that time, you will eventually thank yourself for studying hard.

An optimistic attitude

A person's life has ups and downs, and it is an uneven road connected by "U" shapes one after another.

The more you are in a trough, the more you must look towards the bright future.

The writer Lu Yao devoted six years of hard work to complete the first part of "The Ordinary World".

However, even the editor who had always admired him refused to publish it. It was finally published, but it was rejected by critics.

However, Lu Yao did not give up, but insisted on finishing the second and third parts.

Later, "The Ordinary World" was highly recognized by readers, and Lu Yao also ushered in the highlight moment of his life.

The wind can blow out the candle, and it can also make the fire burn brighter and stronger.

If you regard suffering as a kind of training, fate will return you all kinds of gentleness.

Patton has a famous saying:

"The measure of a person's success is not the height when he reaches the top, but the resilience when he falls to the bottom."

If you want to come out of the abyss, you can always rely on it. It can only be you.

When facing hardships, the only skill is to have an optimistic attitude and endure it with determination.

As long as you move forward bravely, the difficulties you once faced will eventually turn into the scenery behind you.

Continuous learning

stock god Buffett once said: "If a person wants to achieve extraordinary achievements in his life, he is destined to be inseparable from reading and lifelong learning."

Life is always caught off guard, and the future is only unknown.

Every thought of wanting to learn is your future self asking you for help.

Please never stop learning, because life never stops changing.

Learn to throw away outdated knowledge, skills and experience, constantly upgrade your thinking, broaden your boundaries, and improve your business.

When the tide of the times hits, others are afraid of being beaten to death by the waves, but you have a lifebuoy to ride the waves.

Lifelong growth is the most beautiful aspect of life.

Focus on

The young man asked Chess Master Wu Qingyuan: "How can I improve my chess skills?"

Wu Qingyuan smiled without saying anything and raised his hand to invite the young man to take a seat.

After the chess game started, the young man asked again: "How can I advance to the next level as soon as possible and compete against the masters?"

Wu Qingyuan then replied: "You have to focus and play the game of chess well."

Ordinary people have distracting thoughts and just want to win; Masters, on the other hand, know how to concentrate and succeed naturally.

In fact, it is not difficult to succeed in . What it requires is an extremely focused heart.

Psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, after a lot of experiments and research, came to a conclusion:

"Success, like happiness, is not obtained by pursuit. It is about a person who devotes himself wholeheartedly to one thing. A by-product of forgetting yourself. ”

If you are fully immersed in one thing, you will not feel anxious and bored, and you will even forget the passage of time.

Living every moment seriously is the best fulfillment of life.

Work and rest routine

A British school once conducted a sleep experiment, and 46-year-old Sarah was one of the volunteers.

sleeps 8 hours a day. Her eyes are firm and her body is full of strength.

After sleeping for only 6 hours for five consecutive days, her skin began to become saggy and her whole body lost energy.

After just five days of lack of sleep, she seemed to be a different person.

The biggest difference between people is not their ability, but their different work and rest.

Live a regular life, refuse to overeat and insist on proper exercise, and your body will be full of energy.

Reversing morning and evening, irregular meal times, and staying up late to catch up on work will not only harm the body, but are also a sign of lack of self-control.

Maintaining a regular schedule can solve 80% of life's problems.

Do it seriously when you work, play happily when you are free, and sleep peacefully when you sleep.

Don’t let work take over your life, let alone life squeeze your sleep.

People who have a regular schedule have their own fragrance in their souls. This is a happier life.

Enjoy being alone

On Zhihu , there is a very hot question: Why are the better people, the less gregarious they are?

’s upvoted answer is this:

“Because for excellent people, if they socialize too much, their satisfaction with life will be reduced, and being alone allows them to clearly know what they want, so they can have a high-quality life. .”

Being alone is the best luxury for adults, and it is also the most expensive period of appreciation for a person.

The better a person is, the more he can enjoy solitude and enrich himself in solitude.

We are also at home, and some people have nothing to do; some people have cleared their backlog of unread books and studied the courses they have been putting off.

What really widens the gap in life is your attitude when facing loneliness.

Please cherish those uninterrupted moments and enjoy yourself in solitude.

Beware of arrogance and impetuosity

Chen Zhongshishi said: "Whenever you encounter good things, don't be arrogant. If you are too arrogant, there will be disaster."

There are mountains outside the mountains, and there are people outside the mountains. As a human being, you must never get carried away.

The more prosperous the situation, the more we must guard against arrogance and impetuosity.

If you overestimate your abilities due to temporary achievements, it will only blur the distance between ideals and reality, and you will not be able to go far if you cannot see clearly.

They all say that life is like tea. If you want to learn something new, you must drink it with an empty cup and make room for it.

Those who are truly capable can endure loneliness and maintain prosperity.

is not eager for quick success, overconfidence, or high-profile, and always maintains a humble heart.

Only by lowering your posture and acting within your capabilities can you reach higher places.

Make good friends

Studies have shown that humans are the only animals that can accept suggestions.

Those closest to you are quietly assimilating you, affecting your future destiny.

Just like Han Han said:

"How far a person can go depends on who he has with him; how good a person is depends on who he has to guide him; how successful a person is depends on who he has with him. Accompany you. "

There is no pressure when you walk with the mediocre, but you will become more and more narrow-minded, and even laugh at those who work hard;

Walk with the outstanding, and their words and deeds are always spurring you and helping you. Break your own conservatism and stubbornness and become a beam of light on your way forward.

Good birds choose good trees to live in, and people also choose good friends to make friends with.

For the rest of your life, please stay with high-quality friends, learn from each other's strengths and achieve mutual success.

There is a famous " lotus law ", which talks about this phenomenon:

It takes 30 days for lotus to bloom to fill the entire pond, but the time for half of the pond to bloom is not the 15th day in the middle, but close to The 29th day of the end.

Precipitate yourself, that is, like the lotus, know how to continuously accumulate strength.

Invest time and energy into your long-term goals, work quietly, and wait slowly.

and so on accumulate to a certain extent, and you will naturally welcome fragrant flowers to bloom all over the pond.

Like, I hope you can cultivate yourself and precipitate yourself in the uncertain years, and become a shining person both internally and externally.

About the author: Chen Xihe, the columnist of Fushu, who makes a living by writing and lives by the water, a person of Fuxiaoshu, this article: Fuxiaoshu, the best best friend around you, Fushu 2018 launches a new book "Good Life" 》