One sentence is enough to ruin a relationship. Two days ago, a friend of mine went to drink with me and complained to me, saying that my friend, Brother Yang, was getting a divorce. What did I say? What he said was actually a very small thing. He and his wife were having a little

One sentence is enough to ruin a relationship.

Two days ago, a friend of mine went to drink with me and complained to me, saying that my friend, Brother Yang, was getting divorced. What did I say? What he said was actually a very small thing. He and his wife were having a little trouble. In this hurry, I told my wife how tiring it would be to just raise a child. You are much more comfortable than many people. At this sentence, he burst into tears and then filed for divorce from me. At the time I thought he was speaking out of anger. As a result, after so many days, no matter whether I apologized to him or made amends, he still insisted on getting a divorce. Brother Yang, you said this woman is so narrow-minded. When I heard what he said, I told him that you really don’t understand. This is not because your wife is being petty. In fact, the biggest harm in marriage is that you trample on the other person's efforts. How tiring can it be to take care of children? This is the biggest incomprehension and neglect of a husband towards his wife. Your words are enough to make the other person feel cold for a lifetime. In fact, it can break up a relationship, either because of poverty or cheating.

Either you don't understand him, or you have a sudden temper. They have been holding grudges for too long. The closer the relationship, the more fragile it is and cannot withstand the harsh words of the other party. Many relatives and friends get into conflicts with one sentence, and that sentence is an unbearable burden for the other party. For example, if you tell your parents, didn’t you give birth to me and raise me just so that someone can take care of you in your old age? Once you say this, your parents will feel cold for the rest of their lives. For example, another woman said to her husband, look at her husband, he is much better than you, has a higher income than you, and takes care of his family. Just say one word and you can make this man feel cold for the rest of his life. Some men say things to their wives. If you don’t think you are messing around, you look like a yellow-faced woman. These words hurt so much. She doesn't do housework and have children for you, but she can act like a master. There are some things that need to be seen through, not revealed.

Being able to speak is an ability. It is wisdom to know how to shut up. In life, we often blurt out words that offend others without thinking or thinking. I regretted it very much afterwards. Come on, let me teach you two techniques. When you want to blurt out something that hurts someone simply and rudely, you first ask the other person what you think, what are your plans, and what are you going to do? At this time, you can immediately switch to the other person's position, and you can quickly understand his needs. Then if you say it again, the decisions you make will not be so hasty and self-righteous. A question in a matter of seconds can change your behavior and results. The second point is, according to the other party’s position and needs, say what he likes to hear first, then what he can hear, and finally. What do you want to say. Because when people communicate, the brain always accepts your emotions first and then your content. When you are in a bad mood, no matter what you say is right, the other person will not listen. So when you communicate with others, be sure to observe their emotions.

While expressing your content, when you find that his mood is not right, you should immediately stop expressing your content and then find ways to relieve his mood. A sentence that makes people laugh or a sentence that makes people jump often represents the wisdom behind you. Follow me and be a wise and honest person.